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jasonD2

By jasonD2
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jasonD2 Experienced
jasonD2
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ok so this is silly but its been bothering me. just started dating this girl and briefly touched on my gluten problem w/ her. we have also become very intimate lately...what if the gum she chews has gluten in it, what if the chapstick (or makeup) she uses has gluten, what if she eats something with gluten then comes over to my place and we make out, what if her hair product contains wheat and she sleeps over and we share a pillow. Am i really expected to address these issues with her? I think if i did it would be a great way to lose her. Its only been a month and i cant get into this stuff with her now..i just cant. ive been playing it so cool with everything and so far all systems are go..if i start revealing my neuroticisms she will be turned off.

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K8ling Enthusiast
K8ling
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it depends, how sensitive are you? I use normal shampoo, makeup, lotion (although not aveeno) and soap. The chapstick I would ask about but she'll probably chalk it up to being quirky. You can TALK about the gum stuff but maybe lightly, just to test the waters.

If you aren't like...crazy sensitive...it might be ok (do you lick your pillows? I generally don't...)

jasonD2 Experienced
jasonD2
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dont think i lick pillows and to be honest i dont know how sensitive i am since i dont get classic celiac symptoms. seems like lately whenever i dont feel well i chalk it up to gluten exposure which may or may not be the case...think im just a sensitive person all around. but to date i still dont know which symptoms to attribute to gluten exposure

kareng Grand Master
kareng
Posted

You could have your 20 or so sisters on this site talk to her. :P

Ok, maybe not. I think you might have to talk about the lipstick issue. Some lipsticks have wheat in them. Like an allergy. If you were allergic to peanuts, she wouldn't wear lipstick with peanut oil.

However, young man, no sharing pillows until your married! ;)

jststric Contributor
jststric
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I finally asked my hubby to brush his teeth before any serious intimacy. I had sensitivities to some degree all the time and simply one by one found ways I might could be "contaminated". Serious kissing was one way. Since he isn't bothered by any of the foods I am, he still eats alot of them. You need to learn, thus know just how sensative you are, i.e. makeup, shampoos, etc. It's all a process and it all takes time. But it's up to you to learn, know and share with those around you.

ravenwoodglass Mentor
ravenwoodglass
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If you are close enough to be 'intimate' you should be close enough to discuss the gluten issue with her.

julandjo Explorer
julandjo
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If you are close enough to be 'intimate' you should be close enough to discuss the gluten issue with her.

Ditto this.

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I am very sensitive to trace gluten. We have a gluten free household. Yesterday I kissed my daughter after she had come home from eating out (gluten) with friends. She hadn't brushed her teeth first. Boy and I paying the price today. I'm worse glutened than I've been in months or even more than a year. I'm guessing that the kissing that you have in mind is more intimate than what my daughter and I did. You need to talk to her. If she's worth it, she will understand.

jasonD2 Experienced
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too early to bring this up with her..trust me on that

what happend when you are exposed to trace gluten?

dilettantesteph Collaborator
dilettantesteph
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I get extremely grumpy and I get uncontrollable diarrhea. Last time I couldn't get to the toilet and went all over the bedroom and bathroom floor. At least I managed to get out of the bed. I get all sorts of other miscellaneous symptoms, but those are the worst.

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