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First Experience At Refusing The Food Someone Cooked For Me.

Renegade

By Renegade
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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Renegade
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Wen I arrived home today, my roommate who is already eating gluten-free for personal reasons(she doesn't have any severe intolerance) cooked a whole meal of veggies for me and before I ate it I asked her if it was gluten-free and she said yes.

 

Well i took a first bite and I could taste the clear taste of cayenne pepper and I knew exactly which package she used, and on it, it sas "may contain wheat and etc... So of course I told her I couldn't have it because the cayenne is cross-contained and she said "it may". My answer was that if it say it may, then it definitively does, so she ate it and walked out to do some bicycle exercise to lose the calories she ingested as shes on diet.

 

This remembered me of a post someone said, "if you love me then don't cook for me" which is what I told her.

 

This really pissed me off and I'll be even more vigilant next time someone try to cook for me, I already have my diet and meal planned, I don't need to have people poison me, hopefully it doesn't affect my recovery much, only ate 2 veggies.

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Well done for doing what you needed to do, massive step.

I can't decide, almost a year in, if it gets easier, but I am certainly better at doing as a routine sort of thing, without being a bit cut up after. I am probably a bit less, err, emphatic and snarky about how I manage to do it.

Everyone in your life is still just learning about this ( including you).

Hope you stopped in time, and are feeling ok.

bartfull Rising Star
bartfull
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Good for you! It isn't easy telling well meaning friends that you can't eat something they made special for you, but you did it. I had people trying to cook for me at first and finally I just told people I made a new rule for myself, that if I didn't cook it, I can't eat it.

 

 

I hope the "may" turns out to be a "didn't", and this doesn't set you back. Stick with it, kiddo. You're learning, and with a little time and patience you'll be full speed ahead on healing. :)

psawyer Proficient
psawyer
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"May contain" is generally a warning about possible trace amounts from within the same facility. It is not the same as "does contain" and many such products are, in fact, safe to use. Also, be aware that "may contain" is a voluntary disclosure--just because you don't see it doesn't mean it isn't true.

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
Posted

And you can tell people in your life how to prepare food for you safely. I did it ---and it worked out well.

notme Experienced
notme
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And you can tell people in your life how to prepare food for you safely. I did it ---and it worked out well.

i had to think hard about that one, ih - i do have a short list of people i trust to cook for me, the immediates:  my hubs, my daughters, my bff's daughter, NOT MY SON lolz, not my bff <aka 'crumbhands'   <_<

 

i suppose it just depends - my very dear friends (bless their hearts) we hang out with them on a regular basis....  will *never* get that just one mistake is *not* ok.  so i bring my own.  better safe than sorry.  people who love you will get over/used to it.

 

good for you, renegade :)

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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i had to think hard about that one, ih - i do have a short list of people i trust to cook for me

 

me too.

And there are some I know who will never, ever get it right. 

My dear friends who have done this successfully took the time to read up on CC.

They passed a "label reading 101 class" the hubs and I gave them lol. 

and

(1) They all got pretty-colored flexible cutting boards from me as a "gift"--used only when I come to dinner  :)

(2) they check with me on ingredients beforehand

(3) I assist with dinner prep--they run the ingredients past me,  and I make the salad ( I also drink wine while I watch, that sort of thing)

(4) I bring dessert--as that one seems to stump them the most.

 

I am grateful that 3 sets of friends have been so understanding and willing to learn.

Most of the time, I am the one cooking for them.

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dilettantesteph
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I'm with Peter.  May contain does not mean definitely does contain.  I hope that you thanked her for trying even if you can't eat it safely.  It is not her fault that she doesn't understand how careful you have to be about cross contamination.  It is easy to get grumpy about these things and important not to take it out on others.

Renegade Contributor
Renegade
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I'm with Peter.  May contain does not mean definitely does contain.  I hope that you thanked her for trying even if you can't eat it safely.  It is not her fault that she doesn't understand how careful you have to be about cross contamination.  It is easy to get grumpy about these things and important not to take it out on others.

I explained myself to her after she got back to make sure there was no misunderstanding and to be sure I didn't piss her off ;P

w8in4dave Community Regular
w8in4dave
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I have not let hubbs cook for me yet. :) Altho he had Schwans man out ugh... said we were having pizza, I said I cannot eat pizza, he said Ohh yea I got you some steaks. (I thought that was sweet)Altho they "do not" say Gluten free , they are just meat, no breading no seasoning. Just meat. I let my daughter cook a burger for me yesterday :) We bought some Gluten free bread , :) Her kids didn't like the bread but I did! It had sunflower seeds in it :) ... 

I hope your room mate was not angry with you, and all is well . 

laura1959 Apprentice
laura1959
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Since she is also gluten-free (or trying), maybe it would be good for both of you to look over information about cross-contamination together and then go through the cupboards and get rid of everything that might be a source for CC.  It sounds like all you'd need to do to make this work would be to get her to step up her game on the gluten front a bit.  This shouldn't be too hard.  Good on you for sticking up for what you need!  

Renegade Contributor
Renegade
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Since she is also gluten-free (or trying), maybe it would be good for both of you to look over information about cross-contamination together and then go through the cupboards and get rid of everything that might be a source for CC.  It sounds like all you'd need to do to make this work would be to get her to step up her game on the gluten front a bit.  This shouldn't be too hard.  Good on you for sticking up for what you need!  

Well shes departing next week anyway.

w8in4dave Community Regular
w8in4dave
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Well hopefully if you get another room mate things go well :) 

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