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The Choices We Make

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1desperateladysaved Proficient
1desperateladysaved
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I am just thinking about the choices of people around us that think our diet is "too inconvienient" for them to save them from their health woes.

Gluten free or extreme fatigue?

Cook it your self or diarrhea?

Eat at home or drive home dizzy?

Explain to friends, or eat it and grim?

Gluten free life or infertility?

Cooking or itching with rashes?

No gluten or acne?

No gluten or shortness of breath?

I hope to add to this later if you all don't finish it before I get back.

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IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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I am not quite sure what you are getting at here, but I think you are trying to convince yourself--or someone else--that you need to be gluten-free and you keep caving in to others who insist you do not? I notice that in many threads and posts that you continue to worry about "defending" your gluten free life. It causes you great stress, hon. :(

What do you care what others think?

If you have celiac or NCGI, this is non-negotiable.

I do not labor over these choices or engage in debates or try to convince anyone of my need to be gluten-free. No one questions my food choices. It is what it is. Period.

I have celiac and I do not let anyone dictate what I do to stay healthy.

mushroom Proficient
mushroom
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I took her post the other way, IH, that the desperate lady is saved by having made these decisions, not that she was arguing with herself or others. :)

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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I hope so, Shroomie---because I know Diana struggles with this mightily and I feel for her deeply ---as she has to defend herself constantly to family members.

I guess the subtitle (to gluten or nor to gluten?) suggested a continuing dilemma to me.

1desperateladysaved Proficient
1desperateladysaved
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I am not quite sure what you are getting at here, but I think you are trying to convince yourself--or someone else--that you need to be gluten-free and you keep caving in to others who insist you do not? I notice that in many threads and posts that you continue to worry about "defending" your gluten free life. It causes you great stress, hon. :(

What do you care what others think?

If you have celiac or NCGI, this is non-negotiable.

I do not labor over these choices or engage in debates or try to convince anyone of my need to be gluten-free. No one questions my food choices. It is what it is. Period.

I have celiac and I do not let anyone dictate what I do to stay healthy.

Thanks,

Where I was coming from is that I have been wondering at the choices others around me are making. I would rather not eat gluten free; it is too much trouble they say. Meanwhile, they suffer, suffer, suffer as I look on in wonder.

I am still working on the post and will try to make it clearer.

kareng Grand Master
kareng
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"Where I was coming from is that I have been wondering at the choices others around me are making. I would rather not eat gluten free; it is too much trouble they say. Meanwhile, they suffer, suffer, suffer as I look on in wonder.

I am still working on the post and will try to make it clearer."

I think many people don't see that gluten could be causing their issues. If most doctors don't see the really obvious GI style Celiacs, how would regular folks see the connection?

1desperateladysaved Proficient
1desperateladysaved
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I took her post the other way, IH, that the desperate lady is saved by having made these decisions, not that she was arguing with herself or others. :)

Yes, that is where I am at. I will think of a bunch more things that people "want to have" more than gluten free diet. I can't understand them, if they only heard themself and understood their choices. I am not going to argue too much about it with them. I am going to take some time to be astounded. It would be humourous if it weren't so sad.

As for my family they are not hard toward it anymore. One maybe a little hard yet. However, the one hardest against it is afraid to go out to eat! Things are working out.

Diana

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IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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As for my family they are not hard toward it anymore. One maybe a little hard yet. However, the one hardest against it is afraid to go out to eat! Things are working out.

Diana

I am glad things are getting easier for you! I know you were worrying about Thanksgiving, etc. coming up.

I agree with Karen, though. I have been there/done that with my own family and friends, too--and it is difficult to get others to see that gluten may be a problem for them as well.

You know what though? I decided it's a conclusion they have to arrive at themselves. If they get as sick as we did, then maybe they will consider it. I do not wish that on any of them, but sometimes that's what will get their attention.

nvsmom Community Regular
nvsmom
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I went decades untreated because I thought how I felt was normal for me. I thought most people had complaints too. I think many people don't change because "they have been getting along just fine so far"....At least that is how I thought.

Change is hard. Harder for some than others.

shadowicewolf Proficient
shadowicewolf
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Its one of those things that is out of left field. When i was sick, I never thought it would be gluten that was assisting it (allong with a faulty gallbalder). I was the type to eat all sorts of bready stuffs be it cookies to cake. Yet, looking back, i don't see how i was living with it. My knees were really bad, i was achey all the time, and let us not mention the random "D" that would be so often i would have to take pepto to go anywhere.

Victoria6102 Contributor
Victoria6102
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For some of us, it's not as simple, IrishHeart. I constantly have to defend myself. No choice. Either, explain to people or they will mess with my food, put their hands in my chip bag , drink from my cup. I have to explain and when they don't believe me or don't understand, I have to defend myself. Otherwise, I'll end up with no drink, no food, and no friends. Lol!

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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For some of us, it's not as simple, IrishHeart. I constantly have to defend myself. No choice. Either, explain to people or they will mess with my food, put their hands in my chip bag , drink from my cup. I have to explain and when they don't believe me or don't understand, I have to defend myself. Otherwise, I'll end up with no drink, no food, and no friends. Lol!

I know, hon, you have told us many times that your friends are unkind to you. I am sorry your friends continue to behave this way. (still think maybe you need a better group of friends)

But the OP--whom I was addressing--is a grown woman with a large family and honestly, if we are to live with this disease for the rest of our lives, we have to assert ourselves and be safe at all times.

That's just my opinion. Feel free to disregard it. :)

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