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Sister Doesn't Understand

ryann14

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Hey guys, my older sister has recently moved in with my mom and I she eats gluten all the time. But I have also labeled everything and talked to her about cross contamination and everything but she still uses everything and I still get sick because she refuses to understand how sick. Any ways to get her to understand, I was diagnosed in February and living by myself but I came home after a injury. Any ways to get my boyfriends mom to understand.

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I think your mom should lay down the rules to your sister. It is your mom's house. Does your mom " believe" your diagnosis and cc, etc?

For your boyfriends mom, does your boyfriend " get it"? Maybe he could speak to her first? Or the two of you together? For myself, I wouldn't expect her to fix food for me. But I would want her to understand why I brought my own food for get- togethers.

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I think your mom should lay down the rules to your sister. It is your mom's house. Does your mom " believe" your diagnosis and cc, etc?

For your boyfriends mom, does your boyfriend " get it"? Maybe he could speak to her first? Or the two of you together? For myself, I wouldn't expect her to fix food for me. But I would want her to understand why I brought my own food for get- togethers.

Yea,its my mom's house and my mom has told her thst se needs to stop it but my sister says thatit isn't that bad and if it was then i would move out but i just had surgery (unrelated to celiac) but i can't move just yet. It seems like she doesn't care.

kareng Grand Master
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Yea,its my mom's house and my mom has told her thst se needs to stop it but my sister says thatit isn't that bad and if it was then i would move out but i just had surgery (unrelated to celiac) but i can't move just yet. It seems like she doesn't care.

What I'm saying is...if she isn't following your mom's rules, she should move out. But that is for your mom to decide. If your mom thinks the behavior is OK , you will have to work around it. Maybe lock up your safe food? Look at the links on this thread and show them to her and your mom?

https://www.celiac.com/forums/topic/105148-amount-of-gluten-in-single-small-bread-crumb/

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Hard as it might be, it's probably worth giving it your best shot to get your sister and boyfriend's mum to understand now. Although my flatmates have been fine with some of the changes I made, I didn't really spell it out to them when I was diagnosed a few months ago because I didn't want to cause too much fuss. Now I can see that there are things they need to change but it's harder to tell them that they're doing it wrong because I let it slide at the start... Just a thought! Hope you can get her to listen. 

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Argh, understand your frustration completely.

My partner and I were both living with my dad, step mum (my sb and his mrs too) when I first went gluten-free. So hard to get then too understand, my Stepmum after 6months finally realised I wasn't faking it, and I do get very ill.

Some people just don't want to look past thier own nose.

My dad brushed it off, but I did all the cooking so he just had to deal haha. He still doesn't quite understand what gluten is, and needs his glasses to read labels but he tried.

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Hey guys, my older sister has recently moved in with my mom and I she eats gluten all the time. But I have also labeled everything and talked to her about cross contamination and everything but she still uses everything and I still get sick because she refuses to understand how sick. Any ways to get her to understand, I was diagnosed in February and living by myself but I came home after a injury. Any ways to get my boyfriends mom to understand.

Thank you, this website is awesome

it seems to be purposeful, some jealousy or other psych things going on?

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