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My mom and my cousin are really keen on asking me what I can't eat but, when it comes to utensils, pots, etc, I can't have my own. My mom says there simply isn't enough room. This is very typical of her, very common for her to give up when something inconveniences her.

I am tempted, very very tempted to see if my best friend who has celiac would like to get a place together. She's moving on out soon (I hope) from a divorce. Our kitchen could be 100% gluten free!

I scrub everything I use. I have GSE most likely as opposed to celiac disease. I don't think that micro-grams of it will affect me, yet. But, when I do eat something with known gluten like a cookie or blueberry dressing, I get massively bad cramps until it passes. So, it is obvious to me now that I dont need to torture myself to be diagnosed. I don't care which gene is carrying it! It hurts! My stomach has been sore like this for two-three years. And now that I stepped away from gluten, even for 3-4 weeks, I feel better without it.

Suggestions please. She has zero tolerance for things that inconvenience her.

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1. Could you get your own kitchen things and keep them in your room? that would be the easiest solution.

2. Wash what is there really really well. Is anything stainless steel? We use that for everything in my house, and I've never had an issue.

3. Perhaps be even more inconvenient than pots and pans by taking up the bathroom all day when you are glutened? ;) Sorry, had to throw that in.

4. I like the moving out idea. If you are old enough and it's feasible, I'd go for it.

Best of luck!

Lycopene Rookie
Lycopene
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That's what I did. I moved out. The kitchen here isn't completely gluten free, but I do have a LOT more control over it and the pots are all stainless steel. I'll only been here for a few days, but I haven't been glutened yet! I have been sick, but that's due to a different intolerance that I'm unaware of as of right now.

If moving out is a feasible option, DO IT. If not, ciavyn's idea of getting pots and keeping them in your room is a great idea too. [:

prisskitty Rookie
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3. Perhaps be even more inconvenient than pots and pans by taking up the bathroom all day when you are glutened? ;) Sorry, had to throw that in.

That's an idea. But, she has her own bathroom lol.

I am just tired of trying to find food to eat around there. Everything is mushed together.

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Ahorsesoul
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You know in your heart what the right answer is for you. Go for it. You have been given a gift with a friend who is also gluten free.

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RideAllWays
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Your best friend has Celiac! That's so lucky to have somebody so close to you understand completely what you are going through. You guys can probably help each other out a ton. If it's affordable, I would totally go for moving in together. When I moved into my own gluten free kitchen it made a big difference :)

prisskitty Rookie
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Your best friend has Celiac! That's so lucky to have somebody so close to you understand completely what you are going through. You guys can probably help each other out a ton. If it's affordable, I would totally go for moving in together. When I moved into my own gluten free kitchen it made a big difference :)

I am lucky to have her she's the reason I found out about this. But, unfortunately, I can't seem to meet up with her lately. She is VERY busy. It'd be good if her and I could discuss this.

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Your very own gluten free toaster or toaster oven would help, too. Can you label your own jars of peanut butter, jam, butter, etc, and have other people respect that? Hmmm, I'm seeing your own refrigerator in your room, too. Sounds like it might be easier to move in with your friend!

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My mom and my cousin are really keen on asking me what I can't eat but, when it comes to utensils, pots, etc, I can't have my own. My mom says there simply isn't enough room. This is very typical of her, very common for her to give up when something inconveniences her.

I am tempted, very very tempted to see if my best friend who has celiac would like to get a place together. She's moving on out soon (I hope) from a divorce. Our kitchen could be 100% gluten free!

I scrub everything I use. I have GSE most likely as opposed to celiac disease. I don't think that micro-grams of it will affect me, yet. But, when I do eat something with known gluten like a cookie or blueberry dressing, I get massively bad cramps until it passes. So, it is obvious to me now that I dont need to torture myself to be diagnosed. I don't care which gene is carrying it! It hurts! My stomach has been sore like this for two-three years. And now that I stepped away from gluten, even for 3-4 weeks, I feel better without it.

Suggestions please. She has zero tolerance for things that inconvenience her.

Pots and pans can be shared as long as they are stainless or other metal which is not porous. If they are cleaned well with soap and water, there should be no problem at all. You do need a separate toaster but they do not take up much room at all. They are not willing to do this? :blink: For utensils, same thing. Wooden ones you need your own but silverware does not have to be segregated.

Getting your own place would be good as long as you can afford it. Supporting yourself and funding a gluten-free diet can be very pricey but a good option if you can afford it. Aren't families a pain in the butt? :angry:

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Well then, it has to not inconvenience her. "Hi, Mom. I got these few things so I can eat safely. There's just this one pot, a set of utensils I'll wash between meals and my own cutting board because yours are wood. I'll put them in the corner of this cabinet and they'll barely take up any space. Thanks a million for understanding! I knew you would want to help me feel better. Can I help you cook dinner or take out the trash?" ;)

Gluten-free doesn't have to be pricey. The absolute safest foods like rice, potatoes, veggies, and dried beans are cheap! It's only pricey if you're trying to pretend you can eat like other people and you spend a bunch of money on commercial gluten-free breads and baked goods.

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Well then, it has to not inconvenience her. "Hi, Mom. I got these few things so I can eat safely. There's just this one pot, a set of utensils I'll wash between meals and my own cutting board because yours are wood. I'll put them in the corner of this cabinet and they'll barely take up any space. Thanks a million for understanding! I knew you would want to help me feel better. Can I help you cook dinner or take out the trash?" ;)

Gluten-free doesn't have to be pricey. The absolute safest foods like rice, potatoes, veggies, and dried beans are cheap! It's only pricey if you're trying to pretend you can eat like other people and you spend a bunch of money on commercial gluten-free breads and baked goods.

I think rice and meat will make me fat(ter) though if thats all I eat. But maybe not. Considering all I eat when I eat gluten is fried crap.

Thanks for the advice. I think I am just going to go back to being gluten free. I want to test first but I cant find anyone to do it!

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