Jump to content

  • Welcome to Celiac.com!

    You have found your celiac tribe! Join us and ask questions in our forum, share your story, and connect with others.



  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A1):

    Celiac.com Sponsor (A1-M):

  • Get Celiac.com Updates:
    Support Our Content
    eNewsletter
    Donate

When Invited Out For Dinner?

Lisa

By Lisa
in Gluten-Free Restaurants

Recommended Posts

Lisa Mentor
Lisa
Posted

I have reached the 6 month part of being gluten-free. I do wonderfully well at home and my family does not mind eating gluten free. They don't even know unless they see me eating dinner.

Even with close neighbors, I find it very difficult to ask soooooo many questions about how they prepared the food. I now know what is safe and what is not (pretty much). I have offered to bring a dish that I can share. I ask about the gravey, they said corn starch, ok. Didn't ask about the seasonings on the beef. As I watched the gravey spoon go into the mixed veggies, I though, hummm. I get some eyes rolling as well.

Close friends, I will tell, that when I get glutened, I have 10 seconds to get to the bathroom.. and sometimes it takes 15 seconds to get there. That usually result in a lack of response.

People are really trying to be helpful. I appreciate the effort on my behalf, but how in the world do you overcome good hearted people trying to be helpful when they really don't have a clue.

THE QUESTION IS; HOW DO YOU HANDLE BEING A GUEST FOR DINNER????? :blink::blink:

Lisa

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):
Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8-M):


ianm Apprentice
ianm
Posted

I always ask what they are planning to serve and then explain the situation. I then tell them what I can eat and how it shoudl be prepared. Most of the people I know now seem to get it. If they really don't get it I just decline the invitation.

VegasCeliacBuckeye Collaborator
VegasCeliacBuckeye
Posted

Sounds crazy but go with what you said...

"If I get glutened, I have 10 seconds to get to the bathroom, so what are you cooking and how are you making it???"

Don't worry about being assertive...

It is far more offensive for them not to disclose to you what they are cooking since it may hurt you than it is for you to ask how they are preparing dinner...

You would think if they were friends, they would want to tell you -- I wouldn't want to hurt one of my friends....

Lisa Mentor
Lisa
Posted
  • Author

It is just so frustrating. I have talked about this too much, but my daughter is getting married and we have many friends give Annie and her fiance parties. I have been dealing with this for only 6 months and many do not know, but they also have to feed the masses. I am sure that my issues are not on high order. I have talked to the caterer and will make sure that I can eat something at the reception. Sorry about the wedding cake. Eating cake would only be symbolic for me as I don't feel that is important to me.

I guess that is not so much a worry for me, because when I go to parties I talk more than I eat anyways, to my periodic regret :unsure: .

I think that the key here is to just eat what you are possitive is safe and forgo the others. This can be really pissy sometimes. Any other suggestions?

elonwy Enthusiast
elonwy
Posted

Carry a big purse. I always have snackums, cookies, cheese sticks, etc, I've even brought my own crackers to parties. Ask for a plate or just find a safe spot. I've got no patience for people who can't deal with it, myself. I only eat at friends houses that I trust ( total people:2) and every one else I bring my own stuff. That way they aren't inconvienienced, and I'm not sick. I have more people over at my house now, cause then I just cook gluten free, and they eat what I make, in my house, no gluteny gifts allowed. Sometimes it sucks not to be able to eat stuff, I've got no advice for that part, cause sometimes... it just sucks.

Elonwy

tarnalberry Community Regular
tarnalberry
Posted

There's no special technique, you've just got to ask. Don't assume it's a bother, or will annoy them; assume that they're happy to keep you healthy. If they're not, well... that's an important piece of information to know about a 'friend'. Let them know that you're not trying to be annoying about it, you're just cautious.

kabowman Explorer
kabowman
Posted

Our holiday dinner party, I asked the bosses wife, how she prepared the food and what she added to each item--I appologiezed for having to ask but thanked her very much for her answers. Other times, I can tell right away and snack on my own food that I brought. Sometimes, I know up front there will be no food and I bring my own and re-heat it there and then eat with everyone, just my food. I even take my own drinks most places otherwise, I only trust the water. No problems yet, except for a little eye rolling which I don't care too much about because the alternative is to get sick!!! Really, I don't even get comments because everyone knows how many problems I have because, really, socializing has food so unless you don't socialize, it will come up.

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):
Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8-M):


Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

Go to topic listing
  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A19):


  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      132,021
    • Most Online (within 30 mins)
      7,748
    maltawildcat
    Newest Member
    maltawildcat
    Joined
  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A20):

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      121.5k
    • Total Posts
      1m
  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A22):



  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A21):


  • Who's Online (See full list)

    • There are no registered users currently online

  • Upcoming Events

  • Posts

    • sleuth
      Nicotine Gum For Gluten Symptoms.. Am I Crazy?

      By sleuth · Posted

      He is not just a psychiatrist.  He is also a neuroscientist.  And yes, I have already read those studies.   I agree with benfotiamine.  This is short term while glutened/inflammation occurs.  As I had already mentioned, these symptoms no longer exist when this phase passes.  And yes, I know that celiac is a disease of malnutrition.  We are working with a naturopath.
    • knitty kitty
      Nicotine Gum For Gluten Symptoms.. Am I Crazy?

      By knitty kitty · Posted

      Please do more research before you settle on nicotine. Dr. Paul New house is a psychiatrist.  His latest study involves the effect of nicotine patches on Late Life Depression which has reached no long term conclusions about the benefits.   Effects of open-label transdermal nicotine antidepressant augmentation on affective symptoms and executive function in late-life depression https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39009312/   I'm approaching the subject from the Microbiologist's point of view which shows nicotine blocks Thiamine B1 uptake and usage:   Chronic Nicotine Exposure In Vivo and In Vitro Inhibits Vitamin B1 (Thiamin) Uptake by Pancreatic Acinar Cells https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26633299/   While supplementation with thiamine in the form Benfotiamine can protect from damage done by  nicotine: Benfotiamine attenuates nicotine and uric acid-induced vascular endothelial dysfunction in the rat https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18951979/   I suggest you study the beneficial effects of Thiamine (Benfotiamine and TTFD) on the body and mental health done by Dr. Derrick Lonsdale and Dr. Chandler Marrs.  Dr. Lonsdale had studied thiamine over fifty years.   Hiding in Plain Sight: Modern Thiamine Deficiency https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8533683/ I suggest you read their book Thiamine Deficiency Disease, Dysautonomia, and High Calorie Malnutrition.     Celiac Disease is a disease of malabsorption causing malnutrition.  Thiamine and benfotiamine: Focus on their therapeutic potential https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10682628/
    • sleuth
      Nicotine Gum For Gluten Symptoms.. Am I Crazy?

      By sleuth · Posted

      Thanks for your response.  Everything you mentioned he is and has been doing.  Tobacco is not the same as nicotine.  Nicotine, in the form of a patch, does not cause gastrointestinal irritation.  Smoking does. He is not smoking.  Please do your research before stating false information. Dr. Paul Newhouse has been doing research on nicotine the last 40 years at Vanderbilt University Medical Center.  
    • Jmartes71
      Fighting for a name

      By Jmartes71 · Posted

      Im so frustrated and still getting the run around trying to reprove my celiac disease which my past primary ignored for 25 years.I understand that theres a ray of medical that doctors are limited too but not listening and telling the patient ( me) that im not as sensitive as I think and NOT celiac!Correction Mr white coat its not what I think but for cause and affect and past test that are not sticking in my medical records.I get sick violently with foods consumed, not eating the foods will show Im fabulous. After many blood draws and going through doctors I have the HLA- DQ2 positive which I read in a study that Iran conducted that the severity in celiac is in that gene.Im glutenfree and dealing with related issues which core issue of celiac isn't addressed. My skin, right eye, left leg diagestive issues affected. I have high blood pressure because im in pain.Im waisting my time on trying to reprove that Im celiac which is not a disease I want, but unfortunately have.It  has taken over my life personally and professionally. How do I stop getting medically gaslight and get the help needed to bounce back if I ever do bounce back to normal? I thought I was in good care with " celiac specialist " but in her eyes Im good.Im NOT.Sibo positive, IBS, Chronic Fatigue just to name a few and its all related to what I like to call a ghost disease ( celiac) since doctors don't seem to take it seriously. 
    • trents
      Celiac getting dentures

      By trents · Posted

      @Martha Mitchell, your reaction to the lens implant with gluten sounds like it could be an allergic reaction rather than a celiac reaction. It is possible for a celiac to be also allergic to gluten as it is a protein component in wheat, barley and rye.
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

NOTICE: This site places This site places cookies on your device (Cookie settings). on your device. Continued use is acceptance of our Terms of Use, and Privacy Policy.