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Fiance Going Gluten Free

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Calmom
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I was diagnosed with celiacs 2 years ago. Since then I have met and become engaged to a wonderfully supportive man who has gone gluten free to eleminate any risk of me being gluten. Whil eit means th eworld to me that he has done this, I don't feel that it is fair to him to have to give up his favorite foods if he can eat them with out causing me to be glutened. Also I worry about wether it is healthy for him to needlesly go gluten free.

 

What are the risks to someone who is non celiacs/gluten intolerant to go gluten free?

 

What is the likleyhood of someone being glutened from kissing/ having contact with someone who has recently eaten glutened foods?

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Unless he brushes his teeth he is definitely going to contaminate you with gluteny kisses :)   A lot of people have a gluten free house, but the spouse can eat whatever he wants outside the house, provided rule #1 is followed.

 

There is absolutely no harm to anyone in eating a gluten free diet.  You just have to be a little more aware of what nutrients are in the food you are eating.  Most 'regular' processed food is fortified with vitamins and minerals so you don't have to think for yourself.  Gluten free food is not so you have to do the thinking yourself. :D   It is not an inherently unhealthy diet unless you sub everything you are used to eating for a gluten-free counterpart, in which case you end up with more starches and sometimes more sugar.

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howlnmad Newbie
howlnmad
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My wife has celiac, I do not. For the most part I eat what she eats as far as meals go. We cook together and I have learned the do's and don'ts. But, just because there are foods that she can't eat and I can (and enjoy), doesn't mean that I have to go without. I still have my sammiches on gluten bread and keep my favorite adult malt beverage on hand. I travel for a living so I am able to get things when I'm away. If I desire something at home, I have my own cookware. I keep to one area in the kitchen and I CLEAN UP when done. It is is possible to co-exist but it is nice of him to adjust for you.

 

As to the health issue of a non celiac going gluten free, I can't really see any health issues that would occur.

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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My wife has celiac, I do not. For the most part I eat what she eats as far as meals go. We cook together and I have learned the do's and don'ts. But, just because there are foods that she can't eat and I can (and enjoy), doesn't mean that I have to go without. I still have my sammiches on gluten bread and keep my favorite adult malt beverage on hand. I travel for a living so I am able to get things when I'm away. If I desire something at home, I have my own cookware. I keep to one area in the kitchen and I CLEAN UP when done. It is is possible to co-exist but it is nice of him to adjust for you.

 

As to the health issue of a non celiac going gluten free, I can't really see any health issues that would occur.

 

Now, here's a spouse who obviously "gets it" and is very supportive and wise! Kudos to you, howlnmad (love the name . BTW)  ;)

 

It is possible to co-exist and many families do it.

 

There is nothing unhealthy at all about a gluten-free diet and as long as you get enough fiber in your diet and do not eat too many packaged, high starch gluten-free foods.

 

My hubs went gluten-free voluntarily with me after my DX, citing his concern over CC (and also because I was quite ill at DX and making two of everything was overwhelming).

He eats very well and I often make us gourmet meals and I just asked him if he feels at all deprived. He said he "can't complain"  :lol: smart guy, I am the cook after all. Do not make the chef mad, right?

 

Seriously, though, he does not mind it at all. He has indulged in a real beer on rare occasions--  Guinness on St. Paddy's, for example, but he drinks New Planet or Green's . .

 

Truth is, he is very healthy and feels no ill effects from being gluten-free. He was once on cholesterol meds, meds for a serious bout with A-fib, and took allergy meds from March-Oct. and had a high PSA at one time.

 

Now, he takes NO MEDS (neither of us do ) and he is as healthy as it gets.

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