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What's This About Kissing Non-gf People?


westiepaws

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westiepaws Apprentice

Hi, please feel free to tease me if I read this totally wrong, but --

at the board for friends/family of celiacs, I could swear I just read that kissing someone who eats foods we are allergic to can expose us to those foods. Is this true? And you have the person chew gum or brush their teeth to protect you or something? And is it only kissing on the lips? What if you kiss the person on the cheek?

Westiepaws, wondering if spontaneity is about to go out the window w/gluten, soy and dairy :ph34r: .


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tarnalberry Community Regular

It's pretty easy for crumbs to be left on someone's lips, or near their mouth. Or for a few crumbs to be left in people's teeth after eating bread, for instance. So yep, I don't go kissing my husband soon after he's eaten anything with gluten unless he brushes his teeth. (We usually don't worry about it after a few hours, however.)

mytummyhurts Contributor

Yeah, I find this one hard to follow even if it's true. It's nice to be able to kiss your hubby on a whim without asking him to brush his teeth. That ruins the mood.

pmrowley Newbie

It's easier when you both stay gluten-free. :D

Otherwise, if she's eaten bread (after going out to eat, for instance,) we tend to hold off for a few hours, and make sure we have a nightcap first. :)

Cheek-kissing should be fine, unless they make a habit of smearing food all over their face! ;)

ms-sillyak-screwed Enthusiast

Okay since we are in the :wub: kissing mood...

I would love to know if there is, or should we some how start, a Gluten Free web site for SINGLE people of all ages to meet, date and find :wub: love???

There are so so many of us :wub: [sINGLE] people with this dreadful illness...

I have been sick for so many months, I'm getting better now that the compunding doc are making my gluten, corn, and dairy free thyroid RX's. Going on a :wub: date is hard, with this illness.

But, I would like to find a :wub: guy that perhaps has the same thing I do. It would make life easier, for us, not to have to explain to insensitive people about our illnesses. They say, "...oh just get over yourself..." :o or "Here have a little bite of my cake, it won't hurt you!" :lol: I'm sure you all have come across it too.

If there is such a site please let me know... I'd like to kiss and fall in love with a nice compatable ;) gluten free guy soon too! :wub:

pmrowley - Your posting made me laugh so hard. I thought of the scene from the movie 9 1/2 weeks were they where Kim Bassenger and Mickey Rourke were smearing food all over their face sitting on the floor in front of the fridge. :D

KaitiUSA Enthusiast

Yeah it can cause you to have a reaction. My ex was a jerk and knew I could not kiss him if he just ate gluten and he said he didn't eat any gluten(but he doesn't know what all contains gluten) anyways I got a reaction and I was mad...2 weeks sick.....Now I'm very careful about that...it definitely is a way for contamination.

Guest nini

Most of the time my husband is kind enough to remember to brush his teeth after he eats, if he doesn't, then I avoid kisses ;) , Just not worth it IMHO to feel sick for days just from a contaminated kiss! My poor poor confused non gluten-free husband!!!! LOL!

I couldn't figure it out for the longest time while I would all of a sudden get so sick for days, and I would back track and go "DOH! oh yeah, we were smoochin and I bet he had gluten all over his mouth!!!"


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darlindeb25 Collaborator
:lol: i can safely say i have not been glutened from kissing and if that did happen, oh well, cause i will not give up kissing for celiacs--my sweetie is very careful with me and he is more then willing to eat my gluten free food--he does enjoy a beer now and again and i do love the smell f beer, never did like the taste--at any rate--i have never been glutened by a kiss :lol: and i do love kissin---deb
Generic Apprentice

I have been on a gluten free diet for 17 years and have never been glutened by kissing. The chances are slim to none. Obviously if the other person has a mouth full of bread or something and you plant one on them, then yeah of course.

KaitiUSA Enthusiast

It actually is pretty common and easy to be glutened that way and maybe not realize it..the slightest bit of gluten can damage our intestines(symptoms or not) and say he/she ate bread or something..they can get it in their teeth and everywhere else in their mouth then they kiss you now some is in your mouth which then leads to digesting it.

Guest gillian502

I think the idea of starting a "gluten free dating service" as mentioned above, is a cool idea, except I'm always thinking, "ok, if I meet a guy at a meeting for Celiacs or something, then we have kids...uh-oh! Instant Celiac Disease for those poor children!" I know it's not a guarantee or anything, but the chances for my kids to have this disease, too, would go up, if I mate with another Celiac! :)

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jen-schall Rookie

well, they say that there is only a ten percent chance that a celiac will have a celiac child - so I assume that w/ a celiac spouse, it would stay the same, or else be 20% - I don't really know if the risk is officially doubled! there is actually a higher likelihood that your sibling would have celiac disease rather than your child. so that's a relief, at least.

Guest nini

where did you read that the risk of a celiac person having a celiac child is only 10%??? that's not what I heard. I thought that the odds of first degree relatives having it are a lot higher than previously thought. also since I have it and my daughter has it, and we are pretty sure my dad has it as well, I'd say, at least in my family, the percentage is a lot higher than just 10%.

pixiegirl Enthusiast

Well my boyfriend is not Celiac and certainly does not eat gluten-free and I kiss him all the time, and I'm hugely gluten sensitive. He's a neat eater and wipes his mouth a lot and will drink something before we kiss to rinse down any gluten. I've never had a reaction. I guess I'd just suggest to hold off on French kissing during meals!!! :lol:

Susan

darlindeb25 Collaborator

GREAT ANSWER SUSAN--I LOVE IT--I WAS LIKE :unsure: WHEN YOU SAID HOLD OFF ON FRENCH KISSING AND THEN I FELT BETTER :D WHEN YOU SAID "DURING MEALS"----I HAVE NEVER BEEN GLUTENED IN THIS WAY EITHER--MY SWEETIE ISNT gluten-free EITHER, HE IS VERY CAREFUL WITH ME--BUT HE EATS NORMALLY, DRINKS THE OCCASIONAL BEER AND I DO LOVE THE SMELL OF BEER, NEVER DID LIKE THE TASTE, BUT I WILL NEVER WORRY ABOUT KISSING--HE OF COURSE DOES NOT KISS ME WHILE HE IS EATING AND HE ALWAYS RINSES HIS MOUTH TOO---WE DO HAVE TO DRAW THE LINE SOMEWHERE AND CANT ALWAYS LIVE IN FEAR--KISSING IS NATURAL AND WE ALL NEED IT-----DEB

mommida Enthusiast

I have been glutened by kissing. I met my husband at a wake during the middle of the day. He ate a quick lunch there and needed to go back to work. He kissed me as he was leaving. I asked him why his kiss tasted so sweet, and he told me he just ate a cookie. I did not eat anything at the wake, and I was sick later.

He shaved his mustache off after that.

Laura

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BellaSara Newbie

I feel so much better after reading all of these posts. My boyfriend still thinks I'm a nut for making him drink water before I kiss him. Now I now I'm the sane one

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