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I still live with my parents, and at a job where I make barely over minimum wage, it's going to stay that way for awhile. God, this would be 15000 times easier living on my own.

I haven't been officially diagnosed (I can't bring myself to deal with more doctors right now). So I'm doing gluten-free on my own (I guess I may have to see docs if I still have problems after a couple of months, sigh). My dad I think TRIES to be understanding... I've been gluten-free a week now.

My dad likes to cook and get food for the family. He cooked chicken and marinated it in some dressing that wasn't gluten-free. He said, 'It's such a small amount though!' But I said, "I'm sorry, I can't..." He also brought home chicken wings. Maybe they're gluten-free, maybe they weren't. But I have no idea and don't want to risk it. He gets kind of defensive when I turn food down.

Should I just tell him I'll make my own food all the time, just for now (and of course share what I make when I can...)? Would that be the best thing? I'm still so new to this so I'm not the best educator and honestly, I just don't have the patience for too much explanation (especially if he's going to get defensive, ugh).

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I still live with my parents, and at a job where I make barely over minimum wage, it's going to stay that way for awhile. God, this would be 15000 times easier living on my own.

I haven't been officially diagnosed (I can't bring myself to deal with more doctors right now). So I'm doing gluten-free on my own (I guess I may have to see docs if I still have problems after a couple of months, sigh). My dad I think TRIES to be understanding... I've been gluten-free a week now.

My dad likes to cook and get food for the family. He cooked chicken and marinated it in some dressing that wasn't gluten-free. He said, 'It's such a small amount though!' But I said, "I'm sorry, I can't..." He also brought home chicken wings. Maybe they're gluten-free, maybe they weren't. But I have no idea and don't want to risk it. He gets kind of defensive when I turn food down.

Should I just tell him I'll make my own food all the time, just for now (and of course share what I make when I can...)? Would that be the best thing? I'm still so new to this so I'm not the best educator and honestly, I just don't have the patience for too much explanation (especially if he's going to get defensive, ugh).

I know that this is hard as I go through the same thing with my family. I am married and live with my hub but my Mom is always wanting to cook for me etc.

Is there any way that you could go grocery shopping with your Dad and get things that you all will like. Tacos, plain meat, cheeses etc. If he isn't willing to do this, than yes, I would just make my own food if I were you. Just be careful to avoid CC from the counters and dishes etc. :)

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Maybe he would be more receptive if you were diagnosed. Otherwise, offer to cook but watch out for all the cc'ed stuff in his kitchen. Don't rinse your pasta or grapes in his colander, for example. Don't use the same PB, jelly, etc. Get some colored tape to put on your jar of pb so they don't get crumbs in it.

  • 3 weeks later...
cO-ol Explorer
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OMG I forgot about this thread! :o

Anyway, thanks for the suggestions. He's getting better about not assuming and not getting defensive, I just have to make sure I put my foot down is all. I'll definitely try the colored tape idea.

  • 1 month later...
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Have you tried getting a gluten sensitivity stool test from EnteroLab ( www.EnteroLab.com ) or tried getting a test at Cyrex ( www.cyrexlabs.com )?

The test is about $130. For EnteroLab, you will send them a stool sample and for the Cyrex test you will send a blood sample. Both labs will send you little kits and information on where to go to get your blood drawn.

I could not get diagnosed because my doctors were incompetent. I finally followed this route and 2 weeks later had a positive test. I've been gluten-free for several months now and all my symptoms vanished. :)

  • 5 weeks later...
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I'm glad ur prob was solved, but 4 others looking in, or 2 get a boost u shuld let him no that even the tiniest amount can cause a reaction, also if ur "less sensitive" n he nos that, let him no that even if u dont react too much, or not at all, if u have the disease it is still harmful to ur organs. . .

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