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Help With Going To A Wedding!

LoriG

By LoriG
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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LoriG Contributor
LoriG
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Hello,

I have to go to my sister-in-laws wedding next month and since I'm newly diagnosed w/ gluten I am sort of freaking out. They had us check the little card for our meal choice and one was haddock and the other chicken cordon bleu. Do I call my siste-in-law and ask her to call the resort and ask what to do? Do I just not eat the meal? I don't think I can just bring my own food, sort of tacky right? I don't want to be an inconvenience either. Should I just eat it and forgive myself for one bad meal?

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Hello,

I have to go to my sister-in-laws wedding next month and since I'm newly diagnosed w/ gluten I am sort of freaking out. They had us check the little card for our meal choice and one was haddock and the other chicken cordon bleu. Do I call my siste-in-law and ask her to call the resort and ask what to do? Do I just not eat the meal? I don't think I can just bring my own food, sort of tacky right? I don't want to be an inconvenience either. Should I just eat it and forgive myself for one bad meal?

I am fairly new to this but face a similar situation soon. I would call the resort myself and ask and let your SIL worry about her wedding. If you don't feel they can prepare a gluten-free meal with no cc, eat a big meal before you go and pack gluten-free snacks and eat them discreetly. That's what I would do but I'm sure there will be other opinions. Whatever you do, don't eat it if you are not sure it is gluten-free!

happygirl Collaborator
happygirl
Posted

Here is a recent thread about weddings....hopefully it will give you some ideas:

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1. its not tacky

2. don't eat gluten

:)

LoriG Contributor
LoriG
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Here is a recent thread about weddings....hopefully it will give you some ideas:

Open Original Shared Link

1. its not tacky

2. don't eat gluten

:)

Thank you so much for including that thread. It sure gave me some good ideas. I am going to call the hotel directly and speak to the caterer. And I'm not going to stress about it :P

Guest j_mommy
Guest j_mommy
Posted

I would just call the caterer and ask!!!

PLEASE,PLEASE don't just eat the meal!!!!! You don't want feel sick through the whoel reception!!!!!

gfpaperdoll Rookie
gfpaperdoll
Posted

If you need to take your food, just pack a lunch in put in an appropriate container to match the way you are dressed. If you throw it in a towsack & carry it in over your should it might be noticed !!!

No need to worry about eating your lunch discreetly, granted you might not want to stand on top of the table & yell out "anyone want my left over rice chips" :D:D . really no one else really cares what someone else is eating, well maybe unless they are starving & you did not offer to share....

yea & never just eat the meal & take a chance on being ill...

WW340 Rookie
WW340
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I have not had much luck in having others making me gluten free meals, so when hubby's niece got married I took my own food to the reception. I made sure what I took did not need to be heated, and it was just enough food to get me through the evening.

The next day, my MIL told my husband she was surprised I was able to eat the food at the reception. He laughed and told her I didn't, that I had brought my own.

She never even noticed and she sat directly across from me.

You can be discreet and safe.

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kbtoyssni
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I would just write gluten-free on the card or not check anything, then get the phone number of the caterer from your SIL and call yourself to order a special meal. If you don't feel comfortable after talking to them, bring your own food. It is never tacky to put your health first.

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emcmaster
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I wouldn't eat anything there, unless it was simple, whole food, like appetizers of crudites or fresh fruit.

Joanne11 Apprentice
Joanne11
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I recently went to a friend's wedding, I called him to ask what the dinner was because there was no choice on the invite. I breifly explained why and that I was just wondering he told me that he knew the meal was gluten free because the caterer had told him all their options were gluten free. He didn't do it on purpose, but they had brought it up when they were picking out the meal. I felt so much better knowing ahead of time because I didn't have to worry about it. I would call the place the wedding is at and ask them, I am sure they would be more than happy to look into it for you after you explain why

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