Starting To Worry About Having Kids Now

[soulcurrent]

After reading the signatures of various parents here, I'm starting to worry about having kids. It seems like so many celiac parents have kids who are positive for it and have a dozen other allergies and various health problems. Am I wrong? Please tell me I'm wrong.

[taweavmo3]

Well, it turns out that I may have actually married another Celiac, but didn't know it until recently So, that may explain why all of my children have to be gluten free. So don't let my siggy scare you from having kids!

Another thing though....I used to work in a children's hospital, so I think that helped put a positive spin on the entire Celiac diagnosis for me. I know the diet can be hard on the kids at times, and my son's psoriasis is a pain, but if this is ALL they have to deal with in life, then we are still incredibly lucky.

There are so many unknowns when deciding to have children, that pretty much anything could scare you out of it. But sometimes in life you just have to jump in feet first and see where it takes you. More often than not, you learn so much from the challenges that you wouldn't change things even if you could. That's my take on it anyway!

[taweavmo3]

P.S......love your haiku. Too funny

[soulcurrent]

P.S......love your haiku. Too funny

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[soulcurrent]

There are so many unknowns when deciding to have children, that pretty much anything could scare you out of it.

That's the truth. To be honest I'm not 100% sure I ever want to have kids but I'd rather have the option than not. The more I think about it the more it scares the bajeezus out of me and adding this on top just made it scarier.

[Ahorsesoul]

Seems it would be scary to not be able to have kids and find out later in life you could have if you had been gluten free.

[tarnalberry]

I'm 13 weeks pregnant, and still find the idea that my husband and I are responsible adults capable of raising a child INCREDIBLY FREAKY! Wait as long as makes sense for you, but I wouldn't let celiac stop you. Sure, some kids will have additional intolerances, some won't. You do your best, and you'll find that your best is only good enough, but good enough is all that matters. (Well, that's my general theory in life, but I'm hoping it translates to kids too. )

[soulcurrent]

I'm 13 weeks pregnant...

Congrats to you then!

[foodiegurl]

We have a 4 1/2-year old daughter, who is so far negative for Celiac and has no allergies. Hope that helps

[Ahorsesoul]

I'm 13 weeks pregnant,

Congratulations Tarnalberry!

[Pattymom]

I have 4- 3 are gluten free, only one has other food issues. all are wonderful ( except when they aren't) Having children is a wonderful amazing thing, and there are no guarentees that they will or wont' have any given issue, if you are already gluten free that would actually be an problem to handle.

what I think I wanted to say, if you want children, have children-it is so worth it, however they come.

Patty

[Gemini]

That's the truth. To be honest I'm not 100% sure I ever want to have kids but I'd rather have the option than not. The more I think about it the more it scares the bajeezus out of me and adding this on top just made it scarier.

I opted to not have children but I think it was because, deep down, I knew there was a problem with me and I had to concentrate on finding out what it was instead of focusing on having kids. I ended up so sick, I seriously doubt I would have been able to carry to term. By the time I was diagnosed, I had gone through menopause so the decision was made for me.

I do not regret my decision and am just happy I have pretty much gotten my health back. My husband and pets are my family and it is entirely possible to live childless and be happy. However, if you have any yearnings to have kids, I would say have at least one and don't sweat it. If God meant for you to be a parent, it will happen and you won't regret your decision. It would be sadder for you to have not born a child and then had major regrets later in life. You have to be comfortable with whatever you decide to do.

Tarnalberry......I offer my congratulations also and hope you have one hell of a healthy bambino! I'm sure you will....you're gluten-free!

[Donna F]

After reading the signatures of various parents here, I'm starting to worry about having kids. It seems like so many celiac parents have kids who are positive for it and have a dozen other allergies and various health problems. Am I wrong? Please tell me I'm wrong.

I haven't read everyone's response here, but just wanted to tell you that I have 5 children and none of the have Celiac disease. In fact, no one in my family has ever had it either. But even if they did, my own personal experience with Celiac - having recovered so well and feeling great 99% of the time - I wouldn't hesitate to have children b/c they might inherit it. If they showed symptoms of it, you'd be the first to recognize them! Those would be lucky kids

[RobynJ]

We are thinking of having another child and we talked about this. I am not saying this is "right" for everyone- but our thinking is even with all of my ds allergy and health problems we are still grateful he is our little boy. I think for us saying we don't want to have any more allergies or related health problems is like saying it would be better for that kid not to live than have to deal with this.

I guess I don't think that when my son is older he would say that he would have rather not lived than have had to deal with his allergies. Does that make sense?

Also, because of my son's issues I will know what to look for in future children so hopefully we will be able to catch any intolerance or celiac sooner.

[soulcurrent]

We are thinking of having another child and we talked about this. I am not saying this is "right" for everyone- but our thinking is even with all of my ds allergy and health problems we are still grateful he is our little boy. I think for us saying we don't want to have any more allergies or related health problems is like saying it would be better for that kid not to live than have to deal with this.

I guess I don't think that when my son is older he would say that he would have rather not lived than have had to deal with his allergies. Does that make sense?

Also, because of my son's issues I will know what to look for in future children so hopefully we will be able to catch any intolerance or celiac sooner.

That makes sense, but that same argument applies to lots of things.. and because it does i'm going to stop there because I almost always have opinions about these things that people don't like.