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Moving.... Frustrations.

Adelle

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Adelle Enthusiast
Adelle
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We've decided to move. Not far, most likely to an apartment like 3 miles away (same complex as a good friend!). We both hate moving. But our roof leaking is the straw that broke the camel's back. our 2nd bedroom (the one with our books and both guinea piggies) has a spot starting on the celieng. It's growing, obviously the roof is leaking. The landlord hasn't been by yet! We keep calling, she keeps postponing. This in addition to the stairs rotting away (hello saftey hazard!) we told them about over a MONTH ago. Last summer our oven stopped working and it took 6 weeks to get it replaced (they couldn't fix it I guess)!! What are we paying the landlord for if not to fix broken things?? Our neighbors moved out cause their bathroom plumbing went and it was over a month before anyone came out! Wtf!? And they just raised the rent.

So if we move to this other place (still gotta tour and do paperwork), we'll have a MUCH bigger apt (including a bigger kitchen, yay!), heating that works (the baseboard heaters here are ancient and they don't seem to be effective, we cook for heat!), and we can get our OWN washer and dryer (we have a teeny one in here, around 1/2 normal size that works for crap). We're excited.

Unfortunately, I'll be doing most of the moving. Ugh.

Wish us luck??

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jerseyangel
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Hi Adelle,

Definately--the best of luck to you!

It sounds like this move will be a good one for you--worth the packing and all the rest of it. The new place sounds very nice--hope it all goes smoothly :)

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runnerjen Apprentice
runnerjen
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I can so relate! I hoped when I moved the last time (about 2 yrs ago) that would be it for a while. But since then, I've had days with no heat, to which my landlord basically says I'm crazy, but then there are days it goes on and it's in the 80's and I have to open a window! Then I had some crazy girl move in upstairs who, I swear, moves furniture around at 2 am every night. Then she threw a cigarette in the trash and started a fire and my apartment got flooded due when they put it out. They did a crappy job replacing the ceiling and never even let the walls dry. So it smells like mold in some of my cabinets, and the moisture has attracted roaches!! They wouldn't let me out of my lease early, and I've tried numerous times to contact the state housing authority, who don't seem to care either. So I'm stuck there until September. I DO NOT WANT TO MOVE! But obviously I have to.

I feel your pain!!!!!!!!!! :)

Generic Apprentice
Generic
Posted

I know in WA state, that there is tennant land lord laws that protect you from such things. You can actually refuse to pay your rent if it is uninhabitable. Check into something like that.

-Laurie

amybeth Enthusiast
amybeth
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laurie, you took the words right out of my mouth....or would it be fingers since I'm typing....there are organizations out there to help protect tenants. you may be able to get some of your rent $$ back, if not more.....also the local better business bureau or chamber of commerce may be able to help you make some headway if it's an apartment complex. actually i'd try it even if it's a private landlord. they could at least steer you in the right direction.

we are moving in a month or so....it's something i hate to do....really dislike.....but this time it's into our first home (yikes! we'll actually own it!) and i'm hoping that will make the move easier.

my best moving advice is label all of your boxes and fragile items.

i think i figured it out last time i moved (november 06) and i've moved something like 8 times in 13 years! ugh! i feel your pain.

blueeyedmanda Community Regular
blueeyedmanda
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We moved last Sept 2005, from an apartment complex....I never wanted to move until we bought a house. We had to move due to spending the summer with no Central Air. We lived on the 3rd floor (top floor) We would come home from 2nd shift at midnight and our thermostat would read 87-89. Our electric bill (all electric apt) was over $200, rent was 740. My electric stove smoked black smoke when the burners were turned on...yet there was nothing spilled on the burners.

The summer of 2005 was very hot! We suffered all damn summer! The complex would not fix the Central Air, they said it worked fine, it was us. They had a contractor come in and he even said it was not working. They would not fix it. We toured this complex where we live now. We moved in Sept of 05.

I love it where I am now, even though it sucked to move, and our rent is more and we live farther from work it was worth it. We have gas heat here, so our bills vary. Gas and Electric together only get to about 110. My new stove, even though it is much older than the one we had works great. My apartment here came with a balcony and it feels more homey. Whenever something breaks it is fixed ASAP too.

We are looking to maybe move, there is a townhouse for rent for just a few more dollars than what we pay in rent and it comes with a garage,driveway, and fenced yard. So we might go for that. Other than that we love it here.

Moving is frustrating but sometimes it is for the best, good luck.

Adelle Enthusiast
Adelle
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I feel much better about moving now. We found a place, and we have plenty of help moving. Yay! That makes it much less stressful. $40 more/mo for 128 sq feet, heat, decent landlords, and much more! Everything is going well. But packing will be sooooo un-fun.

Some moron moved in next door. He watches porn all day. Eeewww. Only a week and a half to move! Some people don't know the value of a good neighbor.

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blueeyedmanda Community Regular
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Some moron moved in next door. He watches porn all day. Eeewww. Only a week and a half to move! Some people don't know the value of a good neighbor.

My neighbors that moved out in Nov. They used to fight with each other all the time, throwing glasses/vases at each other. It was horrible. He would play computer games in surround sound and it was loud. They used to complain about parking (rule is one car in front one in the overflow which is along the house) but they would hog up two spots. Everytime we came home, they would knock on our door and want us to do stuff. I never felt like I had privacy.

I am glad you found a place and are happy. It will be worth all the moving in the end. Good Luck.

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