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Dad Meant Well.....

Duhlina

By Duhlina
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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Duhlina Apprentice
Duhlina
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I feel so bad. My dad knows all about my gluten issues (yet he won't get tested himself). Anyway, last night he called me and told me he made meatloaf and made an extra one and wanted to bring it down for us for dinner. I asked if it had any bread in it. His response? "Yes, I put a tiny amount of Italian bread crumbs in it, but it's not enough to bother you." I seriously almost lost it. I said I was sorry, but there was NO WAY I was eating it, that ANY amount would bother me and I can't have ANY bread crumbs, bread, gluten, etc.! I feel really bad for having to tell him I wouldn't eat it, but geez.....he KNOWS that I can't eat that!

I guess it just goes to show no matter how vigilant we are some people just won't get it. <sigh>

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Elizabeth5220
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I feel so bad. My dad knows all about my gluten issues (yet he won't get tested himself). Anyway, last night he called me and told me he made meatloaf and made an extra one and wanted to bring it down for us for dinner. I asked if it had any bread in it. His response? "Yes, I put a tiny amount of Italian bread crumbs in it, but it's not enough to bother you." I seriously almost lost it. I said I was sorry, but there was NO WAY I was eating it, that ANY amount would bother me and I can't have ANY bread crumbs, bread, gluten, etc.! I feel really bad for having to tell him I wouldn't eat it, but geez.....he KNOWS that I can't eat that!

I guess it just goes to show no matter how vigilant we are some people just won't get it. <sigh>

I hear this type of thing all the time from my mom...I've read some good analogies on this forum but can't remember them this morning. Fellow Celiacs and Gluten-Intolerants...what say you?!

Elizabeth5220 Apprentice
Elizabeth5220
Posted

I feel so bad. My dad knows all about my gluten issues (yet he won't get tested himself). Anyway, last night he called me and told me he made meatloaf and made an extra one and wanted to bring it down for us for dinner. I asked if it had any bread in it. His response? "Yes, I put a tiny amount of Italian bread crumbs in it, but it's not enough to bother you." I seriously almost lost it. I said I was sorry, but there was NO WAY I was eating it, that ANY amount would bother me and I can't have ANY bread crumbs, bread, gluten, etc.! I feel really bad for having to tell him I wouldn't eat it, but geez.....he KNOWS that I can't eat that!

I guess it just goes to show no matter how vigilant we are some people just won't get it. <sigh>

(Love your kitty! Mine sits like that on the exercise bike!)

curlyfries Contributor
curlyfries
Posted

I hear this type of thing all the time from my mom...I've read some good analogies on this forum but can't remember them this morning. Fellow Celiacs and Gluten-Intolerants...what say you?!

I've seen people compare it to poop. Would you eat it if there was just a little poop in it?.....or how about arsenic?.....oh, come on, it's just a little! ;)

samie Contributor
samie
Posted

I know how that goes. I heard it from someone recently to.

CarolinaKip Community Regular
CarolinaKip
Posted

I'm sorry you had to tell your Dad that. I think we've all experienced some type of situation like this. My sister asked me if I'd ever be able to not worry about CC when I heal. I also had a pharmacist to say the company is "reasonablly" sure it didn't contain gluten. I said if I were a diabetic, would you say, I'm reasonably sure it doesn't contain sugar? It's a learning process for not only ourselves, but our family. Hang in there, hopefully he will understand soon.

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
Posted

I say it is like poison. Is a little bit of poison okay? Nope!

I also have been known to call it my kryptonite. And sugergirl can't fly when krytonite is around. :lol:

Hon, your Dad does not "get it" because he just does not know WHY a small amount of gluten does damage.

Many people think this way about gluten--they think it has to be a large amount to cause a problem. They do not understand the autoimmune component.

Maybe you need to give him some info to read so he can understand? Then, talk about it with him (calmly) so he gets it. :) Took me a while with my Mom--and I gave her things to read and sometimes, I had to repeat stuff to her---but she gets it :) (and now, she is gluten-free too, BTW.)

Best wishes!

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newlifeforme Newbie
newlifeforme
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My dad offered me a beer...

Scotslass Newbie
Scotslass
Posted

:blink: lol..I think Dads are the worse. I have had coeliacs for 9 years and he still offers me biscuits and sandwiches.. And he's an ex nurse for goodness sake..

I ask him if he really wants to poison me and see me puke all over his shoes..

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
Posted

My dad offered me a beer...

That one's forgivable as he may not have realized about the malt. :) Plus, some people do not associate gluten with liquids. :lol:

Did you tell him to stock you some Bard's??? :)

mushroom Proficient
mushroom
Posted

We just had elevenses with friends. Anne told me she woke up in the middle of the night realizing I am gluten intolerant, so she got up and made CORNbread this morning. :unsure: I told her "you're going to hate me, but I'm sorry, I can't eat that either -- but hubs CAN :D (I had a cookie with me :) ) She asked me what flours I could eat :)

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