First Date

[Rachel--24]

I've never had luck with guys. Seriously, never even been on a date yet in my life. I felt that getting Celiac was going to be even more reasons for a guy not to like me (and finally a good one that is valid reason to).

I think if a guy's gonna like you he's gonna like you regardless of what you can or cant eat. A "good" guy will anyways. Theres alot of good guys out there...you just gotta wait till the right one comes along. Since I've been sick I've met even more nice and caring guys than when I was healthy. I seriously cant eat hardly anything and I cant drink anything but water but there are still guys out there who are not put off or inconvenienced by this. If you dont make a huge issue out of it it doesnt have to be a huge issue. Guy's will like you for who you are and not what you can or cant eat.

[Lisa]

Thanks everyone. I'm not as nervous as before. Now, my problem is that he hasn't called me back since our first call . He said he would call me by the end of last week, but I have not heard from him yet. I'm not going to stress aout this because if he doesn't call, it's his loss.

If we do end up going out, I'll let everyone know how it goes.

Guess, I'm behind the times, who is the pretty one on your avitar? How gorgous

Danielle

Don't worry, you have all you need with that perfect, paccy sucking, beautiful little person.

[AndreaB]

Schuyler,

Sound like a really nice guy.

[CarlaB]

Sounds like you not only didn't scare him off ... he's interested!!

[schuyler]

Don't worry, you have all you need with that perfect, paccy sucking, beautiful little person.

Thanks! He's my almost 2 year old cousin (he'll be 2 on July 6) Sean. He's my miracle baby because he was a 16.5 ounce preemie, and now he's a "normal" 2 year old (the terrible two's are driving me crazy ; but I still love him ). He's having a hard day today, because he just went cold turkey off the paccy, and he's NOT happy (and not shy about letting me know how he feels).

As soon as I get the money, I am going to have Seany and his 3 and 4 year old brothers (yes, my cousin was crazy; 3 boys in 2.5 years) tested for celiac through enterlab because they have lots of symptoms. All the drs are being a#%$@ about testing them, so I'm doing it on my own (the boys recently moved in with my family because their mom is in the military and was shipped to Iraq last week).

Well, I have to run because the little monkey is climbing up the pantry shelves; I guess he's hungry!

Schuyler,

Sound like a really nice guy.

He is so nice!

Sounds like you not only didn't scare him off ... he's interested!!

Whoo Hooo!!!!! He calls everyday, so he MUST to be interested (at least somewhat)!!!!

[CarlaB]

Whoo Hooo!!!!! He calls everyday, so he MUST to be interested (at least somewhat)!!!!

Sounds like how me and my HUSBAND started out!! Whoo Hooo! How fun!

[schuyler]

Sounds like how me and my HUSBAND started out!! Whoo Hooo! How fun!

Awesome!!!!!!!!!

[AndreaB]

Danielle,

That's awful about your cousins mommy having to go to Iraq. The military! Don't they believe that a mother or father should be home with the children?

Have fun on Thursday. I too hope your sister has that night off. It would be awkward and depending on how old she is she might make a big deal about it.

[schuyler]

Danielle,

That's awful about your cousins mommy having to go to Iraq. The military! Don't they believe that a mother or father should be home with the children?

Have fun on Thursday. I too hope your sister has that night off. It would be awkward and depending on how old she is she might make a big deal about it.

It's so sad that she's gone; the boys are having a really hard time with everything. Unfortunately, she signed up before the kids were born, and she can't get out until early next year.

My sister just found out that she doesn't have to work Turs, so that is great news (she's dissapointed; she wanted to spy on me ).

[stellal]

Okay, so I'm not exactly a teen (I'm 21), but I need the help of teens. Basically, I have not gone on a date since my diagnosis. A family friend has set me up with her son (I have seen him multiple times over the years since our brother's have been best friends for 13 yrs. I even went to his first wedding ), and I don't know what to tell him. We will be going to the movies and then out to Mexican food. I'm really shy, and I don't know how to bring this up. Even if I don't tell him on the first date, I still have to order food and tell my server about my issues. How do I do this? I don't want to scare him away on our first date! I know I'm overreacting here, but I'm really nervous (just in case you couldn't tell ). Please help ease my fears!!!

Danielle

hi i'm new to the site and i have a 17 year daughter who was diagnised 3 years ago. they said she had it then didnt this went on for 3 years until last sept was diagnoed with blood test and biospy been on diet since nov doing better now. she eats healthier than i do. anyway she misses going out to eat with friends she went on a date tonight to eat she wasn't sure. we found that outback steakhouse has a gluten free menu. she got the grilled chicken steamed veggies and a salad with gluten free ranch said it was pretty good. she was nervous eating out for the first time. u can have salads without croutons and make sure gluten free dressings. chilis also have gluten free items. just ask to see gluten free menu they will help u in most cases. her friend asked her what is gluten she said it was a healthier way of eating without going into details. she doesn't want everyone to know they don't understand when u try to explain he said what are u saying i don't eat healthy then laughed she said she relaxed after that. its best to call ahead if u know where u are going pizza places are out unless u have a salad.just say u are on a special diet. i know it is hard on u kids its hard on me the parent to help her through this and teach her how to eat and take care of herself in the future. u can call the restaurants in your area and just ask them then u can elimante them from your list surely your friend will understand tell him u have certain allergies to food and have to be careful what u eat. hope this helps and good luck...stella from jonesboro,arkansas

[stellal]

hi i'm new to the site and i have a 17 year daughter who was diagnised 3 years ago. they said she had it then didnt this went on for 3 years until last sept was diagnoed with blood test and biospy been on diet since nov doing better now. she eats healthier than i do. anyway she misses going out to eat with friends she went on a date tonight to eat she wasn't sure. we found that outback steakhouse has a gluten free menu. she got the grilled chicken steamed veggies and a salad with gluten free ranch said it was pretty good. she was nervous eating out for the first time. u can have salads without croutons and make sure gluten free dressings. chilis also have gluten free items. just ask to see gluten free menu they will help u in most cases. her friend asked her what is gluten she said it was a healthier way of eating without going into details. she doesn't want everyone to know they don't understand when u try to explain he said what are u saying i don't eat healthy then laughed she said she relaxed after that. its best to call ahead if u know where u are going pizza places are out unless u have a salad.just say u are on a special diet. i know it is hard on u kids its hard on me the parent to help her through this and teach her how to eat and take care of herself in the future. u can call the restaurants in your area and just ask them then u can elimante them from your list surely your friend will understand tell him u have certain allergies to food and have to be careful what u eat. hope this helps and good luck...stella from jonesboro,arkansas

also u can go for dessert if u have tcby there sorbets are gluten free i called the company dont get like cookiesncreme, chessecake malts like this also baskins robbins have gluten free ice cream check their website also i call alot of 800 numbers on the products just to be safe..hope this helps hopeyour date went good. stella

[schuyler]

Thanks for the info stellal.

On Sat, my friend and I went to hang out with some of her friends (who I had never met before), and I was kind of nervous about my celiac. I had nothing to worry about. The guys asked a few questions, and left it at that. We decided to go out to dinner at the Elephant Bar, so I called and spoke to the manager and he assured me that the chef would be able to prepare me something.

So, we went to the restaurant, and when I ask to speak to the manager and chef (the manager told me to make sure that they both spoke to me before I ordered), I was told that the manager had changed his mind and that they couldn't serve me. He said that he didn't feel as if I could eat there without getting sick, so they refused to serve me. I was glad that he was honest with me (instead of assuring me that I something was okay, and then me getting sick), but I was worried about everyone elses reactions.

Again, they proved that I had nothing to worry about. They all said that we would just go somewhere else and asked if I knew anyplace that I could eat at, and they left it at that. We ended up at Chili's, where even though they had no idea that there was a gluten free menu, they were able to prepare me a great meal of steamed vegis and rice. They also had some rice ice cream that was gluten-free, which I was able to have for dessert. I was so happy!

My new group of friends are awesome (unlike my ex-friends who refused to accept my diagnosis and were constantly harrassing me about my low weight).

btw, I'm still dating the same guy. While he doesn't understand all of my limitations yet; he tries.

Oh, my cousin just called today to let us know that she'll be home in November (we thought she was going to be there until Jan). We are so excited. Her boys are so happy! They decided to have a celebration party today (it was their idea, and I couldn't say no), and we made a gluten-free cake and the boys sang songs of celebration. It was a full party with games and decorations and everything, and the kids had so much fun. I recorded the whole thing (including when they found out she was coming home early), and I'm going to send it to my cousin.

[debmidge]

Yes, do let us know if there will be another date!

I'm SO far from being a teenager.....actually approaching menopause is more like it.... But had to read this as when I recover from the post-traumatic stress of my last boyfriend, I"ll be dating again someday. I am frequently in social situations wtih new people who don't know about my Celiac, and I just totally downplay it....even laugh about it a little as I explain it to the relevant person ...." oh I have the most TEDIOUS dietary issue, and can't eat gluten..." And people laugh and then usually want to know what it is. You can usually gage how MUCH they want to know - sometimes it's a sentence I give them and sometimes it's a 15-minute discussion, depending on THEIR interest.

When I was first diagnosed I think I talked about it all day long, and my friends told me to knock if off, which I did (hey, they're very close friends!)....

And I agree wtih Elonwy, it IS a good litmus test as to the character of the guy.

Good luck!

Susan, not to change the subject or interrupt, but if that's a photo of you (in your posts) what are you doing right...you SO do not look any age close to menopause! I figured you to be about 26 years old. You may have to start another thread to give anti aging tips...