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Would You Eat It?

angel-jd1

By angel-jd1
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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angel-jd1 Community Regular
angel-jd1
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Last week Dad had made supper. Cooked a roast. He went to check the roast and set the lid down on a area that had chunks of cracker crumbs (from his salad ). He then put the contaminated lid back onto the roast. I refused to eat the roast then.........he was very mad. Would you have eaten it??

Last night was again visiting my parents. Dad was cutting a large steak for everyone. He had just eating a salad with crackers. He cut a bite of meat stuck it into his cracker contaminated mouth and continued cutting the steak with that fork.........I again refused to eat the contaminated meat. He was again very mad. Would you have eaten it?

He just isn't understanding why I am refusing to eat the foods that he has contaminated.

Would you have done the same thing in these situations or would you have done something different?

-Jessica :rolleyes:

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Carriefaith Enthusiast
Carriefaith
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I wouldn't have eaten them either. I've been in a similar situation, but you have to do what is best for your health, even if it hurts someone's feelings or makes them mad.

Sophiekins Rookie
Sophiekins
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I wouldn't have eaten them either. . .the first time around, he's allowed to make a mistake and you're entitled to object and explain why you're not eating. The second time. . .well. . .I love my Dad, but I'm not sure I'd want to eat anything he'd already stuck his used fork into period. . .particularly if he'd been eating crackers. Next time you're at your parents' for dinner, maybe volunteer to cook for them (or help Dad with the roast. . .) so they can see how careful you are and they need to be if they want you to eat with them?

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TinkerbellSwt
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I have to agree with the others sorry dad, cant do it. Your health and well being is much more important. I know if I took a bite and got that crumb, I would have paid a hefty price. I dont want to be sick for a mere cracker crumb. I understand, hard to tell them no, but we have too.

i canary Rookie
i canary
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I agree with everyone. There is no way I would knowingly eat anything that was cross contaminated.

angel-jd1 Community Regular
angel-jd1
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Thanks for the validation guys :) I guess I just needed to vent to folks who would understand and not yell at me like I'm nuts!! :blink:

-Jessica :rolleyes:

happygirl Collaborator
happygirl
Posted

Jessica,

You have a lot of knowledge about Celiac and were merely putting that knowledge and "lessons learned" to work for you in this instance. I don't blame you, and I would have done the exact same thing in both instances. Not worth the risk...who wants to pay for something like that?

Good for you for sticking to your guns :)

Laura

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GlutenWrangler
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I wouldn't eat it either. If anything, you're the one who should have been mad at him for contaminating your food and being so insensitive. I hope for your sake he starts to be more careful.

-Brian

tarnalberry Community Regular
tarnalberry
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I would not have eaten it either. But I think - and I say this on here all the time - that it is *VITAL* that you make it clear that you will not argue with him about what is safe and what isn't. You make a choice, you stick to it, and he gets to either respect your choice or not respect it. Period.

The choice is yours alone to make.

The only decison he has is respecting it.

Debate over the matter should not center around whether or not it is safe. These are decisions that you make. You may decide, at that time, that you can't be sure something is safe, so you aren't going to eat it. But you're not sure, so you research it later, discover it is safe, and then next time, you have it. That doesn't mean you were wrong to not eat it the first time; you were right because you didn't know. What changed was your knowledge that allowed you to make a better choice.

It's all about your choice.

kbtoyssni Contributor
kbtoyssni
Posted

You did the right thing. Maybe he'll think twice next time he's about to contaminate your dinner. I was in a similar situation when my grandad made cheesy cauliflower, but he made it with blue cheese (I only discovered this after it was made). At the time I wasn't sure if blue cheese was ok so I didn't eat it. The worst part was that he tried to make it gluten-free and my mother (who is also gluten-free) told him it was ok. She ate it, but I just couldn't.

sewfunky Rookie
sewfunky
Posted

My stepdad got so angry on my birthday that he stopped talking to me. He thought I was overreacting when he put his used fork into my cheesedip. I didn't eat the dip anymore and he got so pissed. He later apologized, but I won't anything I'm not comfortable with.

angel-jd1 Community Regular
angel-jd1
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I would not have eaten it either. But I think - and I say this on here all the time - that it is *VITAL* that you make it clear that you will not argue with him about what is safe and what isn't. You make a choice, you stick to it, and he gets to either respect your choice or not respect it. Period.

The choice is yours alone to make.

The only decison he has is respecting it.

Debate over the matter should not center around whether or not it is safe. These are decisions that you make. You may decide, at that time, that you can't be sure something is safe, so you aren't going to eat it. But you're not sure, so you research it later, discover it is safe, and then next time, you have it. That doesn't mean you were wrong to not eat it the first time; you were right because you didn't know. What changed was your knowledge that allowed you to make a better choice.

It's all about your choice.

Tiffany-

It's funny that you say that because that's pretty much what I said haha He still was upset :P Hopefully after a few days he will cool off and have a bit more "respect" of my decision. It wasn't a personal attack against him to NOT eat the food he made. It was a personal decision to keep myself healthy.

-Jessica :rolleyes:

katrinamaria Explorer
katrinamaria
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i agree with everyone else. it's so annoying (and almost hurtful) when it's your own family who just doesn't get it. whenever i say something that smells/looks good that i can't eat, my dad always says "oh you can have just a little bit" :o i think that one just down right pisses me off more than any other celiac-related comments. ggrrr (sorry this was a bit off topic...just going with the "venting" part of it... lol)

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