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GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

You & especially thier child, Hub, must put your foot down. You are not able to have guests, you are moving. You would love to have them in 2 weeks, 1 month... when you are settled and able to enjoy a visit. Everything is packed. You have plenty of helpers. I have a feeling MIL will set up your kitchen, etc.

Honestly, they can't come just decide to come without an invitation. Your husband is going to have to put his foot down with these people. YOu doing it probably won't matter. You are just that stupid girl who took thier son away.

I have no pull communicating with them. Not only am I the stupid girl that took their son away but I'm the stupid Yankee girl who stole their Southern boy's heart (never mind that he was 33 when I married him). Unfortunatley they have already requested work off and are driving across 8 states to get here. We said they could come the week AFTER we were done moving. They decided to come early and "help". My hubby has not seen his parents for two years so I can't say no to them visiting. We have visited my family more often even though both sets of parents live about the same distance away. I think the way this will play out is they will show up, I will show them the room piled with boxes and the small floor of the living room on which they can stay and they will either go to a hotel or stay with us for the night and complain the entire time. I am telling my husband he better fairly warn them of the sleeping arrangements they face if they want to stay with us and to reccommend a hotel but like any Southern parents they expect no less than Southern hospitality and expect to stay with us. Suggesting a hotel is the height of rudeness to them. At the new place they at least will have their own room (with an airmatress on the floor) and a guest bath to use.


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GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

Tell them "Great! Everything is packed, and the office is full of boxes, so bring sleeping bags and you can sleep on the kitchen floor." Ask them to pick up some instant coffee on their way, and some disposable bowls, and maybe extra milk so you can all have breakfast together before you get started. You'll provide the cereal.

LOL! Only one of them would FIT on my current kitchen floor! Maybe another one can sleep in the bathtub? :lol:

Oh and I dare not suggest milk to them...since I started having anaphyalctic reactions to dairy our house has been dairy free. They will NOT be happy when I hand them the coconut milk to put in their coffee. :lol::o:(

kareng Grand Master

Southern manners do not say to go to someone's house uninvited. They requested time off from work without even asking to visit? There is a reason your hub hasn't seen them in 2 years.

Do what Jess suggested. Have you hub tell them to bring sleeping bags &that everything, including the extra towels, cooking equipment, etc is packed. He also needs to tell them the food rules of your new place or they will bring donuts or something in. He needs to enforce it. He is a grown- up & must act like one, even with his parents.

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

Southern manners do not say to go to someone's house uninvited. They requested time off from work without even asking to visit? There is a reason your hub hasn't seen them in 2 years.

Do what Jess suggested. Have you hub tell them to bring sleeping bags &that everything, including the extra towels, cooking equipment, etc is packed. He also needs to tell them the food rules of your new place or they will bring donuts or something in. He needs to enforce it. He is a grown- up & must act like one, even with his parents.

They didn't invite themselves, we said they could come. Just not the day BEFORE we moved! I expected them to come the week after. Even though things would still be packed mostly I could handle them being here a week (or even a few days) later because we would have more rooms for them to stay in if they want. I'm going to talk to DH and see if maybe they will take two days instead of one to drive it. It is a 16 hour drive. MIL is afraid to fly. That would at least make it so they are showing up on the day of the move and we would have extra rooms and baths to put them in. My hubby has been good so far about enforcing the food rules with non-family. We'll see how he handles his parents. I'm not above being rude if I have to if they try to brinf food in. But every conversation I have ever had with them has resulted in a misunderstanding. I so don't want to do this. :(

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geez......moving is stessful enough.....

No advice......just my sympathy.

And let's hope they make it a 2-day trip. ;)

kareng Grand Master

They didn't invite themselves, we said they could come. Just not the day BEFORE we moved! I expected them to come the week after. Even though things would still be packed mostly I could handle them being here a week (or even a few days) later because we would have more rooms for them to stay in if they want. I'm going to talk to DH and see if maybe they will take two days instead of one to drive it. It is a 16 hour drive. MIL is afraid to fly. That would at least make it so they are showing up on the day of the move and we would have extra rooms and baths to put them in. My hubby has been good so far about enforcing the food rules with non-family. We'll see how he handles his parents. I'm not above being rude if I have to if they try to brinf food in. But every conversation I have ever had with them has resulted in a misunderstanding. I so don't want to do this. :(

No more open ended invitations to these people. :blink: Next time, set a date for them to come.

I guess sometimes rude people only understand rudeness back. Or maybe you're not rude, you're assertive.

Give them some jobs. Like MIL - here are 2 boxes that need to go in the linen closet. Who really cares how she arranges that. We like our kitchens in a certain way. Boxes of stuff for a bookcase. You can re-arrange later beause you don't have to try to use it everyday. At least the boxes will be out of the way.

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

geez......moving is stessful enough.....

No advice......just my sympathy.

And let's hope they make it a 2-day trip. ;)

Thanks. Sympathy appreciated! I'm sure I will have some funny stories to tell once they leave. :lol:


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kareng Grand Master

Thanks. Sympathy appreciated! I'm sure I will have some funny stories to tell once they leave. :lol:

When you've regained your sanity, you can tell us all about it!

On second thought.....sanity isn't really required to post here.

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

No more open ended invitations to these people. :blink: Next time, set a date for them to come.

I guess sometimes rude people only understand rudeness back. Or maybe you're not rude, you're assertive.

Give them some jobs. Like MIL - here are 2 boxes that need to go in the linen closet. Who really cares how she arranges that. We like our kitchens in a certain way. Boxes of stuff for a bookcase. You can re-arrange later beause you don't have to try to use it everyday. At least the boxes will be out of the way.

I'm assertive and it comes off as rudeness to them. Actually, I'm a planner and they are not planners at all. I like to know details of things such as where will we sleep if we visit? Or does that hotel we plan to stay at have a free breakfast buffet? The hotel they stayed at for our wedding did not have free breakfst. They had to PAY for breakfast. They were not happy about that. I have tried to warn them about things like this in advance ever since then and I always come off as sounding rude, they ignore my warning and then complain when what I tried to warn them about happened. They don't use the internet except for e-mail. They don't know how to research things like hotel choices in advance.

I like the idea of giving specific jobs but doubt they will listen to me. We do have lots of books and bookcases to fill. I will just rearrange my kitchen after they leave if they end up doing that.

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

When you've regained your sanity, you can tell us all about it!

On second thought.....sanity isn't really required to post here.

:lol::lol::lol: Good cause I'm going insane!

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

Had to share this hilarious story: Open Original Shared Link

Do you think he's one of us? :blink::lol:

Darn210 Enthusiast

Might I suggest alcohol to help you get thru the move? That's what Em uses to get thru her MIL visits . . . Ruhshelle, too. No driving the moving truck, tho.

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

Might I suggest alcohol to help you get thru the move? That's what Em uses to get thru her MIL visits . . . Ruhshelle, too. No driving the moving truck, tho.

Well, the inlaws are teetotalers so that might make it worse! But at least I would not have to worry about them visiting again anytime soon! :lol:

Darn210 Enthusiast

Well, the inlaws are teetotalers so that might make it worse! But at least I would not have to worry about them visiting again anytime soon! :lol:

Well that certainly makes it worth considering!! :lol:

By the way, the day that you are moving? . . . Um . . . :rolleyes: . . . yeah, I'm busy that day.

celiac-mommy Collaborator

Might I suggest alcohol to help you get thru the move? That's what Em uses to get thru her MIL visits . . . Ruhshelle, too. No driving the moving truck, tho.

Bring on the wodka! In the morning coffee, a big splash of vanilla whipped wodka, in the lunch soda, a big splash of cherry wodka, in the evening cocktail, a big splash of ANY kind of wodka in my wodka martini!!

That fixes it ALL! :lol::lol:

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

Bring on the wodka! In the morning coffee, a big splash of vanilla whipped wodka, in the lunch soda, a big splash of cherry wodka, in the evening cocktail, a big splash of ANY kind of wodka in my wodka martini!!

That fixes it ALL! :lol::lol:

So I should just have you over and my in-laws will never speak to me again! Okay so the moving truck gets here at 9 AM. You show up with the wodka around 10, ok?

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kareng Grand Master

Well, the inlaws are teetotalers so that might make it worse! But at least I would not have to worry about them visiting again anytime soon! :lol:

Just keep drinking! That is how I handle my evil FIL. Course I haven't seen him in 1 1/2 years so I must have another excuse for my wine! :o I think I will use your ILs.

Maybe you can handle them like I do FIL if he ever comes back. I mostly ignore him. Only speak what is neccessary like "The one in the red dish is spicy" One of the SIL & I ate in the kitchen while everyone else ate in the dining room (lied & said not enough room in dining room). My boys took the other grandkids to eat in the basement. None of them were too pleased with something the FIL had recently done.

kareng Grand Master

So I should just have you over and my in-laws will never speak to me again! Okay so the moving truck gets here at 9 AM. You show up with the wodka around 10, ok?

9 am is champagne & OJ time! IF I lived close, I would so be there! I helped SIL move. I can't carry anything heavy, so I took care of the delicate things & bossed the men around. "That's clothes! Don't leave that in the middle of the kitchen!"

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

Just keep drinking! That is how I handle my evil FIL. Course I haven't seen him in 1 1/2 years so I must have another excuse for my wine! :o I think I will use your ILs.

Maybe you can handle them like I do FIL if he ever comes back. I mostly ignore him. Only speak what is neccessary like "The one in the red dish is spicy" One of the SIL & I ate in the kitchen while everyone else ate in the dining room (lied & said not enough room in dining room). My boys took the other grandkids to eat in the basement. None of them were too pleased with something the FIL had recently done.

Sure, come have sympathy drink with me! With you and Ra shelle my In laws will be scared away for good! :lol:

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

9 am is champagne & OJ time! IF I lived close, I would so be there! I helped SIL move. I can't carry anything heavy, so I took care of the delicate things & bossed the men around. "That's clothes! Don't leave that in the middle of the kitchen!"

LOL! I figured I would set drinking time at 10 so at least some of the truck would get loaded but sure we can start with some screwdrivers. And Kininkink Donuts! :D

kareng Grand Master

LOL! I figured I would set drinking time at 10 so at least some of the truck would get loaded but sure we can start with some screwdrivers. And Kininkink Donuts! :D

You have a lot of helpers. WE can drink & supervise! For donuts & OJ & BBQ chicken for lunch, my boys will help, too!

Shouldn't you be packing? Are you on here avoiding what you should be doing? (Of course I'm not doing that!) :ph34r:

GlutenFreeManna Rising Star

You have a lot of helpers. WE can drink & supervise! For donuts & OJ & BBQ chicken for lunch, my boys will help, too!

Shouldn't you be packing? Are you on here avoiding what you should be doing? (Of course I'm not doing that!) :ph34r:

I have a few weeks!

But I am avoiding making dinner. :ph34r:

The boys can have BBQ chicken for lunch AND dinner if they come help load and unload the truck. And make sure they annoy my MIL by talking lots while eating! Oh that's another reason they can't stand me...at family dinners in their house no one talks! Seriously, every meal feels like a funeral. When I was growing up it was a loud talking, eating and drinking party at every meal. Holidays were always about my relative telling jokes while passing food around. It's taken me a long time to get my hubby trained to talk to me at a meal. Now he's at a point where if we don't eat together he talks my ear off later because he missed talking to me over a meal. :D

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So I should just have you over and my in-laws will never speak to me again! Okay so the moving truck gets here at 9 AM. You show up with the wodka around 10, ok?

9 am is champagne & OJ time! IF I lived close, I would so be there! I helped SIL move. I can't carry anything heavy, so I took care of the delicate things & bossed the men around. "That's clothes! Don't leave that in the middle of the kitchen!"

**hic**

The mimosas start at 8 here. Tis interesting when brunch is served at 10. Never know how it'll turn out and by that time, who cares!

I have 14 bottles in my freezer right now. If you want something else, let me know and I'll raid the cupboards and see you at 10. We have everything, and if you think I'm joking.... I'm not! My MIL is so proud! Adds to her theory that I'm going to Hell and taking my kids with me (I don't give them the drink yet....well there was that one time 2 years ago with the whiskey buttercream... Have you ever had whiskey buttercream?? WHOA!!! I digress...) I wonder what would happen if I converted the kids and I from Catholisism to Judaism...... It's almost worth it just to see the aftermath... :ph34r:

Sh!t, dd is going to spend a week there in August. Must start extra brainwashing now. I shall teach her the rosary and send her with a few extra sets of beads to hand out at will. Perhaps a vial of holy water...

kareng Grand Master

I have a few weeks! But I am avoiding making dinner. :ph34r: The boys can have BBQ chicken for lunch AND dinner if they come help load and unload the truck. And make sure they annoy my MIL by talking lots while eating!

They also require gatorade & Mt Dew. I will have them talk endlessly about servos & regulators, fireworks & violent vidoe games. Then they can hit each other & burp! I will tell them under no circumstances to help with the cooking, warming up, serving or cleaning up of the foodstuffs. Perhaps they can spill blue gatorade on MIL's lovely white blouse? The blue doesn't come out of cotton.

Once the ILs go home, you can have the boys back for dinner. They will make a gluten-free dessert & help you grill or make pasta. They can talk about movies & thier jobs and normal stuff.

My MIL is so proud! Adds to her theory that I'm going to Hell and taking my kids with me (I don't give them the drink yet....well there was that one time 2 years ago with the whiskey buttercream... Have you ever had whiskey buttercream?? WHOA!!! I digress...) I wonder what would happen if I converted the kids and I from Catholisism to Judaism...... It's almost worth it just to see the aftermath... :ph34r: Sh!t, dd is going to spend a week there in August. Must start extra brainwashing now. I shall teach her the rosary and send her with a few extra sets of beads to hand out at will. Perhaps a vial of holy water...

My MIL told my hub when we were dating that we Catholics just want to have 12 kids & take over the world. 2 of her 3 son's married Catholics & one became Catholic.

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