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2 Years Since Hes Gone..

num1habsfan

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num1habsfan Rising Star
num1habsfan
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I know I posted not long ago about that my uncle would have been 35....well, today is exactly 2 years since hes passed away :(

If you look in my signature, it says October 2nd..but it was ctually only Oct. 1 in Canada (and no, right now I dont feel like explaining)..

I just wish I DIDNT remember the date. I didnt until it hit midnight...then the memories of the news started rolling back into my head.....

Blah :P

~lisa~

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tiffjake Enthusiast
tiffjake
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Lisa, I am sorry for your loss. I hope that with time, you don't feel the rush of sadness on this date.

Daxin Explorer
Daxin
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Lisa,

It's normal to remember our loved ones and the loss incurred. In time, this day will get easier, but the memories will always be there.

(hugs) I am sorry for your loss, and hope youfind comfort today.

jerseyangel Proficient
jerseyangel
Posted

Hi Lisa,

I hope that today you can find comfort in the wonderful memories of your uncle. :)

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TinkerbellSwt
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Hello Lisa. I am sorry you have a terrible time on that day. I think that is a normal feeling. I know you probably hate to hear that. I wish I could say something wise and make the hurt go away. I only hope in time you will begin to feel better. Try and think about good times with your uncle.

You are in my thoughts. (((((((((((((()))))))))))))

mommida Enthusiast
mommida
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I think it is totally normal to feel the way you do.

A way you can change this is to make this date a something special day. Call your family members, just to say "I love you". Talk about something funny you remember about him or just tell a joke. Do something he loved to do. A trip to a favorite hangout/ park/ store. Make new happy memories.

L.

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lindalee
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So sorry Lisa. Take care of yourself. :wub:

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num1habsfan Rising Star
num1habsfan
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Thanks guys. Its not as hard as it was last year but...all I've done all day is think of the things in the last year that he should have been a part of, and all the time that I needed him and nobody else :(

~ lisa ~

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ravenwoodglass
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Thanks guys. Its not as hard as it was last year but...all I've done all day is think of the things in the last year that he should have been a part of, and all the time that I needed him and nobody else :(

~ lisa ~

Those days are so hard. I can't give much advice on coping, my bad days are June 15 and July 2. It has been over 30 years since I lost my twin and my Mom and I still have a hard time. I do set aside a time on those days just for thoughts of them. I pull out albums and memories and allow myself to feel sad for a bit. I tell them things that I would want them to know and I tell them how much I miss them. I try to treat it like a short visit and will cry for a while and then I put the albums back on the shelf and tell them I will see them soon. Then I go and do something that they might have liked. Many times I go to the lake and look for a special rock, last year on the 15th I found a rock with another heart shaped one inside it still sits on my bedside table. I know it is silly but I think of that rock as a gift from my brother to comfort me.

Loss is never easy, sometimes the pain dulls a bit with time. Sometimes it doesn't. It doesn't matter whether the person we lost had a hundred years with us or only a single breath it hurts.

I hope you find some comfort and peace. ((((((((Hugs)))))))))

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