Hormones and Celiac + Covid 19?

[temp72836]

I'm posting because I was reading some of the posts and don't see any like mine.

I'm now 50 and have been married for 19 years. I had my hormones tested last Aug 2020 because I was have cycles all over the place and had not slept for close to 20 years. I've not had a libido for many years, but had been going down steadily in energy levels for years. Last year in Jan. I got Covid while in Florida for the holidays long before a test or even confirmation that it was in the U.S. I was very sick for 6 weeks. Confirmation that it was in Florida as Early as Dec. 2019 came on the news March 2020.  I felt like death and wasn't able to get off the couch having VERY low energy, extreme coughing, and having a hard time walking up hills with the dogs without getting winded. My husband never even offered me a piece of toast. As usual he just supposed that I was depressed again, quite honestly I felt like I wanted to die. 

After years of doctors, and asking, begging for my tired/exhaustion help they tested my heart, thyroid, diabetes, they determined I was depressed and so gave me drugs, powerful psychiatric drugs that messed up my head and gave me palpitations. I haven't worked for several years because I can't think. I steadily put on weight over about a 3-5 year timeframe. They insisted that all of my problems would simply go away if I lost it. Now I have Sleep Apnea because of the weight gain. Time and time again I was told I had extremely low Vitamin D. Think that's not possible, I'm outside all the time (besides extreme allergy seasons)  I'd tried other brands/dosages thinking they just weren't working.

After much research, I just started on a Gluten free diet last week and started taking Magnesium at the same time. I feel a little better but now my marriage is becoming impossible. My husband is an alcoholic and last week he threw his phone (as hard as he could) at my face that I deflected leaving a huge bruise on my arm. All over a vet visit that he was frustrated over.

I asked husband this morning to go, just leave. We got into another huge yelling fight, he's just not respectful of me and says I'm not respecting him because I wouldn't look at the schedule on his phone for the vet visit. This is not the first time our fights have turned physical, always with him on the physical side. I know I'm miserable when I don't sleep for days and days. I'm just feeling like I'd be better off without him.

I've been on hormone pellets for 6 months, although the depression is gone It's no magic bullet for energy. I'm not as sick as others on this blog with Celiac, I have the intestinal problems, bloating,  low immune system and believe I'm not absorbing nutrients correctly as with collagen and tons of supplements my nails are super thin, but my hair is thick.

Reading over this, I guess I'm just venting. People keep telling me how important "SEX" is in the marriage but we've had it 2 times int he last 5 years. Really, he's 64 and I'm so far away from that I guess we're doomed.

[trents]

Did your husband's anger problems start with your health issues or is this a pre-existing tendency on his part? I'm thinking maybe legal separation and insisting he get anger management counseling with an eye to eventual reconciliation if there is real change in your husband's behavior toward you.

Have you been tested and officially diagnosed with celiac disease or is this a conclusion you have reached on your own? Realize that testing will likely be invalidated if you have already been eating gluten free.

[Scott Adams]

Have the same questions as @trents, and just want to add that the violence you've described is not acceptable under any circumstances, and could be a real danger to you. I think it's important that you don't just ignore his violent actions, and consider being the one who leaves (when he's not around), but if you're having these thoughts at all it would make sense for you to consult with an attorney as well, but only if you can do this discretely.

On the positive side, if your low vitamin D levels are related to celiac disease or gluten sensitivity, then going on a gluten-free diet should eventually help with that issue, and will likely help you with other symptoms like the brain fog, fatigue, etc., that you've described. If you don't take a B complex you might try that as well, and several people on this forum recommend the bonfotimine (B1) form of thiamine because it is fat soluble, and better absorbed, and should be take with magnesium.

Ultimately you need to focus on your health and safety at this point. Perhaps you can resolve things with counseling, but @trents mentioned, it seems like your husband has some very serious anger management issues that must be addressed.

 

 

 

[GodsGal]

I'm not a medical or mental professional. I also want to say that I agree with @trentsand @Scott Adams. Violence is never ok. You need to focus on your physical safety first.

I don't know where you are located. Is there a domestic violence shelter in your area? They would be someone who could help you plan the logistics involved in leaving safely. I also agree that you need to be very discreet. Don't forget to clear the history on your web browser.

It is possible that you may have food intolerances. And it is important to find that out. But your first priority needs to be physical safety. 

Please keep us posted!

[Scott Adams]

I forgot to ask, have you consulted with your doctor about your sleep issues? Sleep apnea, which I have and it isn't due to weight, my mother also has it, is easily treatable, and may solve your sleep issues. The devices now are light years ahead of ones around even 5 years ago, as are the masks. Be sure to talk to your doctor about this.

[RMJ]

On 5/3/2021 at 8:07 AM, temp72836 said:

After much research, I just started on a Gluten free diet last week and started taking Magnesium at the same time. I feel a little better but now my marriage is becoming impossible. My husband is an alcoholic and last week he threw his phone (as hard as he could) at my face that I deflected leaving a huge bruise on my arm. All over a vet visit that he was frustrated over.

I asked husband this morning to go, just leave. We got into another huge yelling fight, he's just not respectful of me and says I'm not respecting him because I wouldn't look at the schedule on his phone for the vet visit. This is not the first time our fights have turned physical, always with him on the physical side. I know I'm miserable when I don't sleep for days and days. I'm just feeling like I'd be better off without him.

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