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Completely Dumbfounded

Adalaide

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Adalaide Mentor
Adalaide
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So I'm in the kitchen making supper and my mother-in-law wanders in and notices that I've baked some cookies. She asks if they are ones I can have and I say they are. She then proceeds to tell me how this woman she knows who was her neighbor back in California has some sort of wheat allergy or something (grrr... it is NOT an allergy people!) and that she knew of some way to like.... knead the gluten out of dough or something like that.

My immediate instinct was to begin bashing my face on the counter since it would have been far less painful that the conversation. Luckily I was able to refrain and smile and nod while praying she is incapable of contacting this person. (While my father's family is quite familiar with what I face I doubt my mother will have any better understanding than my husband's mother.)

I'm still dumbfounded by this. I mean how can people... what... huh? :huh: Frustrating as this is I'm sure it will be hilarious in a few days once thinking about it doesn't make me cross-eyed.

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samie Contributor
samie
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I understand. My hubby got the kids ice cream when we went to the store last weekend and I reliazed when we met at the register that he got some with gluten. I said I will go get some they can all have and he tried to say it probably only a little gluten.then he said just go get something else. I so wanted to bang my head on something after he said that.

kareng Grand Master
kareng
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I don't know if she is old enough for this but this is what I did with my mother & father (tho as frustrating as they can be, they were pretty good about it). I tell them "My doctor says..." Or "The doctor at the Ceiac Center at the Univ of Chicago says..." IF a doc & especially an expert says something, its true.

Of course my doc knows nothing about Celiac. I did read the info on the Chicago website. Sometimes lying isn't a sin. :D

Disclaimer: Please no discussions on the religious or moral implications of my last sentence. ;)

Roda Rising Star
Roda
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I met a grandmother of a friend of my youngest son. She proceeded to tell me that she was allergic to wheat. She then said she gave up whole wheat bread and only eats white bread now. DUH!!!

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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My immediate instinct was to begin bashing my face on the counter since it would have been far less painful that the conversation.

.... Frustrating as this is I'm sure it will be hilarious in a few days once thinking about it doesn't make me cross-eyed.

:lol:

I, too, have had to refrain from banging my head against the walls after hearing some ridiculous comments such as: "You can have white bread then? It's not WHOLE wheat, right?" :rolleyes:

and YES! soon, this will be hilarious to you---as hilarious it is to me right now. :lol: (really? beat the gluten out?? wouldn't that be great!! )

But, I have had some time to get used to such stupidity.

Naivete and ignorance abounds about celiac and gluten, hon---don't let it get to you And any time you have a chance to educate someone about gluten, go for it. ;) It could be a real bonding moment for you and MIL :) (okay, I almost I choked on that one--given how sweet my MIL was to me :rolleyes: ----may she RIP)

Before I became very ill from celiac back in 2007, I saw a sign for a Gluten Free bakery and I kiddingly said to hubs "what's gluten and why do we need to be free from it?" (and I was a pretty good baker--now, how stupid was that comment??) I was blissfully unaware of what celiac was and that gluten was slowly killing me.

Now I know. <_<

And that cafe is my where I went for moral support from the owner (a celiac) from the day of my DX and where I eat lunch several times a week now.

mommida Enthusiast
mommida
Posted

I find that I have to refrain from hurting the stupid person standing in front of me. :rolleyes:

Not that I'm a totally violent person. I just would like to stuff the piehole with gluten to make it stop talking.

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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I find that I have to refrain from hurting the stupid person standing in front of me. :rolleyes:

Not that I'm a totally violent person. I just would like to stuff the piehole with gluten to make it stop talking.

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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mushroom Proficient
mushroom
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And any time you have a chance to educate someone about gluten, go for it. ;) It could be a real bonding moment for you and MIL :) .

:lol: :lol:

New house rules - no eating at the computer!! Too much mess on the keyboard!!! :rolleyes:(still cleaning up...)

Adalaide Mentor
Adalaide
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I find that I have to refrain from hurting the stupid person standing in front of me. :rolleyes:Not that I'm a totally violent person. I just would like to stuff the piehole with gluten to make it stop talking.

I totally share your feelings. :lol:

The bonding thing is hilarious too. The only bonding I wanted to do last night was to bond her lips shut with some super glue so she'd stop.

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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:lol: :lol:

New house rules - no eating at the computer!! Too much mess on the keyboard!!! :rolleyes:(still cleaning up...)

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

waadisay?? A bonding moment with MIL?? yah, that IS pretty funny.

When I typed those words, I felt like this

vomit-smiley-9529.gif

Oh, shroomie -----wasn't it you who told me never to DRINK at the computer ?? No food either apparently.... :)

See, ADALAIDE--it's getting more and more hilarious by the minute.

Just blow it off, kiddo....we'll get you through these moments.

;)

Adalaide Mentor
Adalaide
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:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: waadisay?? A bonding moment with MIL?? yah, that IS pretty funny.When I typed those words, I felt like thisvomit-smiley-9529.gifOh, shroomie -----wasn't it you who told me never to DRINK at the computer ?? No food either apparently.... :)See, ADALAIDE--it's getting more and more hilarious by the minute.Just blow it off, kiddo....we'll get you through these moments. ;)

Oh my gosh, that little vomiting guy is great! Yeah, that's pretty much my reaction to bonding moments.

Can't remember the last time someone called me kiddo. :P I'm waaaaay too old for that.

mushroom Proficient
mushroom
Posted

Can't remember the last time someone called me kiddo. :P I'm waaaaay too old for that.

Wait till they start calling you dearie :ph34r: - you might change your mind :lol:

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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Wait till they start calling you dearie :ph34r: - you might change your mind :lol:

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I still have trouble with "ma'am" :rolleyes: ugh

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
Posted

Can't remember the last time someone called me kiddo. :P I'm waaaaay too old for that.

You're never too old to be a kiddo! :) It's a term of endearment...just my "thang". 25 years teaching, I guess.

mommida Enthusiast
mommida
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I've heard the "ma'am" long enough that is miss being called "kiddo".

I love the little puke face!

I'm so glad you agree with my other sentiments. I was starting to get worried about my state of mind lately. :rolleyes:

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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I've heard the "ma'am" long enough that is miss being called "kiddo".

I love the little puke face!

I'm so glad you agree with my other sentiments. I was starting to get worried about my state of mind lately. :rolleyes:

Naw, no worries......WE. GET. IT.

You know the famous line from Casablanca: "We'll always have Paris?

Well, we'll always have each other here at C.com, KIDDO! :)

GFfitgirl Newbie
GFfitgirl
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I get annoyed when people think my "gluten issue" is for dieting. I have been told to just not over indulge and I'll be fine. :blink:

However nothing beats my grandma telling my vegetarian cousin that chicken was fine to eat cause "its not meat, its chicken"....sigh.

mushroom Proficient
mushroom
Posted

I get annoyed when people think my "gluten issue" is for dieting. I have been told to just not over indulge and I'll be fine. :blink:

However nothing beats my grandma telling my vegetarian cousin that chicken was fine to eat cause "its not meat, its chicken"....sigh.

And a diet has to be for losing weight :huh: -- sigh!!! (although some of that wouldn't hurt :D )

Adalaide Mentor
Adalaide
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I get annoyed when people think my "gluten issue" is for dieting. I have been told to just not over indulge and I'll be fine. :blink: However nothing beats my grandma telling my vegetarian cousin that chicken was fine to eat cause "its not meat, its chicken"....sigh.

When my oldest daughter was about 3 or 4 she decided she was a vegetarian. (I indulged her knowing she'd grow out of it.) Her reason? Animals have feelings. Except chickens, she could eat chicken because they don't have feelings. :lol: Maybe she was talking to your grandma?

Scotslass Newbie
Scotslass
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I was in a resaurant in Edinburgh. The menu clearly staed what was suitable for Vegans, Vegetarians and piscatarians :blink:

I went up to the waitress and said 'I see you cater very well for vegetarians and and for those who are unsure of their level of vegetarianism, but do you have anything suitable for those with coeliacs?'

She scurried away and I felt a little mean that I'd maybe been too harsh..But really come on... :huh:

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