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I Just Wanted To Give A Shout Out To My Daughter's Boyfriend...


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mommy2krj Explorer

We had her graduation party today (still working on coming to terms with the fact that my baby girl graduated from high school!!!) and it went fairly well. I think we did a fairly decent job with supplying my little guy with gluten free stuff and I made gluten-free Namaste brownies and some gluten-free mini cupcakes so he wouldn't feel left out given there was a cake and cupcakes there. Oh and we had Rudi's buns for his hot dogs (good grief, can we say sticker shock?!?!)

Anyway. I knew, even though he's learning about all of this, it wasn't going to be easy. I mean, who doesn't want cake?

So, I was sitting there, off to the side with him trying to convince him to eat his brownies or cupcakes I made and he was right on the edge of a complete and total meltdown....then my daughter came over with 2 brownies on a plate and told him that Connor was going to come and eat them with him. Not only did he sit and eat something that was completely foreign to him....he had a second one and sat there with my son. Brought tears to my eyes. They sat at their own picnic table away from everyone else and ate their brownies. Man....I know some amazing teenagers!

 

One of her other friends has a sibling that has Celiac and he told her to tell me if I had any questions about anything....to feel free to ask him as they've been dealing with it for a while. :) (Of course, my daughter and her friend have been planning the marriage of their siblings since they were born....they're only a couple months apart....it's cute.)

Anyway....just wanted to give that little shout out....he saved both me and my little guy from what I know would have ended in tears from both of us. Amazing. :)


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Unfortunately, that is also part of the learning experience. There are times when it gets to ya really bad.

 

Good for the boyfriend! That was nice of him :)

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We had her graduation party today (still working on coming to terms with the fact that my baby girl graduated from high school!!!) and it went fairly well. I think we did a fairly decent job with supplying my little guy with gluten free stuff and I made gluten-free Namaste brownies and some gluten-free mini cupcakes so he wouldn't feel left out given there was a cake and cupcakes there. Oh and we had Rudi's buns for his hot dogs (good grief, can we say sticker shock?!?!)

Anyway. I knew, even though he's learning about all of this, it wasn't going to be easy. I mean, who doesn't want cake?

So, I was sitting there, off to the side with him trying to convince him to eat his brownies or cupcakes I made and he was right on the edge of a complete and total meltdown....then my daughter came over with 2 brownies on a plate and told him that Connor was going to come and eat them with him. Not only did he sit and eat something that was completely foreign to him....he had a second one and sat there with my son. Brought tears to my eyes. They sat at their own picnic table away from everyone else and ate their brownies. Man....I know some amazing teenagers!

 

One of her other friends has a sibling that has Celiac and he told her to tell me if I had any questions about anything....to feel free to ask him as they've been dealing with it for a while. :) (Of course, my daughter and her friend have been planning the marriage of their siblings since they were born....they're only a couple months apart....it's cute.)

Anyway....just wanted to give that little shout out....he saved both me and my little guy from what I know would have ended in tears from both of us. Amazing. :)

I got misty eyed, this is a "boy" well on his way to being a fine young MAN.

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Leave it to a teenager to see what most adults don't seem to understand.....that eating gluten-free is not different just because the brownies don't have wheat flour in them.  That's the only part of a brownie that isn't gluten-free.  I think sometimes adults make it harder on kids because they try to explain too much.  There really shouldn't have been any tears because you went the extra mile and supplied your son with cupcakes and brownies. I am sure the special attention paid to your son, by a teenager no less, helped tremendously.  I remember thinking that my older sister's boyfriend was the coolest person alive when I was little.  Now, maybe, there will be no issue with the switch to gluten-free because the boyfriend ate the food too.  What a nice guy!!!!!  :)

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Leave it to a teenager to see what most adults don't seem to understand.....that eating gluten-free is not different just because the brownies don't have wheat flour in them.  That's the only part of a brownie that isn't gluten-free.  I think sometimes adults make it harder on kids because they try to explain too much.  There really shouldn't have been any tears because you went the extra mile and supplied your son with cupcakes and brownies. I am sure the special attention paid to your son, by a teenager no less, helped tremendously.  I remember thinking that my older sister's boyfriend was the coolest person alive when I was little.  Now, maybe, there will be no issue with the switch to gluten-free because the boyfriend ate the food too.  What a nice guy!!!!!  :)

It helps to see others willingly eat what you eat.

mommy2krj Explorer

Yeah....I just thought it was really sweet. Those brownies got raves, too. The only person who said they didn't like them was my daughter. My brother was amazed that they were so good. I, unfortunately, never even got to taste one because they were gone before I had a chance!

shadowicewolf Proficient

Yeah....I just thought it was really sweet. Those brownies got raves, too. The only person who said they didn't like them was my daughter. My brother was amazed that they were so good. I, unfortunately, never even got to taste one because they were gone before I had a chance!

An excuse to make more i think :)


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Ahhhh.  :wub:

mommy2krj Explorer

An excuse to make more i think :)

That is pretty much what I was thinking. I did get to lick the mixers....but wanted to try it after it was cooked too. Dang it! It's just been so hot and I just wasn't hungry yesterday....the brownies, cupcakes and cake weren't even tempting to me! The cold fruit, however.... :)

 

Now she tells me, that the reason we had so much leftover cake is because NONE of the teenagers wanted to eat cake in front of my son!!! They all felt bad. I did make a couple of teenage boys' night last night though, letting them take home almost half a sheet cake and a bunch of cupcakes as we're supposed to be going gluten free as a household. (Though, I did anger my older son because he left with his friend and he asked me to save him a piece of cake and I forgot. I also had no idea that he left because he wasn't feeling well and hadn't actually eaten a piece of cake! Doh!) My daughter and her friends are some of the best teenagers I've ever met. I'm so proud to know these kids...they're amazing!

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That is pretty much what I was thinking. I did get to lick the mixers....but wanted to try it after it was cooked too. Dang it! It's just been so hot and I just wasn't hungry yesterday....the brownies, cupcakes and cake weren't even tempting to me! The cold fruit, however.... :)

 

Now she tells me, that the reason we had so much leftover cake is because NONE of the teenagers wanted to eat cake in front of my son!!! They all felt bad. I did make a couple of teenage boys' night last night though, letting them take home almost half a sheet cake and a bunch of cupcakes as we're supposed to be going gluten free as a household. (Though, I did anger my older son because he left with his friend and he asked me to save him a piece of cake and I forgot. I also had no idea that he left because he wasn't feeling well and hadn't actually eaten a piece of cake! Doh!) My daughter and her friends are some of the best teenagers I've ever met. I'm so proud to know these kids...they're amazing!

wheeelll you know that old saying, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?  goes for good behavior too.!

mommy2krj Explorer

wheeelll you know that old saying, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?  goes for good behavior too.!

:) Thanks. She's been through a lot in her life (her grandpa, uncle, dad and grandma-all on the same side of the family- all passed away pretty much one right after the other. Starting in kindergarten and going through 6th grade) and we've kind of been expecting her to have that teenage meltdown. It never happened though. I had her young too so it's always been a prove to the world I can do this attitude and I did! :) And..she graduated high school with honors. (That's me sticking my tongue out at all the people that looked down on me for being a teenage mom.) I am so very, very proud of my daughter....she amazes me every day!

Now...if I could just get her brother to bring his grades up and work to his potential....I would be one happy mama! :) *sigh* At least he didn't fail any of his classes this year.

Little guy...well...he's just going into 1st grade and still actually likes school so, we're good there! ;)

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:) Thanks. She's been through a lot in her life (her grandpa, uncle, dad and grandma-all on the same side of the family- all passed away pretty much one right after the other. Starting in kindergarten and going through 6th grade) and we've kind of been expecting her to have that teenage meltdown. It never happened though. I had her young too so it's always been a prove to the world I can do this attitude and I did! :) And..she graduated high school with honors. (That's me sticking my tongue out at all the people that looked down on me for being a teenage mom.) I am so very, very proud of my daughter....she amazes me every day!

Now...if I could just get her brother to bring his grades up and work to his potential....I would be one happy mama! :) *sigh* At least he didn't fail any of his classes this year.

Little guy...well...he's just going into 1st grade and still actually likes school so, we're good there! ;)

 

Has your older son been tested?  All first degree relatives should...but your comment about your son's schoolwork made me ask.  You see my youngest tested negative at 13 -- yet his scholastic focus improved exponentially as we became a gluten free home a few years ago.  He also lost his muscle/joint pain that was recurrent since he was a small child.  Not everything improves gluten-free -- but sometimes there are a few surprises once gluten is removed.

 

Fantastic story -- thanks for sharing -- I am a fortunate Mom as well -- my youngest just graduated HS and boy -- that one is tough to fully grip!  He and his pals are another group of stellar young adults...they amaze and entertain me every day!

 

Oh...and gluten-free cakes, brownies and cocoa pebble crispy treats became a staple in our home early on as my older son was diagnosed shortly after me at age 15....removing gluten is tough at any age...but for teens it really cuts into their social activities so I made sure he always had a treat at home or in his backpack when heading out to meet friends -- before long I was making more as he liked to share with his buds.

mommy2krj Explorer

Has your older son been tested?  All first degree relatives should...but your comment about your son's schoolwork made me ask.  You see my youngest tested negative at 13 -- yet his scholastic focus improved exponentially as we became a gluten free home a few years ago.  He also lost his muscle/joint pain that was recurrent since he was a small child.  Not everything improves gluten-free -- but sometimes there are a few surprises once gluten is removed.

 

Fantastic story -- thanks for sharing -- I am a fortunate Mom as well -- my youngest just graduated HS and boy -- that one is tough to fully grip!  He and his pals are another group of stellar young adults...they amaze and entertain me every day!

 

Oh...and gluten-free cakes, brownies and cocoa pebble crispy treats became a staple in our home early on as my older son was diagnosed shortly after me at age 15....removing gluten is tough at any age...but for teens it really cuts into their social activities so I made sure he always had a treat at home or in his backpack when heading out to meet friends -- before long I was making more as he liked to share with his buds.

Everyone in the house has been tested....little guy is the only one who's tested positive. Though, I have to say I was rather shocked that my older son didn't test positive. With all his issues (past and present) I figured he would for sure. Oh and I really hope he gains some focus and loses the joint pain....that would be wonderful! He worries me sometimes.

I'm just going to stay in my little imaginary world that keeps my youngest from getting any older. It was hard enough dealing with my daughter graduating....I can just imagine it's going to be that much harder when my baby graduates. I've got 12 more years before I have to even think about it with him though. :) I'm just crossing my fingers with his older brother! ;)

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Everyone in the house has been tested....little guy is the only one who's tested positive. Though, I have to say I was rather shocked that my older son didn't test positive. With all his issues (past and present) I figured he would for sure. Oh and I really hope he gains some focus and loses the joint pain....that would be wonderful! He worries me sometimes.

I'm just going to stay in my little imaginary world that keeps my youngest from getting any older. It was hard enough dealing with my daughter graduating....I can just imagine it's going to be that much harder when my baby graduates. I've got 12 more years before I have to even think about it with him though. :) I'm just crossing my fingers with his older brother! ;)

 

I think it is the toughest when children or teens don't test positive but have numerous symptoms.

 

All of my children and grandkids are now gluten free with improved health -- I was the first dx'd 4 years ago, followed by my then 18 month old grandson and 25 year old daughter - my 15 year old at the time had been sick on and off for several years with several of the "non-classic" celiac symptoms along with severe gerd/lung issues for 7 solid years.  He decided to try removing gluten and improved immediately -- he has official dx now even tho his initial antibody tests were negative - based on symptom resolution and improved nutrient testing along with the complete inability to consume even minute amounts of gluten cross-contamination plus genes.  

 

That left the youngest son -- 13 at my dx...he never really chose to remove gluten...but because we already cooked most foods at home we evolved into a completely gluten-free kitchen -- mostly because I had to remove so many other items...my husband decided to simplify matters by only eating gluten outside the home.

 

So -- there are four "official" celiacs and two NCGI's along with two hubbys/dads that feel better gluten-free in our family.

 

Thanks again for sharing the heart warming story and hang on -- your older son is going through a rough stage even if gluten isn't a factor.  He may surprise you one day very soon -- I hope so :)

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I think it is the toughest when children or teens don't test positive but have numerous symptoms.

 

All of my children and grandkids are now gluten free with improved health -- I was the first dx'd 4 years ago, followed by my then 18 month old grandson and 25 year old daughter - my 15 year old at the time had been sick on and off for several years with several of the "non-classic" celiac symptoms along with severe gerd/lung issues for 7 solid years.  He decided to try removing gluten and improved immediately -- he has official dx now even tho his initial antibody tests were negative - based on symptom resolution and improved nutrient testing along with the complete inability to consume even minute amounts of gluten cross-contamination plus genes.  

 

That left the youngest son -- 13 at my dx...he never really chose to remove gluten...but because we already cooked most foods at home we evolved into a completely gluten-free kitchen -- mostly because I had to remove so many other items...my husband decided to simplify matters by only eating gluten outside the home.

 

So -- there are four "official" celiacs and two NCGI's along with two hubbys/dads that feel better gluten-free in our family.

 

Thanks again for sharing the heart warming story and hang on -- your older son is going through a rough stage even if gluten isn't a factor.  He may surprise you one day very soon -- I hope so :)

:) Thanks. I need to be reminded that this too shall pass....especially with him sometimes. He's definitely my challenging one. I just have to remind myself that even when he's challenging at home....he behaves everywhere else and hasn't gotten in any trouble, yet. Ah teenagers. I'd so rather have a bunch of 3 & 4 year olds sometimes! ;)

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I think it is the toughest when children or teens don't test positive but have numerous symptoms.

 

All of my children and grandkids are now gluten free with improved health -- I was the first dx'd 4 years ago, followed by my then 18 month old grandson and 25 year old daughter - my 15 year old at the time had been sick on and off for several years with several of the "non-classic" celiac symptoms along with severe gerd/lung issues for 7 solid years.  He decided to try removing gluten and improved immediately -- he has official dx now even tho his initial antibody tests were negative - based on symptom resolution and improved nutrient testing along with the complete inability to consume even minute amounts of gluten cross-contamination plus genes.  

 

That left the youngest son -- 13 at my dx...he never really chose to remove gluten...but because we already cooked most foods at home we evolved into a completely gluten-free kitchen -- mostly because I had to remove so many other items...my husband decided to simplify matters by only eating gluten outside the home.

 

So -- there are four "official" celiacs and two NCGI's along with two hubbys/dads that feel better gluten-free in our family.

 

Thanks again for sharing the heart warming story and hang on -- your older son is going through a rough stage even if gluten isn't a factor.  He may surprise you one day very soon -- I hope so :)

Also wanted to say...I'm glad everyone is feeling better in your house with the gluten free. It amazes me how very different all the symptoms can be and how spotty the testing seems to be! Gives me hope that cutting out gluten will help everyone and not just the little guy.

GottaSki Mentor

Ah teenagers. I'd so rather have a bunch of 3 & 4 year olds sometimes! ;)

 

Been there...thankfully it got better :)

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