Jump to content

  • Welcome to Celiac.com!

    You have found your celiac tribe! Join us and ask questions in our forum, share your story, and connect with others.



  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A1):

    Celiac.com Sponsor (A1-M):

  • Get Celiac.com Updates:
    Support Our Content
    eNewsletter
    Donate

Guys - Peripheral Symptoms? (don't Read If Easily Shocked)

gfp

By gfp
in Introduce Yourself / Share Stuff

Recommended Posts

gfp Enthusiast
gfp
Posted

OK,.. read on... you were warned.. and this is just a little embarrassing...

and seriously you have been warned...

So for those who don't know I guess it should be said I recently (a few months ago) split up a long term (5yr) relationship in a very messy and traumatic way... the relevant part of which my girlfriend was having an affair she denied even when I found out and worse I believed her even against overwhelming evidence for quite a while...

So for those who have no guessed ... the embarrassing subject is sexual performance...

On one part I know a great deal is psychological... I'm currently in a relationship of sorts ... and one recurring problem is that ... well I keep thinking of sex with my ex in the time she was having the affair and basically screwing the other guy and then coming home and screwing me... It's a pretty big immediate turn off ....

However ... on top of this I have been having other problems I feel are related... I have had really bad cramps .. my toes screwing up, calves knotting etc. and this is pretty much half the day if I do anything to provoke it... at one point it was getting worse and my left hand was doing the same cramping though this seems to have relaxed a little...

The link seems to be blood flow.. i.e. not to put to fine a point on it... when aroused ... and this is hard to tell if my lack of you know what is due to the bloodflow, the psychological issue or both (I suspect a bit of both)...

Anyone noticed anything similar??? It seems like a peripheral nerve or vascular problem? Otherwise healthwise I'm pretty good... working out and pretty trim... basically anyone seeing a photo of me on the beach is going to have me down as a poster case for a health magazine.. (sorry a bit big headed but better to be honest) ... I lost tons of weight in the break up and put it back on by working and eating very well ... but I feel its all just cosmetic to a large point ... I'm lifting weights pretty easily... but still have the cramps and also more frequent headaches and I don't think the problem is 100% psychological... yeah OK, I'm 40 in a few days... but prior to the break up and loosing a HUGE amount of weight (when I wasn't overweight to start out) I didn't have any real problems... it was hardly like I was 18 but I certainly didn't feel anxiety or performance probs...

My thoughts are the cramps are a dietary imbalance ?? Potassium ?? but I really don't know....

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):
Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8-M):


darlindeb25 Collaborator
darlindeb25
Posted

Well, maybe you should have some blood work done and see just what you are missing! That's a good start. Can you eat bananas for the leg cramps? My mom always swore by mineral water, she hates bananas. Are you drinking enough water?

the embarrassing subject is sexual performance
I think the intial problem is effecting your performance, but your performance is not the intial problem, if that makes sense. What you are going through is a trickle effect. This happens, which effects that, and then that effects this, which effects that--I'm sure you understand what I am getting at. Our bodies are very complex and when one thing is out of wack, then others are too. Neurological problems are very difficult to pinpoint--start with your doctor and go from there, even though I know many of us have very little confidence in our doctors at times. Yet, they are a starting point! Good luck!
hayley3 Contributor
hayley3
Posted

I have been going thru a similar experience of trying to figure out why I am having these spasms on my scalp which then turn into migraines. Not only were the headaches getting worse, but I was having intermittent cramps in my side and some problems with the eye muscles as well. I'm 50.

I finally decided it was a magnesium deficiency because I was getting migraines again, even though I had only quit taking my magnesium vitamins 3 days ago. Sooo, I started taking them again, the headaches and the cramps stopped and I was just starting to reorder some more when I saw your question. Actually I am taking a combo of magnesium-potassium, so I'm not sure which part of this combo is helping, now after reading your post. I always assumed it was the magnesium.

You could give it a try. I have no idea how long it would take for you to see improvement, but I'm pretty sure it will help. If you could get a doctor to do bloodwork that would be good too so you could see exactly what's going on.

I take Enzymatic Therapy Krebs Magnesium-Potassium Chelates because they are supposed to be more absorbable.

mommida Enthusiast
mommida
Posted

The headaches and muscle cramps could be related to a magnesium, potassium defiency. You need Calcium to absorb the Magnesium. From the trauma and weight loss, I suspect vitamin and nutrient defiencies.

I hope you will come to terms with the betrayal of your ex. Your ex cheated on you, not your current relationship. Stop punishing yourself for bad choices some one else made.

Happy Birthday! Happy New Year too!

Laura

Cruiser Bob Newbie
Cruiser Bob
Posted
... the embarrassing subject is sexual performance...

On one part I know a great deal is psychological... I'm currently in a relationship of sorts ... and one recurring problem is that ...

You simply are not in the right place at the right time with the right person. Bob

ravenwoodglass Mentor
ravenwoodglass
Posted

Steve, do you have an acupuncturist near you? They may be able to help with the blood flow and the nerve issues. They may be able to help you get more back in balance.

I do have to agree also that you may not be quite ready for another relationship yet or the person may just not be the right person. You need to be able to relax and perhaps you haven't quite gotten over the trauma of the past girlfreind. When the time and the person is right you will find that the past will stay in the past. Until then baby steps are fine. If the woman you are now with can be understanding it can help if you don't even try to have sex right now. Enjoy holding each other and cuddling, perhaps shower or bathe together, share meals and time. When everything is right all will fall into place. It can take a long time to heal from the sort of thing you experienced, do be patient with yourself.

gfp Enthusiast
gfp
Posted
  • Author
Well, maybe you should have some blood work done and see just what you are missing! That's a good start. Can you eat bananas for the leg cramps? My mom always swore by mineral water, she hates bananas. Are you drinking enough water?

I think the intial problem is effecting your performance, but your performance is not the intial problem, if that makes sense. What you are going through is a trickle effect. This happens, which effects that, and then that effects this, which effects that--I'm sure you understand what I am getting at. Our bodies are very complex and when one thing is out of wack, then others are too. Neurological problems are very difficult to pinpoint--start with your doctor and go from there, even though I know many of us have very little confidence in our doctors at times. Yet, they are a starting point! Good luck!

It all makes sense and I was wondering about potassium and magnesium ...

You simply are not in the right place at the right time with the right person. Bob

Um... well I guess I was beating about the bush a little...

What I mean is that when blood flow is diverted because of arousal then the cramps in my feet and calves just seem to trigger much more easily.

I think your correct about the place and time thing but only from the one side... that is it doesn't solve the cramping.

When the time and the person is right you will find that the past will stay in the past.
Again, same as my response to Bob...

I guess the time and person isn't correct together.... hmm .. some of you might get a pm ...

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):
Celiac.com Sponsor (A8):

Celiac.com Sponsor (A8-M):


gfp Enthusiast
gfp
Posted
  • Author

Well, I got some chelated potassium and magnesium yesterday ...

Will report back on the results vis a vis cramps ....

Nancym Enthusiast
Nancym
Posted

Oftentimes ED is the first sign of vascular disorders. Get checked for diabetes or blood sugar issues. That'd be an A1C test, which tests your average blood sugar. You might also want to read this guy's blog. He discusses heart disease and has non-medical ways to treat it, including using l-arginine, which produces Nitrous oxide, which is something that opens arteries and gets blood flowing in exactly the same way as Viagra.

His web site is: Open Original Shared Link

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

Go to topic listing

  • Get Celiac.com Updates:
    Support Celiac.com:
    Join eNewsletter
    Donate
  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A17):
    Celiac.com Sponsor (A17):



    Celiac.com Sponsors (A17-M):



  • Recent Activity

    1. Scott Adams
      0

      Gluten-Free Lemon Poppy Seed Shortbread

    2. cristiana
      - cristiana replied to KathyR37's topic in Coping with Celiac Disease
      4

      New here

      Hi @KathyR37 and a very warm welcome here. I am so very sorry that you are going through all of this. I just wanted to check, have you ever been tested for any other gastrointestinal conditions? Cristiana
    3. trents
      - trents replied to KathyR37's topic in Coping with Celiac Disease
      4

      New here

      @KathyR37, I would suspect that in addition to gluten intolerance, you have other food intolerances/sensitivities. This is very common in the celiac community. The most common offenders are oats, dairy, soy, corn and eggs with dairy and oats being the big two. Have you considered this? Have you tried keeping a food diary to detect patterns?
    4. Theresa2407
      - Theresa2407 replied to Theresa2407's topic in Gluten-Free Foods, Products, Shopping & Medications
      2

      Probiotics

      thank you for your advice. I have always taken them and I use Stonehedge because they are in a glass bottle, but don't have to be refrigerated. I also like they are 3rd party tested and state gluten free. But you never know if something better has come alone over the years.
    5. KathyR37
      - KathyR37 replied to KathyR37's topic in Coping with Celiac Disease
      4

      New here

      Thank you for your response. I have already learned about the info you sent but i appreciate your effort. I am the only one in my family cursed by this disease. I have to cook for them too. I make sure that my utensils are free of gluten and clean after using them for other food. I use non-porous pots and pans and gloves when cooking for them. One huge problem...
  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A19):


  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      131,818
    • Most Online (within 30 mins)
      7,748
    STy
    Newest Member
    STy
    Joined
  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A20):

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      121.4k
    • Total Posts
      1m
  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A22):



  • Celiac.com Sponsor (A21):


  • Upcoming Events

  • Posts

    • cristiana
      New here

      By cristiana · Posted

      Hi @KathyR37 and a very warm welcome here.  I am so very sorry that you are going through all of this. I just wanted to check, have you ever been tested for any other gastrointestinal conditions? Cristiana  
    • trents
      New here

      By trents · Posted

      @KathyR37, I would suspect that in addition to gluten intolerance, you have other food intolerances/sensitivities. This is very common in the celiac community. The most common offenders are oats, dairy, soy, corn and eggs with dairy and oats being the big two. Have you considered this? Have you tried keeping a food diary to detect patterns?
    • Theresa2407
      Probiotics

      By Theresa2407 · Posted

      thank you for your advice.   I have always taken them and I use Stonehedge because they are in a glass bottle, but don't have to be refrigerated.  I also like they are 3rd party tested and state gluten free. But you never know if something better has come alone over the years.
    • KathyR37
      New here

      By KathyR37 · Posted

      Thank you for your response. I have already learned about the info you sent but i appreciate your effort. I am the only one in my family cursed by this disease. I have to cook for them too. I make sure that my utensils are free of gluten and clean after using them for other food. I use non-porous pots and pans and  gloves when cooking for them. One huge problem I have is a gag reflex out of this world and if something doesn't taste good it is not going down. Most commercially made breads and such taste like old cardboard.Pastas are about the same. I did find one flour that I like and use it regularly, but it is so expensive! All gluten free food is way more expensive. I only eat twice a day because I cannot afford to buy all that. We live on a very low income so my food purchases are quite limited.
    • Scott Adams
      New here

      By Scott Adams · Posted

      What you've described—the severe weight loss, the cycle of medications making things worse, and the profound fear of eating before leaving the house—is a heavy burden to carry for 15 years. It is absolutely not your fault. While everyone's journey with celiac is different, the struggles with the learning curve, social isolation, and dietary grief are feelings many in the community know all too well. Your question about whether you should just eat what you want and manage the symptoms is a heartbreaking one, born from years of frustration. It's crucial to know that the diarrhea is a sign of ongoing damage to your small intestine from gluten, and simply managing the symptom with Imodium doesn't stop that internal harm or the risk of other complications. The fact that you are still getting sick within an hour of eating, even while trying to be gluten-free, is a huge red flag that something isn't right. This could be due to cross-contamination in your kitchen (e.g., using a shared toaster, colander, or condiment jars), hidden gluten in foods, or the possibility of another concurrent condition like refractory celiac disease. Don't give up!  This article has some detailed information on how to be 100% gluten-free, so it may be helpful (be sure to also read the comments section.):    
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

NOTICE: This site places This site places cookies on your device (Cookie settings). on your device. Continued use is acceptance of our Terms of Use, and Privacy Policy.