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Thanksgiving Troubles...

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summerteeth Enthusiast
summerteeth
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I have two Thanksgivings to go to on Thursday. My fiance's family has their Thanksgiving all day, so we will be going there early in the morning and later in the afternoon. My parents have theirs at precisely 2:00.

My fiance's family has no patience for my eating habits. None. Adam (my fiance) thinks they care, but his mom is one of those people who thinks "just a little can't hurt". So we are going there early and later. I need to bring my own food for the earlier portion because NONE of it will be safe. She never cooks, she ordered dinner from a local restaurant, and I just got off the phone with them and they told me that nothing is safe, not even the cranberry sauce.

I could use some help with ideas on what to bring to their house for me to eat while they are eating. My mom is doing the whole gluten free shebang, so I don't want to fill up, but I don't want to be rude and not eat. I can bring leftovers after we are done at my parents, but I have no clue on what to bring for the early part.

Any ideas would be wonderful and greatly appreciated!

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Salax Contributor
Salax
Posted

Maybe snack on some fruit and nuts. I would keep it light so you can eat your moms cookin'. B)

Best of luck!

Ahorsesoul Enthusiast
Ahorsesoul
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How about if you and dh decided to just go to each own family's celebration. That way you won't have to deal with his family and his family won't have to deal with your dietary issues. Spending time apart is sometimes nice. It would solve the problem. Each family would have their child for alone time. No matter how old we are we still are their babies.

Do this for two years. On the third year you and dh say at home for your own alone time.

The Gluten-Free Hippie Newbie
The Gluten-Free Hippie
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My fiance's family has no patience for my eating habits. None. Adam (my fiance) thinks they care, but his mom is one of those people who thinks "just a little can't hurt". So we are going there early and later. I need to bring my own food for the earlier portion because NONE of it will be safe. She never cooks, she ordered dinner from a local restaurant, and I just got off the phone with them and they told me that nothing is safe, not even the cranberry sauce.

I don't want to be rude and not eat.

If they have "no patience" for your eating habits, you don't have to be worried about being rude and not eating at their house. For them to say "Sorry, you need to bring your own food to OUR Thanksgiving dinner we're inviting you to, cuz we don't want to bother" is really lame and disrespectful not only to you, but to your fiance as well. If it was me I'd either eat nothing on purpose or just go straight to my own family's place. At least your mom is willing to help you enjoy yourself on Thanksgiving.

*hugs* Sorry you have to deal with all that. :(

Beloved Apprentice
Beloved
Posted

I agree, for them to be so ignorant about a serious condition means they have absolutely no ground to stand on with complaints.

My advice is, fill up on gluten-free goodness, and buy those guys books on Celiac disease for Xmas.

When people are rude like that to me, I generally refuse to go. If they are not going to take my disease seriously then they can stuff it.

If that isn't an option, you could always do plan b - buy something really, really tasty that's gluten free and then make a point of eating it in front of them. :)

Yup Apprentice
Yup
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I have two Thanksgivings to go to on Thursday. My fiance's family has their Thanksgiving all day, so we will be going there early in the morning and later in the afternoon. My parents have theirs at precisely 2:00.

My fiance's family has no patience for my eating habits. None. Adam (my fiance) thinks they care, but his mom is one of those people who thinks "just a little can't hurt". So we are going there early and later. I need to bring my own food for the earlier portion because NONE of it will be safe. She never cooks, she ordered dinner from a local restaurant, and I just got off the phone with them and they told me that nothing is safe, not even the cranberry sauce.

I could use some help with ideas on what to bring to their house for me to eat while they are eating. My mom is doing the whole gluten free shebang, so I don't want to fill up, but I don't want to be rude and not eat. I can bring leftovers after we are done at my parents, but I have no clue on what to bring for the early part.

Any ideas would be wonderful and greatly appreciated!

Monica that is terrible. I would not attend. This condition is not like being a vegetarian (a lifestyle choice). I would send my fiance with a bottle of wine with regrets.

princessjessie Newbie
princessjessie
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I feel the same way with my family... everyone besides my mom and one of my brothers think it is ok to say something is safe for me, and everything will be ok. No, I will not announce that I have just been in the bathroom for a very unpleasant reaction. And like someone else said on here, it

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lovegrov
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Sort of off-topic but cranberry sauce that isn't gluten-free? Turkey that isn't gluten-free unless it's stuffed? The restaurant wasn't being honest with you -- or being overly paranoid. Anyway, you definitely have reason to be paranoid at your fiance's house. I often take something really yummy and quite easy, like steamed spice shrimp with sauce.

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