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MommyStina

By MommyStina
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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MommyStina
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My dear younger sister is getting married this month and for the past six weeks we have been going around about the reception food. My daughter and I both have Celiac and are both members of the wedding party...So my sister tells me that they talked to the caterer about gluten free options and the caterer didn't even know what gluten free was (oh, brother). So they asked what other options were available and were told there was a vegetarian option....which should be fine, right? I tried to tell she and my mom that i need a list of ingredients and to know how they prepare said meal if I am going to eat it. That was six weeks ago. Last week I get a phone call from my darling sister telling me that the buffet shouldn't be a problem because I will be the third person through the line and i can just eat the salad, green bean and potatoes because those should be ok. I am sick of fighting about it and am thinking that my husband will be bringing something for my daughter and I...is that too tacky? My hubby is the only one of us that isn't in the wedding. She says she wants me to be able to enjoy the evening and just have fun.

ok, so let me bring my own food and know that i won't end up sick....

A couple of days ago I mentioned needing to make cake the day before because my daughter will be heartbroken if she can't have cake....my sister was like "you can't eat the cake?"

ARGHHH! Talk about frustrating!

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mommida
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Ughhh! Has the wedding turned your sister's head to mush or has she always been like this?

Bring your own safe food and bake a gluten free cake! Have a safe and healthy celebration! Say congatulations to the happy couple! Just wait, they might have a Celiac child in the future!

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GlutenFreeManna
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My dear younger sister is getting married this month and for the past six weeks we have been going around about the reception food. My daughter and I both have Celiac and are both members of the wedding party...So my sister tells me that they talked to the caterer about gluten free options and the caterer didn't even know what gluten free was (oh, brother). So they asked what other options were available and were told there was a vegetarian option....which should be fine, right? I tried to tell she and my mom that i need a list of ingredients and to know how they prepare said meal if I am going to eat it. That was six weeks ago. Last week I get a phone call from my darling sister telling me that the buffet shouldn't be a problem because I will be the third person through the line and i can just eat the salad, green bean and potatoes because those should be ok. I am sick of fighting about it and am thinking that my husband will be bringing something for my daughter and I...is that too tacky? My hubby is the only one of us that isn't in the wedding. She says she wants me to be able to enjoy the evening and just have fun.

ok, so let me bring my own food and know that i won't end up sick....

A couple of days ago I mentioned needing to make cake the day before because my daughter will be heartbroken if she can't have cake....my sister was like "you can't eat the cake?"

ARGHHH! Talk about frustrating!

Oh dear. So sorry for your clueless of you family. I think you should just bring your own food, but try not to draw too much attention to it. Slip off to a dressing room to eat something and then come back. Don't make it obvious that you had to do that. You sister is trying to accommodate you, but it's obvious she and the caterers are clueless so don't trust anything at all. "Vegetarian" food could be the worst if it's anything other than a fresh salad, since a lot of the meat-replacements have wheat in them. Green beans and potatoes could be made with a canned broth containing gluten or soy sauce. Maybe you can get some salad if there are no cro

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MommyStina
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Oh dear. So sorry for your clueless of you family. I think you should just bring your own food, but try not to draw too much attention to it. Slip off to a dressing room to eat something and then come back. Don't make it obvious that you had to do that. You sister is trying to accommodate you, but it's obvious she and the caterers are clueless so don't trust anything at all. "Vegetarian" food could be the worst if it's anything other than a fresh salad, since a lot of the meat-replacements have wheat in them. Green beans and potatoes could be made with a canned broth containing gluten or soy sauce. Maybe you can get some salad if there are no cro

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Ahorsesoul
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This is an exellent learning experience for your daughter. She will be having a gluten free wedding. So spend the time talking about how the two of you could change things to be gluten free. It is not an eating event. It should not be about the food.

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K8ling
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UGH so sorry you have to handle this! What a pain in the butt. I would definitely bring your own food. Everyone else can kiss it because it because THEY won't get sick from the food. Do what you have to to make it safe for you and your daughter.

((hugs))!!!

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sahm-i-am
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MommyStina - bring your own food and stay healthy! I'm sorry your family is so caught up in the wedding to not think of others. There are probably many people coming to the wedding that have other allergies and issues, too. I'm sorry for all those, but it is getting harder and harder to accomodate a large group for meals. This past weekend I helped a friend make a gluten free ice cream cake for her daughter's birthday party since 3 of the guests were celiac. We thought we had our bases covered when wouldn't you know it, one of the girls couldn't have the cake because she had a dairy allergy! Darn!

Take care of your daughter and yourself and don't feel bad. I wouldn't even hide it and eat in the dressing room. Grab a plate from the buffet and eat like any other person at the dinner. If you calmly state that you have a gluten intolerance issue and leave it at that you should be fine. That won't cause too much attention to you, your daughter, or the bride. It might even bring awareness to some poor soul who has had tummy troubles for years and is trying to find out why. Most people might not even notice, especially if the meal you bring is similar.

Whatever you do, I hope you have fun and are able to enjoy the day!

Take care,

Wendi

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Ughhh! Has the wedding turned your sister's head to mush or has she always been like this?

Bring your own safe food and bake a gluten free cake! Have a safe and healthy celebration! Say congatulations to the happy couple! Just wait, they might have a Celiac child in the future!

omg LOLOL... your last sentence- im still laughing (maybe i have a twisted sense of humour- but wow- funny)

ravenwoodglass Mentor
ravenwoodglass
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Take care of your daughter and yourself and don't feel bad. I wouldn't even hide it and eat in the dressing room. Grab a plate from the buffet and eat like any other person at the dinner. If you calmly state that you have a gluten intolerance issue and leave it at that you should be fine. That won't cause too much attention to you, your daughter, or the bride. It might even bring awareness to some poor soul who has had tummy troubles for years and is trying to find out why. Most people might not even notice, especially if the meal you bring is similar.

Whatever you do, I hope you have fun and are able to enjoy the day!

Take care,

Wendi

My DD is getting married soon (she is chosing to ignore her celiac diagnosis and there is nothing I can do about it) and that will be the option I will likely do since I will have to drive 6 hours the next day to get home. My DD is very fearful that even though the caterer says they can make me a safe meal that it really won't be. I'll play it by ear but make sure I bring my own food. I decided I will let them give me a piece of cake, I'll wrap it in plastic and bring it home as a momento but I sure won't eat it.

The event is about celebrating the joining of two people who love each other not about the food. I fully intend to enjoy myself even if I have to fend for myself foodwise and I hope the OP does also.

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Ahorsesoul
Posted

Ravenwoodglass,

I always thought it would be nice to dry out a piece of the wedding cake for a shadow box. Just not sure if it would really dry without molding. I'm sure the frosting would dry ok.

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ravenwoodglass
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Ravenwoodglass,

I always thought it would be nice to dry out a piece of the wedding cake for a shadow box. Just not sure if it would really dry without molding. I'm sure the frosting would dry ok.

I am thinking about putting in a box with some silica jel. I don't know if it will work but since I have seen old shadow box type things with cake in them I figure I will give it a try. I already have some lavender dryed and will see if I can get out of the reception with a floral centerpiece to add to it. She is having a cake like the old fashioned ones where everyone brought a single layer from home and piled them up, where the tradition of the multiple layers came from, and it should slice really pretty. I know she is useing white, chocolate, and I think spice and carrot. I can't wait to see it but do wish I could eat it.

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