Holiday Blues

[Serielda 8]

I hate making posts like this one but after hearing some recent news it has made me feel really down. I can't afford to be down as I have a lot of things I need to learn for work, but I can't seem to shake right now feeling woe is me. I recently learned two former acquaintances just got their first house and My husband and I are still renting an apartment. Granted it's a very nice one but it makes me feel down. Second still feeling angry I can't be a vegan. Dr.s told me due to all the grains in a vegan diet, no due to me still healing and felt it would be safer having me go grain free on top of gluten free. I have bills out the yin yang due to getting diagnosed. I know some would say improving my health is better and one thing at a time but it still doesn't take the omg why is this all happening to me go away. I would just love for once a string of awesome things of the good variety to happen for me. I know one of the best things did happen was finding out I was not a hypochondriac and that what is wrong is treatable before seriously bad and sad things happened worse than it could have been.

I guess the thanksgiving holiday and spending it around the idiots on my hubby's side of the family didn't help since I had to sound like a broken record on why I couldn't eat anything there politely also didn't help. I know I'm still new and stuff and they are too, but ''Ello ever hear of Google? My father is their age and he knows how to google crap, at least I had awesome stuffs at home that wouldn't make me sick. Was anyone else's first holiday season after diagnosis this depressing?

On a positive note I just realized I'm no longer living in that really crazy neighborhood that used to flip me out with all the bad things that went on there and my current home is much calmer.

[nvsmom 334]

(((Hugs)))

[StephanieL 74]

i am not telling you to disregard dr.'s orders outright. Do you think it would be possible to speak to a nutritionist? I haven't had a lot of luck with them myself but perhaps you can find someone who could help you manage the vegan thing and Celiac.  You can get plenty of protein with plants, nuts and soy if you wanted to and are really committed to staying vegan.  It may take some research but I know people with far more restrictions that have managed that way of eating and stayed healthy.

[BlessedMommy 63]

Does the doctor have any evidence that cutting out grains and beans will help you to heal?

[mamaw 133]

Holidays  in general  can  be  pretty depressing then  throw  in a new illness....  hugs  to you.....Please  don't dwell  in what  others  have, your  turn & time  will come...you don't  know  the others  money  situation  or  their   thought  process..they  may not  be  ready for a new home  & may end  up  biting  off  more than  they  have  funds to pay for.. ( that is just  an example)...sometimes when  people  rush into decisions  , big  decisions  to  fast  they  loose  big time.... so it is  better  to  do  lots  of  planning & be prepared  for  future events.....

You  will  catch up at  the right  time.....be happy  that  you are  healing  have a  great partner & are in a safe place...with  gluten-free food... I  always  prepare  gluten-free  food  to take to any  invite...

It  is  hard  for  us to  understand  this   celiac  let  alone  others  who  have  no  clue or  issues.. I find  that  if  it  isn't  effecting  them then they  don't  truly care...Just  a  normal  thing although  it  hurts at times...For  instance  do  you  care  about  MS or  a brain  tumor  if  no one  around  you  has it? yes, you may  care  but  not  enough  to  know  everything about  it...so  don't  be  to hard  on  people  who  lack knowledge  about  celiac  when  they don't  have  it...

The  good  news  is  you  found  you have  many things to be thankful for... And  may health & happiness  follow  you through  this  holiday season....

hugs

[Serielda 8]

To address the mentions of nutritionists yes they also agreed on the no grains period thing. I know I've shown some improvements since the changes, which I know positive improvements should trump over a lot, but I still find myself lashing out about it. I feel that helping with a cause I wanted to support strongly was stolen from me by ignorance. like I said very angry about all of this.

[mamaw 133]

sending  more hugs!  You  are  still all good  when it  comes  to celiac....the feelings  you  have  are  normal   to celiac,  I  think most  of us  have  been  there our   first  few  months  into  recovery....sadness,  anger, denial, an  emotional  roller  coaster  for  many....some  it  takes  much longer  to  find  peace ... the good  thing it  does  happen...

[StephanieL 74]

If you look at your diet, what are you eating in large amounts that you would need a replacement for to be vegan? Perhaps people here can help with suggestions that may help you return to being vegan and that may help some of the anger you are feeling?

((hugs))

[BlessedMommy 63]

Quinoa, amaranth, wild rice, and buckwheat aren't grains. Is including them in your diet for more variety an option for you? 

[Serielda 8]

Blessed, trust me when I asked several sources that did give me a reasonable answer. I tend to agree with you, however they all seem in agreement . So I am trying things their way. After all they specialize in what they do. I understand my constant doubt is not cool as I have seen improvements, and my minor sarcasm about some requests would be like them trying to do my job which is helping run a medium to large IT network they know nil about but trust those who know IT to run. Once I had that analogy I was like ok, they know food and medicine so let's give a benefit of doubt they are doing things right. Since I do feel better.

[Serielda 8]

StephanieL, post extreme diet make over there was a freaking ton of rice and veggies and I admit to eating a lot of gluten free soy fake meat things. Cooking at night fell on hubby as I work overnights. I admit he is a trooper and serious keeper. When I was told no gluteny things he stopped eating them . He stated if I couldn't have some of my faves he wasn't gonna have them either as it isn't cool to eat in front of peeps what they can't have.

[cap6 89]

Rice, quinoa are in the grain family and they may not work for you right now as they can be difficult for some people to digest.  Perhaps some time down the line as your gut heals you may be able to reintroduce them into your diet if you wish.  My niece is a vegan and know she eats tons of veggies.  Is fish an option at all for you.  That's a tough one as even beans for protein can be very difficult to digest.