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Lost A Good Friend Yesterday

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confused Community Regular
confused
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My neighbor who has also been such an great friend passed away yesterday. She got up and thought she just had major heart burn, so she wasnt too worried, then the pain got very bad and the ambulance came and got her, and she had an massive heart attack. She leaves behind 3 wonderful children, one will graduate this yr, one will get her license and one is in 6th grade. When she found out that me and my son might have celiac, she went home and looked it up, cause she wanted to be informed, since we do bbq's in the summer and out kids share snacks and food all summer long. When i had my last daughter and she was in the hospital running lots of test on her cause they thought something was wrong with her, she sat at the hospital with us for hours.

I keep thinking she will be knociking on my doot at any minute to talk about all the snow we are having, every time i look over at her house i start to cry. This summer will not be the same. I miss her so much.

We took over lots of food last night, but i want to make them a big meal, cause family is coming from all over, im just at lost at what to make that they will like and that i can cook.

Thanks for reading this, i just had to get it out.

paula

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jerseyangel Proficient
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Oh Paula,

I'm so very sorry to hear about your friend.

blueeyedmanda Community Regular
blueeyedmanda
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Paula,

I am very sorry to hear about your friend. She seems so young to have gone, by the family you described. She also sounded like a wonderful person to know. You know she has wings. Our prayers are with you during this tough time.

dlp252 Apprentice
dlp252
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That is so very sad...I'm so sorry for your loss!

confused Community Regular
confused
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Thanks everyone, she was 55. I told my hubby today at least now she is reunited with her son, that passed away many years ago.

paula

missy'smom Collaborator
missy'smom
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I'm sorry for your loss. :(

Could you make, meatloaf, roasted chicken, augratin potatoes, mashed pot. casserole(mashed w/ cream cheese etc. and put in a dish and baked) broccoli rice casserole, salads, gelatin desserts? These are easily done gluten-free and no one would know and your kitchen wouldn't be contaminated.

Cheri A Contributor
Cheri A
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((Paula)) ~ I'm so sorry! My prayers are with you and her family.

Since you are their neighbor, you will be a great support for your friend's family and be able to bring them food later. When my father passed away, we had a ton of food come in and noone wanted to eat anything. I think my mom would have liked the support later on when everyone "gets on with their lives" and kind of forgets.

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Ursa Major Collaborator
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Paula, I am sorry you lost your friend and wonderful neighbour. I know it will be hard this summer, when you know you would do barbecues and she isn't there. I will be praying for you, your family and her family.

wolfie Enthusiast
wolfie
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I am so sorry for your loss!!

Nantzie Collaborator
Nantzie
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you all.

I was thinking a beef stew or chicken soup, maybe some veggies and dip. Healthy eating is something that nobody wants to deal with, but if it's in front of them it's easy and comforting to eat. It's also something that someone can eat just a little bit of if they're not in the mood to eat, and you still know they're getting some good food in their bodies.

Nancy

confused Community Regular
confused
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Last night we took a meat and veggie tray, some rolls, 4 galloons of milk and 2 cases of pop. When we went up to the door the husband was in tears. He had lost his job about 10 months ago.

For now i am trying not to go around alot, cause people are coming and going all day and night long. What is so sad is her mom is coming, and the mom isnt even supposed to come here, cause of our high altitude, and the mom only has like a few months to live. I keep praying nothing happens while she is here, i dont know what it would do to those kids.

I already have plans for mothers day. Bonnie always wanted rose bushes all over her yard but since money was tight last yr she couldnt afford any. So I am going to go buy 3 rose bushes and have the kids plant them for mothers day.

The kids were alaways over here, I plan on them being here even more this summer. My mom even said I will need to take them clothes shopping and do motherly stuff with them.

paula

UR Groovy Explorer
UR Groovy
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Paula,

I'm so sorry for your loss. As you're remembering your friend and mourning her loss, don't forget to take care of yourself too.

Kat

Nantzie Collaborator
Nantzie
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You're such a good friend. I hope you know how much of a blessing you are to this family.

:(

Nancy

ravenwoodglass Mentor
ravenwoodglass
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Thanks everyone, she was 55. I told my hubby today at least now she is reunited with her son, that passed away many years ago.

paula

I am so sorry for your loss. She was the same age my Mom was when she 'went home' to join my twin brother. That thought gave me great comfort at the time. It is always so hard to miss someone you love. I'm so sorry it is always so hard on those left behind.

jennyj Collaborator
jennyj
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I will put yours and her family in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.

Fiddle-Faddle Community Regular
Fiddle-Faddle
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Oh, I am so sorry.v :(

confused Community Regular
confused
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Thank you all for your kind words. You dont know how much it means to me.

It is so sad I keep looking outside and the husband is always out there with the dog just walking around aimlessly. All the family is coming in today, so I am going to make a big batch of green chili, and I am not sure what else yet. My parents are coming up tommorow and bringing up some food and money for them.

Last year my parents were driving up here in their new truck and they got an flat. My dad could not figure out how to get the spare tire out and while trying to he broke the jack. And I knew my husband wouldnt be great at trying to fix it lol. so my neighbors without hesitation jumped on their motorcycles and went and helped my parents that were about 40 miles away.

paula

TinkerbellSwt Collaborator
TinkerbellSwt
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I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard losing anyone close to you. My prayers are with you and her family at this tough time.....

laurelfla Enthusiast
laurelfla
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thinking about you and both families.

confused Community Regular
confused
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Thanks everyone. The funeral will be tuesday, it is only going to be a small memorial service.

Today I am going to cook up some stuff and take it over. They have so much family coming in. Yesterday I seen the little girl, her cheeks and eyes were so red from crying. That is the one i feel so bad for.

paula

Cheri A Contributor
Cheri A
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Paula ~ just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and saying a prayer for you, your friend's family and all those that love her. I know that today will be incredibly difficult and I pray for peace and strength for all of you.

confused Community Regular
confused
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Thank you cheri.

I just got back from the service. It was so sad. The kids got up and talked and i was bawling like an baby. I didnt want to come home after the service, I drove around for awhile. As i drove up I pictured her on the stairs smoking her cigarette asking me where I was. and telling me to come over.

I am so going to miss her.

paula

Cheri A Contributor
Cheri A
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Awww.. ((hugs)). Her children must be incredibly strong to be able to get up and talk at the service. My father passed away when I was 17 and I could not get up and do that then.

I hope that you can draw strength from your happy memories of her and know that she will be watching over you and her family now. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers.

confused Community Regular
confused
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Awww.. ((hugs)). Her children must be incredibly strong to be able to get up and talk at the service. My father passed away when I was 17 and I could not get up and do that then.

I hope that you can draw strength from your happy memories of her and know that she will be watching over you and her family now. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers.

Thank you, they are very strong kids. They all went back to school yesterday. I have tired to give them all space for a few days just cause they had so many around for the week and now its time they figure out how to be a family with out bonnie. I do plan on going over this weekend to see if any of them want to hang out with me at the soccer games on saturday.

paula

ebrbetty Rising Star
ebrbetty
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I'm sorry for your loss ((((hugs)))

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