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Safe gluten-free Dating And Romance Advice


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IrishHeart Veteran

Saw this on someone's blog today. A woman, a self proclaimed "gluten free mentor" offers an ebook. Here is what she offers:

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melikamaui Explorer

lol! You are too cute!

I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately as my oldest is about to enter the "tween" years. I know we still are a few years off from dating, but he is already getting upset about being "different". Which is remarkable because every one (and I mean EVERY ONE) of his friends has either an allergy or an intolerance to one food or another. He hardly sticks out in this crowd! I am worried about how he will feel when he begins dating and his date doesn't know about celiac disease the way his friends now do. It keeps me up at night sometimes worrying.

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squirmingitch Veteran

Good one IH!

Hummmmm.... melikamaui, get a whole bunch of disposable toothbrushes! He can give them to his dates.

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IrishHeart Veteran

For starters, he might have better luck with the girls if he stands up and takes that bib off.

;)

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squirmingitch Veteran

Snort!laugh.giflaugh.giflaugh.gif

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Jestgar Rising Star

Well, can you check that stuff when you BUY it? Cuz, really, can you imagine interrupting the momentum to put on your glasses to read a label on a tube of something or other?!

*snort*

And as you get older..."I can't see....honey, can you read this? Turn another light on. Crap, wait, I'll get the readers..."

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*snort*

And as you get older..."I can't see....honey, can you read this? Turn another light on. Crap, wait, I'll get the readers..."

laugh.giflaugh.giflaugh.giflaugh.gif

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kareng Grand Master

Don't we always tell people that pure and natural foods are safest? Homemade whipped cream and chocolate sauces are they way to go. If you are dairy free, can you make whipped cream from coconut milk?

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catsmeow Contributor

lol! You are too cute!

I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately as my oldest is about to enter the "tween" years. I know we still are a few years off from dating, but he is already getting upset about being "different". Which is remarkable because every one (and I mean EVERY ONE) of his friends has either an allergy or an intolerance to one food or another. He hardly sticks out in this crowd! I am worried about how he will feel when he begins dating and his date doesn't know about celiac disease the way his friends now do. It keeps me up at night sometimes worrying.

I am the only one in my house who has to be gluten-free, however, my home is gluten-free and my family eats gluten-free at home. My 2 daughters (12 and 14), know how to cook gluten-free, they know how to read labels, and they know all about CC. I have told them that they would be a celiac boys dream date. He wouldn't have to explain a thing to them...LOL

You know, I lay in bed at night and worry about my kids too. Being a parent is such a worry isn't it?

I have often reflected on how hard dating would be, and came to the conclusion that it would take a special, big hearted, compassionate person to date a gluten-free person. I've read before on here that it is the perfect jerk detector. Your son will find some very sweet girls who will be totally onboard with it.

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IrishHeart Veteran

Don't we always tell people that pure and natural foods are safest? Homemade whipped cream and chocolate sauces are they way to go. If you are dairy free, can you make whipped cream from coconut milk?

There is something called MIMICREME that supposedly whips right up.

Safe from all allergens.

just sayin.... :)

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IrishHeart Veteran

It keeps me up at night sometimes worrying.

Hon, your son is already equipped to deal with challenges, having a DX so young. He's adaptable, right? He's flourishing, right?

You're a good momma, right? RIGHT!

He's a warrior!!

I am sure you will teach him to deal with that dating hurdle too!

No worries!! :)

In the years to come, more and more people will be like US.

WE will be the majority and he will not feel "different".

He will just be his awesome, special self.

I'd rather be "special, healthy-eating" celiac me than a fat-assed fast-food junkie any day. I was overweight before I became very ill and I see how my food choices contributed to that problem. I ate anything and everything. I am a gourmet cook and I had a blast EATING all my creations. I also ate Subway sammies and potato chips. I was a food snob, but also indulged the "junkie" in me. Bagels, donuts, pastries, croissants. I ate them all.

Having celiac trigger in me was devastating (as it tried to kill me) but it was also life-saving as I eat healthier than I ever have in my life. I honor my body now.

If we do not view ourselves as "abnormal" or "different", then others won't either. I'm gluten-free and I'm proud!! :lol:

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I am the only one in my house who has to be gluten-free, however, my home is gluten-free and my family eats gluten-free at home. My 2 daughters (12 and 14), know how to cook gluten-free, they know how to read labels, and they know all about CC. I have told them that they would be a celiac boys dream date.

Well, see, isn't this perfect?

One of your daughters can date her son!

Look at that, IH is a match-maker. :)

BTW, there IS a dating site for people with food allergies.

I saw it advertised in Living Without Magazine.

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catsmeow Contributor

Well, see, isn't this perfect?

One of your daughters can date her son!

Look at that, IH is a match-maker. :)

BTW, there IS a dating site for people with food allergies.

I saw it advertised in Living Without Magazine.

Hee Hee....it could happen, my daughter's could date a GFer, they go with me to all of my support meetings, where they meet plenty of gluten-free kids.

Living without considers Celiac.com as a dating site?????? :blink::D

Now that's funny!!!!!

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Living without considers Celiac.com as a dating site?????? :blink::D

Now that's funny!!!!!

No, no kitty :)

you misread that. I SAW an AD for a dating site for people with allergies in Living Without Mag.

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catsmeow Contributor

No, no kitty :)

you misread that. I SAW an AD for a dating site for people with allergies in Living Without Mag.

Ohhhhh OKKKKKK....I misread it. B)

It must be because someone painted a clown on my ass.. :o

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IrishHeart Veteran

Ohhhhh OKKKKKK....I misread it. B)

It must be because someone painted a clown on my ass.. :o

As long as it's gluten-free paint, whatever blows yer skirt up, kiddo! :lol:

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As long as it's gluten-free paint, whatever blows yer skirt up, kiddo! :lol:

LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL

I'm not itching, so it must be gluten-free!!! :D

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