Finding A Boyfriend

[joemoe003]

I have been thinking about getting a celiac boyfriend to make it easyer on myself since i have celiac disease. but i have no idea where to even begin to look for one. and im not gonna run some personal ad in the paper cuz im only 15. what do you think i should do? i mean even if i cant get a celiac b/f it would be nice to at least talk to some people the same age as me that have it. is trying to get a celiac disease b/f is that a good idea? or should i jus stick with a non-celiac disease b/f? So please tell me what you think would be then best thing for me to do.

*Joe Moe*

[Guest Libbyk]

I think that having a boyfriend with celiac disease would make certain things easier (like making a picnic for a date together).

I also think that having celiac does not mean that a guy will treat you well, although he may well be more sensitive in general. My advice would be to seek out a NICE guy, one who doesn't get "grossed out" by your food, is willing to try things and not pound down pizza in front of you. Not to mention, a guy who thinks you are wonderful. Regardless of HIS dietary needs. This is a damn high order to fill with a 15 year old guy, but good luck.

It may seem hard, but being unatached at 15 is normal, fine and a great way to figure out what YOU like to do, what YOUR values are.

again, good luck

Libby

[byuiemily]

You know, this topic brings up a good question/thought provoking idea that for some of us could be in the near future, and for others of us on here, is still far away: Would it be easier having a husband/or being in a serious relationship with someone who has celiac disease? Boy, all of that was a mouth full. But honestly, I've thought about this exact thing a lot lately. I just turned 19, so in all truthfullness, I could be getting married in a couple years. A part of me thinks it would be so much simpler to find a nice celiac disease guy with the same standards as myself, and just live out our life as a gluten-free couple/family. Yet another part of me wants someone who is alot more healthy then I am, so that my kids could have a better chance of not being celiac disease. Does that make sense? I figure, if my husband is really healthy, then my kids might be a lot more healthy then I am....ah, this is probably all wishful thinking....veryyyy wishful thinking. In any case, I'm going to call it a night. Any thoughts of this topic? *not necessarily on my ramblings*

[joemoe003]

Well for right now if some guy that doesnt have celiac disease askes me out i may go out with them depending on who they are of course. but i am also gonna keep my eye out for someone to be my celiac b/f. well if ne one on here that is round 16 or so reads my message it would be nice if i could talk witcha i get lonley sometimes and need someone to talk with. my msn sn is pippigirl32@hotmail.com.

Luv ya all,

Joe Moe

[reyanna]

A Celiac boyfriend or girlfriend? Yeah! I'm going to start a national Celiac Teens organization so that this will be easier. LOL. I already started a website (www.celiacteens.com), but we're currently experiencing technical difficulties, and we'll be back up soon.

But there are great guys out there. I met my husband when I was 15 (now we're almost 23 and married for a year and a half). He eats gluten-free/dairy-free, but he doesn't have Celiac. He's just a great guy. There are lots of guys out there like this too! Many of them will give up gluten because it's not that big of a deal. I mean, my husband may eat gluten when he's at work or something, but not around me. And he'll wash his hands and brush his teeth if he does. I know of other husbands and boyfriends like this too... there just aren't that many. LOL.

But yeah... it would be cool if I could do a conference or something just for teens and young adults. I'll start working on it for next year maybe. That would be awesome.

Stay strong.

*reyanna*

celiacteens@yahoo.com

[tarnalberry]

My husband doesn't eat gluten-free either, and I didn't know I was gluten intolerant until after we got married, but he's just as careful about my diet as I am - sometimes more so. :-) (We're both 25.) I don't think you necessarily have to find someone who's got celiac disease, just someone who's open minded enough to treat it the same way that you do. :-)

[cynicaltomorrow]

I'd been dating someone for over a year when I found out that I had Celiac Sprue. But, since we were so seriously involved, my girlfriend decided she would go gluten-free to help me out.

[byuiemily]

That's so wonderful that you guys have been able to have such supportive bf/gluten-free and husbands/wives. It does go to show that there are people out there that are willing to help/ even participate in keeping our diet.

Just recently i found out that there is a guy up here who is Celiac, and we're around the same age, and his older brother does some of the diet as well! Being as I'm at a school of only 15,000 I found this so great.

I agree with Reyanna, that it would be great to have youth/young adults get together for a conference or something. *I used to post on Reyanna's celiac teen site! hope it gets back up soon!*

Well, that's about it for me. I've been so sick with who knows what this past week so I should go catch some sleep. laters

[flagbabyds]

i don't think that it is necessary to be in a relationship with someone with celiac disease you want to find someone who cares enough about you to keep you safe and that is what matters most

[byuiemily]

I was looking back over the Teen section and found this topic again, and thought I might share newly updated insight into it all. I've always been one that doesn't like to share the fact that I have celiac disease with people right off the bat, which is probably not a good thing. Anyways, so I met a guy at the beginning of this week and we just hit it off right from the start, and for some reason I had a prompting to just let him know that I have celiac disease, and you know what, he was amazingly supportive! I think i was worried that him knowing what I have would scare him off, but it obviously hasn't from the fact that he sent me flowers yesterday as he was on his way to Portand until Sunday

I guess it just goes to show that yeah, it may be easier to date someone who is gluten-free, but there are guys/girls out there who are very supportive and will like/love you for who you are. Just enjoy yourself!

[MySuicidalTurtle]

Awww, byuiemily! That is so lovely to hear!

[Guest Doct.Giggles]

I have always wanted a celiac boy friend but I will not put anyone down because they are not a celiac. But I am definiately looking for one. My parents, my doctor and some of the other celiac members think that the disease orignated from Ireland, Scotland and other placed like that. You could post a world wide billboard!!!!!!! Jk!! I don't know what to say for you because I think that a lot of people have that problem and they don't know what to do. So if you find any ideas please feel free to e-mail me at tiffarclay@earthlink.net!!!

Thanks

Tiffany

[Guest gliX]

mmm..It would be nice to meet someone on a gluten-free diet. Makes everything a lot easier.

[KaitiUSA]

Yea, would make things alot easier but it's not essential as long as the person is helpful and understanding of the diet.

[Carriefaith]

Yea, would make things alot easier but it's not essential as long as the person is helpful and understanding of the diet.

I agree, there are people that are very understanding. If a non-celiac guy isn't willing to deal with a celiac girlfriend's dietary needs then they probably won't make a good boyfriend.

[sweetiegrl109]

dating would be SOO much easier if the guys i went out with had celiac disease...i wouldnt have to explain every tiny detail about what i can and cant eat when we go out....o sounds like heaven, haha! are there any teenage boys in the nj area? it would make my life a lot easier! hahaha!

[emeraldskies]

You know, this topic brings up a good question/thought provoking idea that for some of us could be in the near future, and for others of us on here, is still far away: Would it be easier having a husband/or being in a serious relationship with someone who has celiac disease?  Boy, all of that was a mouth full.  But honestly, I've thought about this exact thing a lot lately.  I just turned 19, so in all truthfullness, I could be getting married in a couple years.  A part of me thinks it would be so much simpler to find a nice celiac disease guy with the same standards as myself, and just live out our life as a gluten-free couple/family.  Yet another part of me wants someone who is alot more healthy then I am, so that my kids could have a better chance of not being celiac disease.  Does that make sense? I figure, if my husband is really healthy, then my kids might be a lot more healthy then I am....ah, this is probably all wishful thinking....veryyyy wishful thinking.  In any case, I'm going to call it a night.  Any thoughts of this topic? *not necessarily on my ramblings*

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I had a boyfriend who had celiac disease before I was diagnosed. We were so close and so similar that it had a detrimental effect on our relationship. We would bring each other down all of the time. If we were going to be together ultimately, I felt like I would be the one having to do everything when I was so exhausted myself. Toward the end of our relationship, he told me that celiac disease ran in his family, and he thought he had that and a casein allergy. I looked into it and thought it would be horrible to have flattened villi and to not be able to eat common foods. Well, it turns out I also had it at the same time. We may have worked better together if we had already been diagnosed, were being treated, and knew what to do to help the disease. I found out I had celiac disease after I was married to another man who is just as compatible with me. The difference is, our strengths and weaknesses are balanced, so we make a better team. He has a desire to help and a strong sense of loyalty, so he has stuck around and does what he can to help me get better. I have also had a positive effect on his life. If both parties have been on the diet a long time and are in good health, it might be a good thing to have a celiac spouse or boyfriend who understood the lifestyle. But if both are struggling to survive, it's not a good match. In that case, I think we would be better suited as very good friends but not lovers.

[Rachel--24]

i don't think that it is necessary to be in a relationship with someone with celiac disease you want to find someone who cares enough about you to keep you safe and that is what matters most

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I agree with you Molly.

I think love just "happens" you can't go out searching for it. The *right* person is the person that accepts you the way you are. You should never feel out of place with your significant other...you should feel right at home...whether the home is 100% gluten-free or not.

[PicturePerfect]

That would be sooooooo nice to have a bf that has celiac disease. But then again maybe not.

[celiac3270]

That would be sooooooo nice to have a bf that has celiac disease. But then again maybe not.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

It would just mean that you wouldn't have to explain it to someone, but why would you want to limit yourself to celiacs? And dating another celiac, you might have too much in common?

[PicturePerfect]

It would just mean that you wouldn't have to explain it to someone, but why would you want to limit yourself to celiacs?  And dating another celiac, you might have too much in common?

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

True, true.

Well, I mean you wouldn't have to limit yourself.

And dating another celiac, you would only have one thing in common, although it is quite a big thing, thats for sure.

Uggghh, I don't know.

Has anyone dated another Celiac before? Maybe someone should try it out and tell us how it is.

[ErraticBinxie]

I think it would be ideal to marry someone who has celiac disease. I look at my family and we are split down the middle, my mom and I have celiac disease, my dad and my sister don't, and sometimes it makes life hard. It would be so great to marry someone that has celiac disease and live your whole life completely gluten-free instead of worrying about having two working toasters in the house.

[PrincessLEah]

If the guy if right for you then it's shouldn't matter what his dietary needs are. If he truly loves you then he would be considerate and not plop something with gluten in it in front of you and then make you feel bad that you can't eat it. ( I personally would prefer a picnic better than a resteraute anyway) But I suggest just to let some years go by and see what you think then.

[PrincessLEah]

totally right rachel--24

[pixiegirl]

My boyfriend does not have celiac disease and he's so considerate of my celiac disease, its how love is, or should be.

Honestly I don't think the celiac disease thing makes a bit of difference.. its hard enough to find someone you love to limit your search to those who have the same disease as you, well, thats pretty limiting. Not to mention that yes it would be easier to keep the kitchen clean but how important is that in the whole scheme of things. At home when my bf is here we don't have any non gluten-free issues because I do most of the cooking and I cook gluten-free. He eats what I put on the table!

And as far as the whole explaining thing... well really don't you only have to do that once, or at least for a short time... I'd say it took my bf about a month to "get it" and now its never discussed any more. He gets it, I get it and when we go out we both explain it to the place we are.

So whats the big deal I'd say that if you have a bf that is fighting you on what you can eat, or says "can't you do it this one time" its time for a new bf. Mine would never suggest such a thing and has been the most supportive person in my life as far as my celiac disease goes.

Susan