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Would You Be Mad?

Guhlia

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Guhlia Rising Star
Guhlia
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Okay, I know that sometimes I'm super sensitive. I'm trying to figure out how to take this e-mail. It sounds really rude to me, but like I said, I'm often overly sensitive. He sent me an e-mail asking me to please leave feedback and I sent him an e-mail simply stating that I would leave feedback after we completed testing and thank you for being patient. This is the e-mail I got back from him:

what do you mean after item been tested there are no broken tabs or cut wires what do you mean by test.............my harness has nothing to do with your electrical componets.............test how do you test a harness..................either its good or its not wires are melted tabs broken connections rusty..........you lost me with TEST????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
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CarlaB Enthusiast
CarlaB
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I think you should just explain what you mean by test to him. Things are always taken wrong when you're not talking in person because so much of our communication is body language, he may also have taken your email wrong. I wouldn't worry about it ...

ravenwoodglass Mentor
ravenwoodglass
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Okay, I know that sometimes I'm super sensitive. I'm trying to figure out how to take this e-mail. It sounds really rude to me, but like I said, I'm often overly sensitive. He sent me an e-mail asking me to please leave feedback and I sent him an e-mail simply stating that I would leave feedback after we completed testing and thank you for being patient. This is the e-mail I got back from him:

For a seller to demand feedback is really rude. Have you checked his feedback? Does he have some that refer to this item not working or a lot of recent negatives? Is he new with a FB of less than 50? If he's new he may just be overanxious and want a higher number fast, if he has had a number of negatives he may want to be sure this item is okay or to push the negatives furthur down the page. No matter what the reason though if it was my transaction even if the item was acceptable no feedback would be left for this person at all and I would email him and tell him that his rudeness was why. If he pulls something like giving you a negative just because you didn't leave feedback for him let Ebay know about.

cgilsing Enthusiast
cgilsing
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I agree with ravenwood. This guy is being very demanding. I think his e-mail is pretty rude and I wouldn't give him feedback.

tiredofdoctors Enthusiast
tiredofdoctors
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I haven't EVER had a seller "talk" to me that way . . . I would want clarification as to what he meant as well. He may want positive feedback and be anxious about it, but that certainly isn't going to get positive feedback! I'm overly sensitive sometimes, too, but I think that was downright RUDE. As a buyer, you have the right to make sure that your item checks out prior to leaving feedback. If you put that he was great, loved the merchandise, etc. and then it was a piece of "poop", he'd get by with selling shoddy merchandise. I think he was WAY out of line as a seller . . . .

AndreaB Contributor
AndreaB
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I don't think this person meant to be rude, he/she sounds very irritate though. He/she is probably looking to build up feedback but needs to be a liitle more tactful about how he/she is coming across.

I still don't get feedback from everyone and I ask them to leave feedback after they get the item or to contact me via email if they are not satisfied to we can work something out. If always leave feedback and would appreciate the same but not everyone does leave feedback.

I echo someone else's post.....is this a new seller, do this person have a lot of negative feedback?

hannahsue01 Enthusiast
hannahsue01
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How RUDE! I have had bad experiences with ebay sellers as well. They get very defensive even when wrong. I had one person sell me a pair of MINT/LIKE NEW used Easter shoes for my daughter and when they arrived they had not just one or a little scuff but many many scuffs on them and we went round and round with emials......we never left feed back for each other. The other time I ordered a product in one color and recieved another....I ended up leaving her bad feedback as she wished not to correct the mistake and she went off. I don't think anybody should be or is required to leave feedback. You should be alloted as much time as you need to check out the product before leaving feedback (but be aware if there is a reutrn or exchange policy there usually is a time limit). I defenantly would not leave him any positive feedback.

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Guhlia Rising Star
Guhlia
Posted
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Thanks guys, I really needed to hear that. I did check his feedback and it wasn't the greatest. I knew this going into the sale though. I was buying parts for our business that we can only get used, and often only from eBay. It wasn't a lot of money, so I figured if it was a bad sell, we wouldn't lose out on much. I just can't believe that he e-mailed me like that. I really needed to hear from someone else that it was rude. Thank you so much. I think I will just not leave feedback unless he keeps pestering me, then I will have to leave negative feedback and report him. Thanks again. I feel much better now.

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Ursa Major
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Angie, he is definitely rude! I've never had a seller treat me like that. He doesn't deserve positive feedback. If the part turns out to be acceptable, I'd leave neutral feedback, stating that you're satisfied with the merchandise, but not the quality of communication.

wolfie Enthusiast
wolfie
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Feedback is optional on ebay. I sell a lot on Ebay and usually don't leave feedback until I have heard from the buyer, either by email or thier leaving feedback, to make sure they are satisfied. This way if there is a problem, I have the chance to remedy the situation so that everyone is happy. that being said, I would never dream of begging someone for or demanding that someone leave me feedback. That seller is out of line and very rude. I would not leave him feedback at all at this point. If he leaves you negative feedback or threatens to, report him to ebay and leave him a negative back.

Good luck!

jkmunchkin Rising Star
jkmunchkin
Posted

Ok I agree, that email was beyond rude!! I mean asking to leave feedback, fine. And your response was very nice and acceptable... his was ridiculous!!! And if he wants feedback so bad I would give him what he wants.

Your feedback should be: Received item, all looks well. Seller e-mailed me requesting feedback and when I responded letting them know that I would be happy to leave feedback as soon as I tested the item, I received an abusive and rude e-mail. DO NOT DEAL WITH THIS SELLER.

Ashley Enthusiast
Ashley
Posted

No, you're in the right. That was plain childish. Don't worry about it, I would just make sure what I bought is safe and functional :)

STINGER Newbie
STINGER
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I agree with ravenwood. This guy is being very demanding. I think his e-mail is pretty rude and I wouldn't give him feedback.

PERHAPS YOU SHOULD GIVE HIM THE FEEDBACK THAT HE WAS PUSHY AND RUDE!

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