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Dealing With Rude Family Members

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minniejack Contributor
minniejack
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I just saw my old post and comments. It's kind of funny in the past two weeks--this is August now--six months after my sister telling my DD that she didn't have problems--my dear sister has called me 2x. the first to tell me about the gluten free bisquick at Kroger and that they had King Arthur gluten free flour, too. And 2 days ago, to tell me that Sam's club has this gluten free chip called Rissotto that was good.

What's gotten into her? :P

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ravenwoodglass Mentor
ravenwoodglass
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I just saw my old post and comments. It's kind of funny in the past two weeks--this is August now--six months after my sister telling my DD that she didn't have problems--my dear sister has called me 2x. the first to tell me about the gluten free bisquick at Kroger and that they had King Arthur gluten free flour, too. And 2 days ago, to tell me that Sam's club has this gluten free chip called Rissotto that was good.

What's gotten into her? :P

Maybe some learning and compassion? Whatever it was it was good. Glad she is coming around. :)

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glutenfreemamax2 Enthusiast
glutenfreemamax2
Posted

I just wanted to chime in here. I've just been diagnosed, and I'm going to have the lab work done in 10 minutes. Testing my 3 year old also due to symptoms.

I went to my inlaws last weekend. They told me it was all in my head. The told me that I "Over medicate" my son. He has asthma, and reflux. I had given him a breathing treatment sice he was up ALL night, and his belly hurts (as he tells me every day) But they think that he's doing it for attention. When my kids say they are full, they still make them clean their plates.

Ok, getting to P.O. ed about it. I totally understand!

eKatherine Apprentice
eKatherine
Posted

But they think that he's doing it for attention.

There is a significant part of the population that thinks that celiac/gluten intolerance do not exist, and we're only doing it to make us feel "special". Therefore they feel morally obligated to trick us into eating stuff we falsely (so they think) claim we cannot, to prove we are wrong.

This is why I don't feel safe eating in restaurants. Any one worker in even the most enlightened restaurant could still sabotage you. Asking questions in a place where the management feels this way could make the experience much worse.

Even my sister the anesthesiologist thinks it's all in my head.

Emilushka Contributor
Emilushka
Posted

Even my sister the anesthesiologist thinks it's all in my head.

No disrespect meant to your sister, but the Celiac research and medical knowledge is new stuff. I'd bet money she has no idea what she's talking about when it comes to GI stuff and any recent developments, so in terms of Celiac Disease knowledge, she's no better than a dude walking down the street. Docs don't keep up with areas of medicine that aren't their specialty and it's hard to get farther from anesthesiology than poop and guts.

glutenfreemamax2 Enthusiast
glutenfreemamax2
Posted

My husband even thinks that my 3 year old's never sleeping is "habbit". He insists on sleeping in my bed. He plays with my hair ALL night. Yes it gets old. But when I lay with him at night, no matter what bed he is in(he can start in his bed, but he never lasts) he always tells me his belly hurts. He points to his belly and his throat. Once or twice, ok. EVERY SINGE NIGHT....there is something going on. I don't think it's for attention. My motherly instinct tells me that there is something else going on. That's why we had the blood work done this morning for him AND me. I have been gluten free for 1 week, and I can't tell you how much better I feel. My husband sees a difference in me. We agreed that if the baby's (yes, he's 3, but he's my baby), the WHOLE house is going gluten free, not just me. My 5 year old, who shows NO symptoms, said this morning at the lab "Mommy! I ate your gluten free cereal this morning. It was soo yummy! Can I eat gluten free too?" It was so cute. I wish my inlaws could have heard that.

My MIL has chrons. She said she has functioned with a hemoglobin under 7. She said that the symptoms are all in your head, and you can make yourself sick or not. I disagree. Yes, it could be in my head. The first week i thought that. I glutened myself, and was sick for days. I am a firm believer that its not in my head!

I took cows milk otu of my 3 year old's diet, and he seems to be getting better with this never ending cold. Ihave not needed the nebulizer.

Ok, sorry to be long winded. I am finally talking to people who understand, and it feels GREAT!

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RESO Apprentice
RESO
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My cousin just glutened me 3 days ago to prove that my doctor was wrong. I don't know how I'll trust her again- never, ever with food- but even generally. My lower half is broken out in dh now and I wish I could "share" it with her!

The rest of my family and in-laws have been very good about it, though.

Go over to her place, lie on her couch, and tell her you're going to roll around on it in your undies so she'll get your rash, then do it(of course we all know it isn't contagious, but she probably doesn't lol)

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Brookesmom Newbie
Brookesmom
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If your relatives admit that you have celiac. They have to consider that they may also have it. If you're wrong then they are safe and can keep eating junk.

yes, yes, yes! They feel threatened. Their problem, not yours... :)

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