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Thinking About Quitting My Job

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Sweetfudge Community Regular
Sweetfudge
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i have been so stressed and frustrated w/ my job at a dental office. i love the environment, but not the people i work with or the way the business is run. i'm tired of being picked on, disrespected, getting into fights w/ my husband b/c he says i don't stand up for myself and they mess up our plans by throwing crap at me. this last weekend i've been so pissed off, i couldn't calm down. i got stuck @ the office 2 EXTRA hours in addition to my regular 10, b/c i was the one supposed to close, and they had flooring guys there, who had just laid down the glue when i told them it was time to close. so my manager said "tough i'm out of town, i can't do anyting about it" and the boss said "i don't wanna waste 2 hrs of my night driving down there (from 1/2 hr away) so you don't have any other choice." i was livid. i went into this job because when i was in high school i fell in love w/ the dental office environment, working for a wonderful man, and with wonderful coworkers for 2 years! it was my dream to find another office liek that. this has been the OPPOSITE! in every way. can i find that dream job again? or was it just good in hindsight b/c it was freedom, it was extra money, and it was 3 hours a day? what do you guys think?

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Guest j_mommy
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Are there any other dental offices in your area???

Working in job you are unhappy with is tuff!!! Sometimes you have no choice but to stay but if you can I would start looking for a happier environment!!!!

It's a tuff decision but I wouldn't stay ina job I hated especially if it's effecting you life outside of the job!!!

good Luck!

CarlaB Enthusiast
CarlaB
Posted

I think life's too short to spend most of your time at a job you hate.

If you need the money, look while you're still working ...

blueeyedmanda Community Regular
blueeyedmanda
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I agree life is much too short to be miserable at work. You spend a major chunk of your time with your coworkers. sometimes more time than you spend with your own families. You need to have good relationships with your coworkers or everything else is going to hurt. By the sounds of your post, your job has started to interfer with your personal life, and nothing good can come from that. I would keep the job while you are still looking. (I made a mistake and quit a job and it took almost 6 months to get a new fulltime job...big mistake for me) I would bite your tongue as much as you can...and try to look to the future and do everything you can to keep happy in a hard place. Good Luck/

Judyin Philly Enthusiast
Judyin Philly
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I think life's too short to spend most of your time at a job you hate.

If you need the money, look while you're still working ...

so agree with everyone else.

yes life is too short but also it's flowing into your home life.

focus on 'JOB HUNTING' AND LET THE NASTY PEOPLE ---GO EMOTIONALLY.

I KNOW IT'S HARD ...I HAD TO DO IT ALSO AND IT'S THE ONLY WAY I COULD SURVIVE..

THIS 'TILE' STORY IS BEYOND ACCEPTABLE..IT'S HUMILIATING AND NOT GOOD FOR YOUR PERSONAL HEALTH OR MARRIAGE.

AGREE WITH MANDA...IT MAY TAKE A WHILE..AND BILLS DON'T WAIT SO JUST WORK...IGNORE...AND LOOK

PLEASE DON'T THINK I'M BEING 'TRITE' BUT I'VE BEEN THERE--IT'S SO HARD TO DO..BUT FOCUS ON THE LONG TERM GOAL.............TO GET OUT.

PLEASE FORGIVE MY CAPS TONIGHT.

JUDY

Fiddle-Faddle Community Regular
Fiddle-Faddle
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I agree with everyone else--time to start looking for a new job.

Int the meantime, though, it's very important to remember--the people you are working with are the ones who will be contacted by any employers who interview you!

So you need to be sweet as can be for now, Yes, that means you have to put up with the crap--but it's temporary, it's only til you get that new job. You can't let someone else pick fights with you. Period.

When you interview for another job, you can't say ANYTHING bad about your current one. If the interviewer asks for a reason why you are leaving, you can mention how great you hear the new office or doctor is, or that you are seeking a more convenient location, anything POSITIVE about the prospective job, nothing complaining about the old job.

You can't mention the tile story. No, it should not have happened. Your manager was obviously stuck, but the boss should have been there. And it sounds like the flooring company really screwed up, too--putting down the glue at closing time?????? :blink: The boss should have at least had an idea the minute the flooring company showed up (obviously they were late) and let you know that morning, But sometimes these things happen.

In any job, there can be emergency unforeseen overtime. We get this a couple of times a year at my job, and then it's a mad scramble to figure out who is going to pick up the kids, etc. It's horrible and disruptive--but sometimes it's unavoidable. Obviously, you couldn't have avoided it. But darn it, your boss should have! (Wonder what would have happened if you had said, "Sorry, but you didn't let me know in advance, and I CAN'T stay, I'll be here for another 45 minutes, and then I am leaving, you will have to come in and close." Hmm. Maybe they would have fired you, so maybe that wouldn't have been such a good idea. Oh, well.)

Or maybe they are looking for you to take more initiative? Like, "I know I'm closing today--how late is the flooring company who just arrived supposed to stay, as I cannot stay past X:00?" Or are you the low man on the totem pole who always has to do the grunt work, no matter how late?

Does the dream job have to be a dental office? What about a chiropractor's office, or a pediatrician's office, or an orthodontist's office, or an orthopedist's office, or a physical therapist's office?

I especially like chiropractors' offices--they're such POSITIVE places! People arrive in discomfort but always leave feeling better... :)

Sweetfudge Community Regular
Sweetfudge
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thanks everyone for your support. i'm gonna hang tight, act nice, and in the meantime look elsewhere.

In any job, there can be emergency unforeseen overtime. We get this a couple of times a year at my job, and then it's a mad scramble to figure out who is going to pick up the kids, etc. It's horrible and disruptive--but sometimes it's unavoidable. Obviously, you couldn't have avoided it. But darn it, your boss should have! (Wonder what would have happened if you had said, "Sorry, but you didn't let me know in advance, and I CAN'T stay, I'll be here for another 45 minutes, and then I am leaving, you will have to come in and close." Hmm. Maybe they would have fired you, so maybe that wouldn't have been such a good idea. Oh, well.)

Or maybe they are looking for you to take more initiative? Like, "I know I'm closing today--how late is the flooring company who just arrived supposed to stay, as I cannot stay past X:00?" Or are you the low man on the totem pole who always has to do the grunt work, no matter how late?

Yeah, we usually end up working later than scheduled a couple times a week, as our doctors often get behind. It's annoying but we all deal w/ it. The thing that frustrated me the most was that I had plans, but no one seemed to care. I don't want to be working for a place like that. "Sorry, but you didn't let me know in advance, and I CAN'T stay, I'll be here for another 45 minutes, and then I am leaving, you will have to come in and close." And funny, that's exactly what my husband told me to say, and part of the reason we argued. He felt like I let them walk all over me, and that it's gonna continue.

Anywho, gotta jet. Off to the ol' ball and chain again for another week. Thanks though, I feel refreshed, and strengthened by the fact that this is only temporary. Oh, and by the way, I live in a huge college town, so there are TONS of dental offices :D No problem there!

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blueeyedmanda Community Regular
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Hope today is going better for you friend!

Cheri A Contributor
Cheri A
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Hope that today is better for you. I agree with what everyone else has said. Look for something else!

BTW, I used to work at dental office that the office girls were miserable. My supervisor was just unbearable to me and I left a few months ago.

blueeyedmanda Community Regular
blueeyedmanda
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Hope that today is better for you. I agree with what everyone else has said. Look for something else!

BTW, I used to work at dental office that the office girls were miserable. My supervisor was just unbearable to me and I left a few months ago.

Good for you Cheri, I bet that was one of the best choices you ever made. Do you have a little less stress now?

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