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So sorry to hear about your b-in-l's death Paula and the problems around the funeral, will say a few prayers that you can get everything sorted out at this traumatic time xx

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Fiddle-Faddle Community Regular
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I'm so sorry you are going through even more grief.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

Cheri A Contributor
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Paula, I am just seeing this thread after being out of town. ((Hugs)) to you and your family. I'm so sorry about your bil's passing, and all of the family drama that's going on. I'll say a prayer for comforting peace and wisdom for you and dh.

Canadian Karen Community Regular
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Paula,

I just saw this. How tragic it is for you and your husband to have to go through not only the death of his brother, but all the pettiness that has come out in regards to the funeral.....

Sending you as many strength vibes as I can muster up! Hugs to you and your hubby....

Take care,

Karen

confusedks Enthusiast
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Paula,

I am so sorry for your loss. :( I hope everything works out for your family.

Kassandra

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Im sorry your struggling with his family, we are still dealing with my grandma's stuff and its been almost a year. I do know they bury people in the winter as my grandma was buried in December. Is there a way you can get a payment plan since others arent willing to help? I know our local funeral home gives payment plans for families.

confused Community Regular
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Thanks everyone, we made the arrangements to have him buried in 3 weeks, we made the arangements for the memorial and burial, we called the bank to get the money. we had everything planned out. Then the sisters got pissy and said no we wont do it til the spring, so we were like ok fine, we will wait til spring. Well now they dont want to bury him. This is what they want cause they dont want to spend money on the burial(which we were paying for in full) and now dont want an memorial in our hometown for others can say there goodbyes. They also told hubby he could pick the date for the memorial cause we are supposed to get a major storm on friday. Well then they called and said it will be thursday and friday. They keep calling now and hubby is just refusing to answer the phone. cause we are done with their lies.

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Hi Paula,

I just wanted you to know that I am so sorry for all you are going through. We had a similar situation when my husbands Dad died 3 years ago. The hospice nurse told us it was so common for families to have big problems and become bitter over the death of a family member. It's sad, but so true. My husbands brother and his wife stopped speaking to us when they found out my husband was executor of his Dad's will. My children still ask me why they can't see their cousin. It's very sad.

Anyway, I just wanted to send some extra hugs to you and your husband. I know how difficult and draining this situation can be.

Take care,

Joni

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confused Community Regular
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I just wanted to thank you for helping me get threw all of this and for listening to me cry and vent. We will be buryuing him this spring with another memorial and big celebration of his life. this holiday is going to be so hard without him, we are trying to get into the spirit but it is so hard to do. I did do a little memorial here for him, i got wreaths and big bows and put their names on the fence, of all the people we have lost this yr, i put one for my neighbor we lost, my grandma i lost, my bil, mil and my grandparents, it looks very nice and it is bringing us some closer in the whole matter.

But now that im starting to think straight i wanted to thank you all again, i could not have made it without all of u to listen to me.

paula

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