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Does anyone have a relative like this?

We live with my husbands parents. His brother and wife come round for dinner at least once a week and NEVER bring anything, and even take the leftovers for THEIR kid for daycare. They always ask us to take things to their house though.

Now they have decided to have an Easter egg hunt at their house. They want everyone to bring food, AND eggs!

Mmmmm think I might be too busy to take the kids round!


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Sorry!! those leftovers are reserved and do not have your name on them!! :ph34r:   The noive of it!!!!  Who lets them do that??

frieze Community Regular

Does anyone have a relative like this?

We live with my husbands parents. His brother and wife come round for dinner at least once a week and NEVER bring anything, and even take the leftovers for THEIR kid for daycare. They always ask us to take things to their house though.

Now they have decided to have an Easter egg hunt at their house. They want everyone to bring food, AND eggs!

Mmmmm think I might be too busy to take the kids round!

Are they truly that poor!!!!?

stanleymonkey Explorer

That's the thIng they are not poor, their income is at least twice ours,

Because we live with my inlays we have to be careful ot to rock the boat, but they seem to think everything is theirs! They even took one of kids tops because they liked it and hadn't seen our eldest wear it for a while, needless to say the next time we were at their house I just took it back and wrote the name of my youngest in it!

kristenloeh Community Regular

My stepdads brother is like that. If it's nothing something exactly to his taste or what HE wants to do, he b%$@#es and bails. It's the most annoying thing in the world. He always makes his mom who is in her late 60's, host ALL of the holiday events and now that Thanksgiving is gluten free and I cook EVERYTHING, he acts like a little brat that it's not what he wants and he's vegetarian and thinks everyone else should cook extra, vegetarian, dishes just for him. *rolls eyes*

mommida Enthusiast

Unfortunately, I know your pain!  Someone took off with about 1/2 of the gluten free chocolate birthday cake I worked my a$$ off to make.  Just took it home with them.  Iwas making about 3 cakes for kids birthday parties for the past few years.  Now I know people (who can eat gluten) were just sitting waiting to take it home.

 

I was recently sent an e-mail from a niece explaining about "name day" celebration for her daughter.  We are American, never had any ties to this before.  The e-mail went like this....  She and husband went through the added inconvenience of picking a foreign government approved name list for kid to have the added PRIVILEDGE of celebrating name day.  We are to think of this as "another small birthday" per year.  Date clelebrating will be this date and send chocolates or birthday appropriate gifts.  (Live in a different state)  Kid probably won't care much this year but, this will be a big "deAL" for her in upcoming years.  So nice of her to notify me I owe her kid 2 gifts a year for the rest of life with suggestions/directions for what to purchase.  Mind you there is more history to this situation that just makes this the straw that broke the camel's back.

 

Yes relatives have even taken the clothes we wear.  (Especially darling niece mentioned above.)

 

Now I have an aunt that is making up crazy stories about me.  I have not had any interaction with the fruit Loop for at least 3 years.  (These stories would in reality require me to speak to her to even remotely happen!!?)  I am concerned she needs medical help.  Maybe a brain tumor or mental illness? 

 

If family makes you miserable, don't go!  You can "love" someone (in a family way), but you just can't make yourself LIKE them.  Life is too short to get sucked down into this crap.  It's your holiday too.

 

Oh, and take it from me..  When you show up for a holday and this happens...  Pre gluten free days mind you...  I found this recipe.  It's kugel.  It's a Jewish type recipe.  Mother-in-law says Only you would bring something Jewish to Easter!!  Me responding with a shocked smirk  "You do know Jesus was Jewish don't you?"

mommida Enthusiast

Anpther holiday approaches so I could say

 

But wait there's MORE!!

 

But I have vented enough and I should have married an orphan!


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I don't mind if you keep venting! :D

mommida Enthusiast

I know there are a million trillion family variations for kugel recipes.  The ultimate in ironic?  This recipe goes very well with ham!

Loey Rising Star

And I assume they don't have to eat gluten-free food and we all know regular food is cheaper!!!!

 

I have a cousin who had provision added to her mother's will (when my Aunt was unconscious) and it stated that if the Estate went below 2 Million she didn't have to honor any bequests. Well somehow when the Estate was probated it was $200 shy of 2 million. She also never sent copies of the will to anyone in it. The real kicker is the bequests (including to my elderly mother, me and charities) totalled $125,000. My cousin is financially wealthy but is one of the poorest people I know.

 

Vent away - we're all in this together!!!!!

 

Love,

Loey

mommida Enthusiast

Holy crap Loey!

 

I think thieving from inheritance is just one of the lowest things that can be done.  I have been so screwed over everytime there was an inheritance issue.

 

My dad never settled anything when my mom died.  He remarried and his wife has made sure NOTHING will go to any of the children from the marriage.  (I know that is HIS fault for letting this happen.)  My dad was diagnosed with cancer Christmas of 2011.  Guess where she was when he was in the hospital?  That's right, cleaning out all the banks accounts!  Now I do believe she is really POed cause guess what?  He lives on and is cancer free!

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