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Puts Things Into Perspective

Bonnie

By Bonnie
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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Canadian Karen Community Regular
Canadian Karen
Posted

Yvonne,

I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I can't imagine the pain your family must be feeling. I am sending you lots of hugs, prayers and support to help you through this.

Your brother is up there now looking down on you watching over you. As long as he remains in your heart and memories, he will not really be gone.....

Hugs.

Karen

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ravenwoodglass Mentor
ravenwoodglass
Posted
Hi guys,

Probably shouldn't be posting this but I'm in need of a bit of support right now and I've had so much from this forum re my gluten problem.

I lost my 26 year old brother 3 and a half weeks ago.  He had a motorbike accident, hit a tree, had brain surgery and passed away the next day.

I'm devastated. Trying to carry on and be strong for my 2 sisters, parents and my children. 

I have been so self-obsessed and feeling sorry for myself because of Celiac Disease.  So I can't eat gluten - so what?

This just puts everything into perspective.

Thanks for reading guys, just feeling really sad.

Yvonne

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Yvonne,

I am so sorry. I lost my twin to a crash years ago. It seems doubly hard when things happen so suddenly. It is very overwhelming. Nothing anyone can say will really help. It's so hard to have to be strong for others when your melting inside. Make sure to allow yourself time to grieve while you take care of everyone else. The pain will dull but missing someone is so hard. I wish I there was something I could do other than just say, I'm so sorry.

Kris

jenvan Collaborator
jenvan
Posted

Yvonne-

I also wanted to share a scripture that has given me comfort in times when some one close to me has passed...

Psalm 116:15: Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints.

I don't take the word saints here to mean literal saints, as in catholic idea... but the reminder that God has his eye on each person, and to see them fall causes him pain we can't comprehend. It brings me comfort to know God sees each individual's suffering...

mart Contributor
mart
Posted

Yvonne - my heart goes out to you. What you are faced with now is the hardest thing there is. We are your friends and will grieve with you. I pray for strength for you and your family and join the others who've offered to help in any way they can.

Matilda Enthusiast
Matilda
Posted

Yvonne, I'm so sorry.

Matilda

cmom Contributor
cmom
Posted

I am also so very sorry. A few days ago, I also lost a friend and co-worker. She was 55 yrs old and had beaten breast cancer and her first round of leukemia. The leukemia had returned and complications from it took her life. It is difficult to walk past her room every day. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

SillyYakMom Rookie
SillyYakMom
Posted

So sorry for your loss. That would be hard. I have never had anything so painful, my dad has died once from a heart attack. Survived and then had another one ten years later, he is around, but it did put things into perspective. I hope you and your family will feel peace during this difficult time.

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Ursa Major Collaborator
Ursa Major
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Yvonne, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I have six brothers and a sister in Germany, and it would be very hard to lose even one of them.

Take care of yourself, and allow yourself to grieve, too. Trying to be strong for everybody else will backfire in the end otherwise and can lead to depression.

Ursula

Bonnie Explorer
Bonnie
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and prayers.

At the moment I'm just taking one day at a time. I haven't actually let go yet. The pain is almost physical right now. I want to scream but I am scared I won't stop. So I just keep pushing all the thoughts to the back of the mind.

I talk to my brother - well I try - but I start crying and can't stop. I can't actually believe I will never see him again in the flesh. Its incomprehendible. I wish I had been taken instead but that's obviously not in God's plan.

I'm taking sleeping pills which is not ideal but as I am sure you all know, the nights are the worst.

I wish it was 6 months down the line already as I know time will help.

I know nothing anyone says will really help, I have to go through the processes. My family will all be together for Christmas which will be a tough one this year.

Thanks again everybody for your support. I can't tell you how much it means and helps.

Thank you.

Yvonne

debmidge Rising Star
debmidge
Posted

Yvonne,

I have a baby brother who is 27 and I sincerely understand the hole losing a baby brother would bring in your life. My condolences to you and your family. It hurts to lose a piece of your heart.

Deb

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