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Funeral Food

Guest BellyTimber

By Guest BellyTimber
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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Guest BellyTimber
Guest BellyTimber
Posted

My mum passed away today so when I go to her funeral and if there is a buffet as it is stressful for everybody else as well as me, and for me as well, how do I make sure I eat well and also not take away the limelight from where it should be properly shining i.e not necessarily all that much on me & my dietary arrangements.

:rolleyes:

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Guest BellyTimber
Guest BellyTimber
Posted

Tried to remove avatar temporarily but didn't manage!

Anyway she will be glad I am trying to ensure I can looking after myself well!!!

:rolleyes:

Canadian Karen Community Regular
Canadian Karen
Posted

Hi Michael,

I am sorry to hear about your mom. :(

I would just eat before I went and then just nibble on raw veggies or fresh fruit....

Good Luck!

Karen

Nantzie Collaborator
Nantzie
Posted

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom as well, and I understand how you feel about not wanting to take focus off of her.

Eating ahead would be what I would suggest too. You could also make some food ahead of time and keep the cool things in an ice chest in your car, and the warm things wrapped in tinfoil. That way you could munch on what was there, and then duck out for a few minutes and eat something more substantial when you need to. And please remember to eat. I know it can be the last thing on your mind, but you do need to keep your strength up as well.

Nancy

ianm Apprentice
ianm
Posted

Sorry for your loss. I had a very close friend die a couple of months ago and as hard as it is you need to take care of yourself also. During stressful times it is even more important to eat right and exercise. Your body needs that even more when it is stressed. Eat well before the funeral and stick to the foods you know will be gluten-free like fruits and veggies.

Carriefaith Enthusiast
Carriefaith
Posted

I'm sorry to hear that :(

At buffets, I usually eat from the veggie and fruit tray. You could also bring something to eat with everyone else, like rice cakes.

Guest nini
Guest nini
Posted

I'm sorry to hear about your mum...

I agree with everyone else, eat before you go, look for fruit and veggie platter, and carry something small you can discreetly munch on if you get really hungry. I always keep a few gluten-free cereal bars in my purse.

I had to go to a funeral not too long ago, and they didn't have any kind of buffet afterward... The widow just wanted to go home alone... so, food is/was not the focus obviously. I made sure I ate a good lunch before I went though.

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tarnalberry Community Regular
tarnalberry
Posted

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. :-(

I would eat before the funeral, and consider bringing safe crackers, dried fruits, and nuts and snack at times other than the primary eating times, and just go about with self-certainty but without discussion.

Merika Contributor
Merika
Posted

Sorry to hear about your mom.

I just was at a funeral/memorial service for a dear friend last weekend. I ate a few hours before, brought ricecakes with me (which was good because it went 2 hours later than planned), and ate immediately afterwards (leftover lasagne heated in the hotel microwave) before going back out with everyone to someone's house. I completely ignored the food at the memorial. It was just too much to think about.

I'd recommend having leftovers to heat up quick and easy afterwards, and having something portable to either ignore or eat as you see fit at the event. Personally I hate eating while crying, so it's easy for me not to eat when sad (though maybe not particularly good for me) - but the memorial went on for like 5 hours and eventually I HAd to eat something. The rice cake was ok, but something quieter to eat would have been better - I reached the point of starvation when the speeches went on and on and on much longer than anticipated.

Hth,

Merika

celiac3270 Collaborator
celiac3270
Posted

The others have already given sufficient advice--just wanted to express my condolences... :(

nettiebeads Apprentice
nettiebeads
Posted

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please take make sure you take good care of yourself. The stress is going to really zap you - keep your protein levels up, don't forget your supplements if you take them, and don't forget to eat.

jenvan Collaborator
jenvan
Posted

Michael-

What a loss...I am so sorry. I pray comfort for you and your family.

I echo advice given here too--eat before...take snacks. Things like veggies and fruit (plain) would of course be okay...

Guest BellyTimber
Guest BellyTimber
Posted

:rolleyes:

Thanks so much all for all you kindest wishes and information, it's so good.

  • 2 weeks later...
Guest BellyTimber
Guest BellyTimber
Posted

The suggestions you have made bore good results.

I made sure there was loose ham & cheese and celery and carrots and hummus, and some people brought such wonderful quiches and cakes as "decoys" I had plenty of the "right stuff" left for me!

Also I had a very large breakfast and several snacks beforehand.

And most importantly it all went very well, people have been superb, we hope my dad will have enough people keeping an eye on him ...

:rolleyes:

Guest BellyTimber
Guest BellyTimber
Posted

In the cemetery our car passed the grave of a young woman in her twenties who died of supposedly "anorexia nervosa" (a former neighbour).

I think it more likely it was coeliac disease that wasn't being spotted.

And it was that obvious.

Carriefaith Enthusiast
Carriefaith
Posted
In the cemetery our car passed the grave of a young woman in her twenties who died of supposedly "anorexia nervosa" (a former neighbour). I think it more likely it was coeliac disease that wasn't being spotted. And it was that obvious.
That's really sad :(

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