My Very Good Friend

[Canadian Karen]

Dessa,

Just saw this thread. My heart goes out to you and her family.....

Sending prayers your way for strength (and lots of cyber hugs).....

Hugs.

Karen

[Rusla]

Dessa, I am so sorry for your loss. I know what it is to lose a good friend. I lost one of 25 years, she was murdered and the guy got off. Whether a person is killed by a disease, a person or anything else it is okay to hate it for taking your friend as it is part of the grieving process.. When my friend died we rejoiced in her life and had a good old fashioned wake. That is what she wanted and that is what we did. It makes the process so much easier. Toast her life and celebrate it. We told stories, played her favorite music and laughed at all our fond memories of her.

Having a wake makes it so much easier to bear. During the ceremony we cried but after we had the wake. You may want to do that even if you have to do it alone.

[sherylj]

Dessa,

Nothing I can say can make the hurt and sadness go away. There are many out there who grieve with you and for your loss,,,me included. I am so sorry your friend is gone.

My 47 year old brother gave up the fight Feb 4 and my tears just roll down my cheeks as I write this. I didn't want to see my suffering, ill brother go on living but I want my healthy, loving brother BACK and now I can comfort myself with the memories of all those good times , cause when I was with him he made the time special (We lived far apart and only saw each other twice a year or so.

So let the tear flow and yes, the anger is normal. There are stages of grieving and anger is one of them.

Grieving with you, Sherylj

[Cheri A]

((Dessa)) ~ I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend!

[jkmunchkin]

Dessa - I am so sorry for your loss. It's ok to be angry. We are all hear to support you in this hard time. HUGS.