Guilt

[crittermom]

Does anyone else deal with guilt after accidentally glutening a loved one? If so how do you come to terms with it?

[ptkds]

You just have to let it go. It happens, especially if you are new to the diet. Gluten is in so many foods, and you have to eat. So accidents are gonna happen. Just comfort your child, or apologize alot to an adult! And just try not to do it again!!

ptkds

[buffettbride]

Oh gosh. Well first of all, don't be too hard on yourself. Your child knows your intention is to always keep her healthy. Since you are her primary food-preparer, you are more likely to gluten her than anyone else. I know the first few weeks of gluten-free I certainly glutened DD more than anyone.

I feel awful when it happens to DD, whether it was something I did directly or not. I question every time we go to a restaurant if I should actually let her eat and how awful I'd feel if she gets sick.

My husband really takes the cake on this one though. A good friend baked some gluten-free ginger cookies and sent them along with some regular cookies. Well, my husband opened the box and saw that the first bag was marked gluten-free but didn't look at the other bags and just assumed all the cookies were gluten-free and handed one to DD to eat. Thankfully her reaction was pretty minor that time but he just felt awful.

We can kind of laugh about it now, but I still rage with guilt. To help that, I usually just walk myself through what I could have done differently--whether it was a restaurant server who I could tell didn't really "get it" but ordered anyway, or if for some reason there was gluten in the house which CCd something I prepared for her. We aren't perfect people and are going to make mistakes from time to time.

The more we do this, the fewer mistakes we make. As long as the mistakes are as infrequent as possible while still allowing our children to be productive members of society then I'll count that as one for the "Win" column.

[Genice]

What will happen to me if so how Im as you sa glutend will I get super sick?

Oh gosh. Well first of all, don't be too hard on yourself. Your child knows your intention is to always keep her healthy. Since you are her primary food-preparer, you are more likely to gluten her than anyone else. I know the first few weeks of gluten-free I certainly glutened DD more than anyone.

I feel awful when it happens to DD, whether it was something I did directly or not. I question every time we go to a restaurant if I should actually let her eat and how awful I'd feel if she gets sick.

My husband really takes the cake on this one though. A good friend baked some gluten-free ginger cookies and sent them along with some regular cookies. Well, my husband opened the box and saw that the first bag was marked gluten-free but didn't look at the other bags and just assumed all the cookies were gluten-free and handed one to DD to eat. Thankfully her reaction was pretty minor that time but he just felt awful.

We can kind of laugh about it now, but I still rage with guilt. To help that, I usually just walk myself through what I could have done differently--whether it was a restaurant server who I could tell didn't really "get it" but ordered anyway, or if for some reason there was gluten in the house which CCd something I prepared for her. We aren't perfect people and are going to make mistakes from time to time.

The more we do this, the fewer mistakes we make. As long as the mistakes are as infrequent as possible while still allowing our children to be productive members of society then I'll count that as one for the "Win" column.

[EBsMom]

Does anyone else deal with guilt after accidentally glutening a loved one? If so how do you come to terms with it?

I think you have to kick yourself a couple of times and then let it go. A friend of mine, who'd been dealing with celiac disease and the gluten-free diet for years (her twins have celiac disease), told me right at the beginning "You'll make mistakes. It happens to everyone." When I screwed up, I tried hard to remember what she'd said. I was a bit of a mess the first time....my 9 yo silly, who I'd just fed gluten to, was comforting *me*! I've been much more careful about reading labels since then....but I'm sure I'll screw up again someday. We're all human, labels change, stuff happens. Don't be too hard on yourself!!!

Rho