Glutened By The Steering Wheel! I Just Want To Cuss,

[txplowgirl]

Hi everyone, I'm gonna vent like there's no tomorrow. I am totally ticked off at myself and my SO. A lot of you know that I team with my SO. Drive a big rig all 48 states. I've been gluten free now almost a year. Doing pretty good, with a few gluten problems here and there. Most of my problems have disappeared over the last several months. Anyway most of this time I was driving solo, by myself, until last Oct. when my sweetie talked me back into teaming with him again. I knew it would be a problem but I also thought it would be ok once I gave him some ground rules. He refuses to give up his gluten by the way. So, I knew I would need to be extra careful. Anyway, since Oct. I have slowly been going downhill. At first, I came to realize that when I made his sandwiches for him I would bloat and get D within 24 hours. So, have started wearing sterile gloves when making them. That fixed that problem. Then, I noticed my moodiness, anxiety, depression started comming back as well as the tingling, stinging pains in my arms, then all the sores on the top of my head that I had for over 25 years, (they went away after only 6 weeks gluten-free)started comming back. Bloating, etc. Anyway, I knew I was getting glutened someway but just for the life of me couldn't figure it out.

About 2 weeks ago, I got up in the middle of the night to talk with sweetie and he was eating a cheeseburger, ok, no problem, there are times when our schedule is so tight we have to eat on the run. Anyway, like I said, was half a sleep when I talked to him and went back to bed.

The next day got my breakfast ate and got some snacks together to eat while driving. About the middle of the day had just reached into my bag of almonds and popped some in my mouth, when I remembered talking with Sweetie last night. He was eating his cheeseburger WITHOUT THE WRAPPER! Then I thought back to all of those sandwiches he ate WITHOUT THE NAPKINS! THE STEERING WHEEL, The RADIO, The SWITHCHES! ALL Glutened!

I started crying. All these months down the drain, back to square 1. Then to top it off, that evening when I explained to him what I discovered. His reaction was and I quote. "You're trying to run me off. aren't you?" I was shocked to say the least. But every morning I have been cleaning EVERYTHING before I even get under the wheel and my problems are starting to resolve little by little.

We are having problems now because he just can't seem to understand the cross contamination issue. Tells me I'm being overdramatic. I'm seriously begining to wonder if we need to be together anymore. He gets that I feel a lot better, he just can't understand how serious I need to be.

Sorry for the long post but I needed to vent. I'm feeling kind of miserable today because we had another fight over him wanting to eat in a restaurant and I didn't feel like it.

[Ahorsesoul]

His reaction was and I quote. "You're trying to run me off. aren't you?"

Who's trying to run who off? If he loves you, he will respect that you need to be gluten free. It's really all about respect. You are a strong and independent woman. You may have to do some serious thinking about what you really want your life to be like.

[tmbarke]

Hi everyone, I'm gonna vent like there's no tomorrow. I am totally ticked off at myself and my SO. A lot of you know that I team with my SO. Drive a big rig all 48 states. I've been gluten free now almost a year. Doing pretty good, with a few gluten problems here and there. Most of my problems have disappeared over the last several months. Anyway most of this time I was driving solo, by myself, until last Oct. when my sweetie talked me back into teaming with him again. I knew it would be a problem but I also thought it would be ok once I gave him some ground rules. He refuses to give up his gluten by the way. So, I knew I would need to be extra careful. Anyway, since Oct. I have slowly been going downhill. At first, I came to realize that when I made his sandwiches for him I would bloat and get D within 24 hours. So, have started wearing sterile gloves when making them. That fixed that problem. Then, I noticed my moodiness, anxiety, depression started comming back as well as the tingling, stinging pains in my arms, then all the sores on the top of my head that I had for over 25 years, (they went away after only 6 weeks gluten-free)started comming back. Bloating, etc. Anyway, I knew I was getting glutened someway but just for the life of me couldn't figure it out.

About 2 weeks ago, I got up in the middle of the night to talk with sweetie and he was eating a cheeseburger, ok, no problem, there are times when our schedule is so tight we have to eat on the run. Anyway, like I said, was half a sleep when I talked to him and went back to bed.

The next day got my breakfast ate and got some snacks together to eat while driving. About the middle of the day had just reached into my bag of almonds and popped some in my mouth, when I remembered talking with Sweetie last night. He was eating his cheeseburger WITHOUT THE WRAPPER! Then I thought back to all of those sandwiches he ate WITHOUT THE NAPKINS! THE STEERING WHEEL, The RADIO, The SWITHCHES! ALL Glutened!

I started crying. All these months down the drain, back to square 1. Then to top it off, that evening when I explained to him what I discovered. His reaction was and I quote. "You're trying to run me off. aren't you?" I was shocked to say the least. But every morning I have been cleaning EVERYTHING before I even get under the wheel and my problems are starting to resolve little by little.

We are having problems now because he just can't seem to understand the cross contamination issue. Tells me I'm being overdramatic. I'm seriously begining to wonder if we need to be together anymore. He gets that I feel a lot better, he just can't understand how serious I need to be.

Sorry for the long post but I needed to vent. I'm feeling kind of miserable today because we had another fight over him wanting to eat in a restaurant and I didn't feel like it.

I have a low tolerance for selfish and inconsiderate.

You matter! First and foremost!

That's all I dare to say.

Big hugs to you for strength to take control of YOUR life....and a prayer too.

[Korwyn]

I hate hearing things like this. I hope you can sit down and have a heart to heart with him and explain that as much as you love him your health and wellbeing are important to you, and you would hope they were as important to him, but if they aren't....

I hope you are able to work things out.

[Wolicki]

I honestly don't think he is ever going to get it. Every time I read one of your posts, I think back to when he signed on and started complaining about how touchy you are. Girl, I think you might be better off without him. I am sorry he is such a jerk, but your health and sanity will be better off without him. You deserve some one who cares about you and your well being. It might be time to think about going solo again. It's got to be super tough to find safe things to eat when you're always on the road, without "Sweetie" sabotaging you.

Be well, and take care of YOU!

Janie

[koolkat222]

I feel so bad for you! And very angry at him Celiac and avoiding all gluten even through cross contamination-it's part of who you are. If he isn't willing to accept this and work with it, you're better off without him.

Sorry for being so blunt, but life is too short.Celiac is difficult enough to deal with, but when you add an unsupportive partner to it-forget it!

Good luck to you!!

[MagpieWrites]

Oh... Hon.

All I want to do is give you a great big hug (which I try not to do... folks often feel strangely about random 6'2 woman walking up and clutching them to their chests) when I read this.

He's being an ass. Plain and simple. And either he needs to remove his cranium from his rectum... or you need to decide if you really want to be tied to someone who wears his hat on his backside.

No advice. No wisdom. Just lots and lots of hugs. You are worth being healthy, happy, and supported in your decisions.

[sandsurfgirl]

Your post makes me sad for you. I don't understand how he doesn't get it when he sees you getting physically ill. HUGS

[jenngolightly]

I'm not trying to take his side and say that you're wrong... but...

My husband was really dense in the beginning and thought I was ruining his life because we couldn't eat the things that he liked to eat. I would nag and cry, making him defensive and he would say things he didn't mean. Huge fights ensued. HUGE fights. I was sick a lot, he'd cc me, I'd get mad, I'd forbid certain foods, he'd rebel. I sent him to his sister's in a different state for a few weeks so we could cool off. He came back and the fights continued. Finally, one day, I actually threw a loaf of bread at him and said, "It's your choice, the bread or me!" Everything calmed down after that, and there's no more bread in the house.

I don't know if everyone goes through that. I just happen to have a pretty selfish husband. But he's mostly good, and does care about me and my health. It just takes him time to look at things from another person's point of view. We have a 90% gluten-free house now. We even laugh about the bread ultimatum.

It's your choice, but I wanted to give you insight about how it worked out for me and my selfish guy.

[txplowgirl]

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate your support. I'm gonna do some more venting here.

He has been this way every since I first started this. He gets that I need to be gluten free. He even orders for me and makes sure to tell the waiter to tell the cook to clean the grill, etc. When I actually get the nerve to eat out.

But when it comes to the cross contamination issue he just will not listen. He was a chef in some restaurants in california for a few years. I would think if anyone would understand about that problem it would be him. But no, Like with dairy. That one really irritates me to high heaven. He thinks all I need to do to be able to drink milk is just dilute it until it's almost water. I just want to smack him over the head. The cross contamination with the steering wheel and other things. When I tell him I can't, he just tells me I won't because i'm spoilled. I just want my way.

I know what I need to do, I just need to get up the nerve to do it. We've been together 7 years now and the last 2 years i've been miserable. He really loves me but it's gotten down to a battle of wills. He's one of these old fashioned men where the woman stays in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant. I never thought I would get to the point of hating the word woman. His favorite saying to me is and I quote. "Why can't you act more like a woman's supposed to act? Be more of a girlie girl and sit back and keep your mouth shut." That's when I lose it and tell him he's acting like a jacka++ and if he dosen't like it he can leave. That's when everything hits the fan. Ok, i'm really starting to get aggravated again. I really do appreciate everyone's support. I don't want to wear out my welcome, so, I better go. Everyone have a good evening.

[jenngolightly]

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate your support. I'm gonna do some more venting here.

He has been this way every since I first started this. He gets that I need to be gluten free. He even orders for me and makes sure to tell the waiter to tell the cook to clean the grill, etc. When I actually get the nerve to eat out.

But when it comes to the cross contamination issue he just will not listen. He was a chef in some restaurants in california for a few years. I would think if anyone would understand about that problem it would be him. But no, Like with dairy. That one really irritates me to high heaven. He thinks all I need to do to be able to drink milk is just dilute it until it's almost water. I just want to smack him over the head. The cross contamination with the steering wheel and other things. When I tell him I can't, he just tells me I won't because i'm spoilled. I just want my way.

I know what I need to do, I just need to get up the nerve to do it. We've been together 7 years now and the last 2 years i've been miserable. He really loves me but it's gotten down to a battle of wills. He's one of these old fashioned men where the woman stays in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant. I never thought I would get to the point of hating the word woman. His favorite saying to me is and I quote. "Why can't you act more like a woman's supposed to act? Be more of a girlie girl and sit back and keep your mouth shut." That's when I lose it and tell him he's acting like a jacka++ and if he dosen't like it he can leave. That's when everything hits the fan. Ok, i'm really starting to get aggravated again. I really do appreciate everyone's support. I don't want to wear out my welcome, so, I better go. Everyone have a good evening.

That sounds like emotional-abuse to me. Not to be tolerated!

[tmbarke]

OH HE(double hockey sticks) He did NOT just say that!

I assure you..........The Biatch is in the house!

WTF!?

You already know that you belong with the strength of REAL women!

Regardless, it's all or nothing!

He is not capable of all or nothing!

I'll be your strength in all ways if you need it sweetie!

Friends are a stronger bond than a mindless relationship....so know that friendship will get you thru anything....and I think I speak for everyone - we've got your back!

If you're ever in GR mich.......131 and 76th....I'll be there in a heartbeat!

my number is on my profile page

I'm there for you girl!

I'll even treat you to dinner!

Love you bunches.....cuz you are soooo special!

Tena