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elonwy

By elonwy
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elonwy Enthusiast
elonwy
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Some of you may remember a post I did a while back about whether or not I was over-reacting to my new bf being horrendously insensitive to the whole gluten thing. I wasn't. We broke up right after that, it being a mutual thing, and him being as bothered by the food thing as me, and basically stating he couldn't deal with it. Fun huh?

The good news: I started dating a new guy a couple weeks ago, and this guy is a saint when it comes to dealing with my diet. It helps that he's crazy about me (I'm mad about him too), but when I first told him about Celiac, the first thing he did was look it up online and start researching. He called restaurants and talked to chefs, he found the perfect place to take me to, he's always asking questions and making sure I'm ok. He bought a toothbrush to carry with him for when he eats gluten, so he can kiss me whenever he wants to. Its amazing the difference a little respect can make. Its amazing. Theres alot of other things about this guy that are fantastic, but he's almost made me cry a couple times because he's been so considerate about making sure I don't get sick.

I think I'm going to keep this one for a while :)

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Ursa Major Collaborator
Ursa Major
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Congratulations on finding the 'perfect' guy, there aren't too many of those around. He sounds almost too good to be true! I hope this relationship will last and makes you happy.

Lisa Mentor
Lisa
Posted

He sound like a keeper to me. ;)

mamaw Community Regular
mamaw
Posted

happy happy happy are you..... it sounds like the real deal. And understanding men are hard to find ... I too think he is a keeper.....

good luck

mamaw

Katie618 Apprentice
Katie618
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happygirl Collaborator
happygirl
Posted

Wow, elonwy, thank you for sharing! It is encouraging to read a post like yours. Sometimes it can be hard to be gluten free, and your post I think lifts ALL of our spirits that there are kind people like that out there. Plus, the fact that he is fond of you makes us like him even more :) :) :)

Having that support and true concern makes a world of difference....it is the best feeling!

Ashley Enthusiast
Ashley
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Congratulations =). I know the feeling, I have a boyfriend who responds to my diet the same. It's so uplifting to know that someone doesn't think you're a burden and truely cares for your health. I was so thrilled that his parents actually have a brain and know the difference between gluten and gluten-free. His grandmother even made me gluten-free fried chicken!

Hope all goes well in your relationship.

-Ash

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SchnauzerMom Rookie
SchnauzerMom
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I am glad you found someone who is so considerate. He definitely sounds like a keeper to me!

GeoffCJ Enthusiast
GeoffCJ
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New to all this....My wife and I are converting the house to Gluten Free, but I hadn't even thought about contamination from Kissing!

Congratulations on finding someone willing to go the extra mile. My wife's been great, better than me, and I'm the one with the issues!

Geoff

RiceAddict Rookie
RiceAddict
Posted

Wow! Does he have a sister?

I went on my first date after being gluten-free not long ago. We met at a coffee shop, she ordered a scone and offered me some and I politely said no thanks. We hung out most of the afternoon and went to a steakhouse for dinner. When my salad arrived with croutons, I politely asked to get another with just plain vegies. My date looked at me and said "celiac?" I was stunned. She said she first considered the notion at the coffee place earlier that day. This gal was smart. Unfortunately we lost contact, but it made me think about how and when to approach the subject on a date.

tarnalberry Community Regular
tarnalberry
Posted

Congrats! That's fabulous news! :) Maybe we'll get a picture sometime. ;)

MySuicidalTurtle Enthusiast
MySuicidalTurtle
Posted

Congrats, Elonwy! It's great to get a guy who cares about our Celiacs. My guy was well aware of my Celiacs before we started dating so it was much easier for him to slide into things.

mtdawber Apprentice
mtdawber
Posted

That's awesome, congrats! I can't imagine trying to date and doing this at the same time. !

It makes me remember how lucky I really am (even with this stupid disease). My husband is learning with me. He's better at label reading than I am sometimes and helps me at restaurants where the wait staff that give you that blank stare... you know the one... :unsure:

Canadian Karen Community Regular
Canadian Karen
Posted

Definitely a keeper.....

Congrats! And it's great hearing from you again!

Hugs.

Karen

Rebecca47 Contributor
Rebecca47
Posted

Congrats........ don't let that one get away.....he is one in a million........ :rolleyes:

Guest cassidy
Guest cassidy
Posted

Congrats - it is wonderful when you find a good one!

Nooner Newbie
Nooner
Posted
Its amazing the difference a little respect can make.

How true! Congratulations! :D:D:D

pixiegirl Enthusiast
pixiegirl
Posted

I think you must be dating my boyfriend....

:P

Susan

elonwy Enthusiast
elonwy
Posted
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If so he's got some serious frequent flier miles going on ;)

I can't believe how happy I am. He's also a great dancer (ballroom), smart, my cats love him....

I keep pinching myself.

Elonwy

kbtoyssni Contributor
kbtoyssni
Posted

Awww, he sounds like a keeper!

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