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Got 'written Up' At Work

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So I talked with my manager last month about the amount of time I've missed since February when I left there in an ambluance and there was absolutely nothing wrong with me.

I told my manager that I never miss work, and that I didn't call in sick one day last year. My manager told me 'oh don't worry about this, you're fine, and you're such a good empoloyee that if you end up missing too much, we can put you on FMLA, but that's way off in the future".

I didn't work yesterday (panicked) and I'm having my oral surgery on Friday. Today my manager "wrote me up" for too much time missed.........my manager said they are doing it to protect me and that if I go on it, it doesn't have to be weeks or months in a row, it can be a day here, a day there, etc. My manager said it's to protect me.

Well, I got off at 3:00 today but can't call the HR department like my manager wants me to because I left my phone charger on my desk at work on FRiday and it's not there anymore, so I have to go to Wally World and buy a new one. I just might pay someone to go do that for me.

Thank you all for all the insight about the big store with huge lights in my other post. You all know I'm a ghost hunter, and the feeling I get in the wal mart we go to (used to), always gave me the feeling of a tortured spirit that I have experienced on ghost hunts.....so it very likely could be the electricity...don't worry I'm not as nutty as I sound. But it's the exact same feeling.

When I got off work just now, I went back to peddler's mall in a huge rain storm and they were playing Elvis singing "Kentucky Rain" on the radio ...they always do that when it rains here...I got out, jogged up to the door and sang Kentucky Rain in my head, went to where the vintage phone was that I wanted over the weekend, picked it up, paid for it and left. SO I'M PROUD ABOUT THAT!

And now I'm thinking maybe just knowing that I have the FMLA to fall back on, or even realizing that I could lose a fantastic job - maybe I can "place that above" the stress or panic I feel. Maybe it will give me something else to think about....knowing I was missing so much work was REALLY stressing me badly. And I haven't had a week's vacation for - get this - 9 years. Long story, the doctor I worked for for 7 years before this job, he didn't allow vacations. He insisted that I accept the pay, so..Also, in 7 years there, I never missed a day, not a one.....maybe this will help me make my brain focus on something else.

What do you all think?

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SIGN UP FOR FMLA NOW!!

Being the queen of FMLA myself, I really must insist! This is the only TRUE way to protect yourself. Write -ups do not protect you! Depending on how your office works you may have to have multiple sessions of FMLA. Also, you can get it backdated to cover the day you were out this week and make your write up disappear, but you are on a time line, so call your HR asap and get the paperwork started. You need INTERMITTENT FMLA so that you don't have to be out for three days in a row....just when you need to.

FMLA is one of the greatest things that came from the Clinton Administration. Without it, I would have been fired months ago!

Now...stop reading this and get signed up :)

lucia Enthusiast
lucia
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It sounds like FMLA may be a good option, if you need it. I'm really impressed you worked for 7 years without a day off, and your commitment to that job will always hold you in good stead in the future.

Sing some more of that "Kentucky Rain" when you get stressed, and do more good things for yourself. It's a rough time, but it won't be forever.

best, lucia

larry mac Enthusiast
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One more good thing. You are fortunate to be allowed to use your FMLA in such a manner.

I work for a cheap company. I had a motorcycle accident a few years ago and was off work for 3

Zeb Rookie
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I'm sorry, I'm new here and don't know your background in terms of health issues. I sounds like you take Valium for an anxiety condition (panic attacks?). Are you also on any antidepressants? If so, just curious if the medicine is helping you. It sounds like it's not giving you much relief and benefit to treat the condition. Maybe you need to up the dosage or get on another AD med. Just a thought. I know, I've been there done that.

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