Just Need To Rant

[tiredofdoctors]

I am just having one of those days . . . weeks . . . months -- whatever you want to say. I am having the absolute worst luck. I couldn't BUY a break.

First, we're thinking we should just build an ark here. We've had 7+ inches of rain in two days. To make matters worse, our crazy next door neighbor didn't like having water drainage going through her front yard, so she built up the drainage portion of the easement, then blocked the drainage pipes on each side of her yard. Guess whose front yard is flooded?

Actually that should be second. First, she didn't think it was enough to have SEVEN dogs (which she has to keep in separate rooms because they all fight), she goes out and gets two new "babies" -- a pit bull puppy and a rottweiler puppy. She has a run on the side of her house that is about 5 feet by 12 feet for all the dogs. When the "excrement" gets piled too high, she simply puts new mulch over it. By August, we are praying that there is NO BREEZE. I saw one of the "regulars" come outside, and it was HORRIBLE. This dog is a schnauzer, it was completely grown out, matted beyond recognition and smelled worse than any dog I've smelled. I called Animal Control. Finally, she has evidently decided to grow a "flea farm". Our dogs have NEVER had fleas. Now, we've put down granules all around the perimeter of our yard, used the dogs' monthly Frontline, have vacuumed, vacuumed, vacuumed and washed the sheets and blankets more times than either of us would even want to think about. We're getting the spray tomorrow, and if THAT doesn't work (we found another live flea on Lucky), we're going to have to do the "open all the cabinets, cover the food, cover the cooking / eating surfaces, etc. and bomb the house". To top it all off? She keeps her garbage on the sidewalk in front of our house (we're the only house in two blocks that has a sidewalk. We still haven't figured that one out). You would think that the sidewalk ENDING would be some kind of a hint to her that THAT is the end of the property line. She keeps the cans ALMOST in our driveway. Dave got mad the other day, and threw one of the loose bags onto her lawn. Now she has duct tape on her cans have writing on them "Do NOT put your garbage in these cans. They are for Her Address ONLY. The police have been informed, and you will be prosecuted and fined." So, being as immature as we are, we keep putting her stupid "labeled" garbage cans on her property. She also took the property line stake out that the surveyor put in a couple of months ago. Uggggggghhhhhhhhhhh.

I flunked one of my eye tests that I had this week . . . don't even know what that means, or what they're going to do. What a pain in the butt. It also made me heave. I had to stop in the middle of the test, ask him if I could have a trash can, because I was getting nauseus. How embarrassing. The electrode that they put in the middle of my forehead had a hard spot on it, so when they made me put my face into this thing, it bruised my forehead and I look like I have a Bendhi.

I went to the endocrinologist Friday, and told her many of the things that have been happening that I have chosen NOT to disclose here because I feel like I whine enough, and she is referring me to a rehabilitation doctor. I may have to start wearing a catheter -- geeze -- and other even more disgusting stuff than that. I have hyperinsulinemia -- the precursor to Type II diabetes -- so now I have to go back to the dietician so that I can incorporate a Diabetic diet into a Celiac diet. Also, they couldn't get my blood pressure at the office -- at all. I've had times before that they can't get the diastolic (bottom) number because it was so low, but on Friday, they couldn't get top or bottom. They tried three times each on both arms. I told the doctor how tired I was. Her reply, "Well, Sweetie -- no wonder! You don't even have a blood pressure that we can measure here." I told her about the autonomic dysfunction, and that's when she said that "She is NOT Okay with my quality of life." I've been her patient for years, and I guess she's at the "anger" stage!!! They couldn't get a pulse in my wrists or feet, but they could get a pulse in my neck, so at least my heart is beating. We guess.

I have fallen more times this week than I can count, and I can't seem to hold onto ANYTHING. I have dropped something (can't even remember what items) on four different occasions on my left foot. It is bruised beyond recognition. And it hurts. I usually can't even FEEL my feet, but when I try to put a shoe on that stupid foot, it actually hurts.

On top of ALL of that, the doctors CANNOT agree on the way in which to treat Ashley for the latent TB. Because her liver enzymes went down, one wants to start the INH AND do the leukocyte transfusion from Steve. The OTHER says that she doesn't CARE that her liver enzymes went down, she is NOT a candidate to start the INH and thinks that the idea of leukocyte transfusion is rediculous. Well, guess which doctor gets to call the shots with regard to the medical insurance??????? So the one is willing to back down on the INH and do the leukocyte, but again, the other thinks its absurd. I'm about ready to go to Lexington and tell that doctor to get her head out of her butt. If the pulmonologist who has treated her for YEARS and researched all that we proposed says YES -- who is she to say no?

Thank you for letting me rant . . . don't feel "safe" enough telling my family -- they all freak out when they find these things out. Haven't even told Dave some of it. It just makes him cry. Couldn't take that right now.

[i canary]

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I sat here a long while trying to think of something encouraging to say - then I saw the quote in your signature: Courage does not always roar. Sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day that says, "I'll try tomorrow". Until tomorrow comes...take a few deep breaths.

[AndreaB]

Lynne,

HUGS!!!!!!!!

I don't know what to say. Everything seems trite.....not enough.

Try and get some rest. Hopefully things will pick up starting tomorrow.

That neighbor of yours sounds like a trip.

Good to hear that Ashley's numbers came down. Hope those doctors can hammer something out and soon.

I'm sorry I don't have anything encouraging to say.

I've been down myself and am getting ready to sign off for the night.

[aikiducky]

EXTRA BIG HUGS

Can't think of anything to say either... I hope tomorrow will be better.

Pauliina

[Canadian Karen]

Well, I can't believe that someone other than me has a neighbour from hell!

Dave needs to build the Berlin Wall, ALL on your property, about three inches in from the property line, and paint HER side of it neon orange or pink. Or, what were those beetles you were telling me about again?

Rhiannon has the soccer championship finals tomorrow morning - will try to call you after that and hopefully make you laugh.......

MANY, MANY HUGE BEAR HUGS SENT YOUR WAY!

Wuv Karen

[tiredofdoctors]

Karen, every time we look at her rickety privacy fence, which is 90% falling down, we talk about your neighbor from hell! I have a new jar of Neon Orange . . . in fact, I bought it so that Dave would paint her trash cans with her address . . . . Now I wish he had gone ahead and done it.

And . . . . to add to my rant, I tested positive this week at the allergist for Milk and Casein allergies. Not badly, but the doctor said that because I'm neurologically impaired, the "factor P (?)" in the nerve endings which causes the mast cells to react and secrete histamine MAY not be working properly . . . and the Milk, Casein, Beef, Oranges and Crab which came up positive MAY actually be a lot worse than they showed . . . so NOW WHAT? I don't know if I should do Enterolab or not . . . of course, if I'm Milk and Casein sensitive, then I want to avoid THAT as well. Beef . . . . I have 1/2 a cow coming in November. I'm eating the stuff. Crab? I go crabbing with my in-laws in Maryland, then steam the suckers in Old Bay (gluten-free), and bang the stuffing out of them. Eating those, too. Seems like I could get Goat's milk (less casein) and drink that if I had to . . . . just don't know what to do, and tired of thinking about it.

[Canadian Karen]

just don't know what to do, and tired of thinking about it.

Oh, my friend, I SO hear ya! It seems sometimes like it is like this MASSIVE maze that we are in and can't figure out how to maneuver through it..... That's how I feel, anyway.... All I know is that there are answers out there that I haven't found yet..... But giving up and throwing in the towel is just not an option!

Karen

[rinne]

Lynne, what an extraordinary number of ordeals you are facing. I think you must be a truly remarkable woman to maintain such a generous and humorous attitude in the face of this, I admire you.

And rant away, I don't hear whining, I hear sorrow.

Blessings

[gfp]

Oh, my friend, I SO hear ya! It seems sometimes like it is like this MASSIVE maze that we are in and can't figure out how to maneuver through it..... That's how I feel, anyway.... All I know is that there are answers out there that I haven't found yet..... But giving up and throwing in the towel is just not an option!

Karen

Sometimes those answers just come, just like the problems did to start off.

The solutions can be so unexpected and from the last place you were expecting or things can turn out to be less serious than you worry.

Cyberhugs to you both..... and hoping some of your problems find there own solutions and some of your problems turn out to be less serious than you thought.

[debmidge]

Once I had a "midnight" noise problem with a neighbor and the solution was to put a complaint into our town's Health Dept. I had to prove it was keeping me awake and yes, it was and I had Ambien prescription receipts and Dr.'s receipts to prove it. The moment I mentioned Board of Health the problem got resolved. It took me almost 2 years to get to this point; I would have done it sooner had I known I could.

[mouse]

Lynne, I have no answers, just sorrow and tears for all that you are going through. I have a tea I have to go to today, but I will try and call you before I go. Knowing how late you were up, you will probably be sleeping. LOVE and HUGS.

[ravenwoodglass]

Gee I thought I had problems with my neighbors! Get yourself a camera, use it to take pictures of the dog run, the dogs, and get a couple shots of her putting her trash cans in your front yard. Then make 3 sets of copies. Send one to Animal Control, take the others to the police station and the third set goes to the Health dept. Then gather up the reciepts from your vet for the flea stuff and any other related reciepts and take them down to your local court along with a estimate from a surveyor to resurvey your property and replace the marker and file in small claims against her to recover the cost of all this stuff. It sounds like the lady is a 'collector' and she may actually be mentally ill but you and the animals should not suffer.

Healthwise it sounds like you are going through the same sort of misery I did, all I can offer you is the knowledge that you are not alone. I had given up just a little over 4 years ago and was to the point where my DD's 'permission' to commit suicide was starting to seem like a good idea. Miracle is still the term I use on almost a daily basis. I am praying that eventually you will be in the same place. It has been a long slow haul and I will never completely recover but I have seen enough improvement to be able to say that you should never lose hope.

((((((((((hugs))))))))) and prayers are coming your way. If there is ever anything I can do or if you just need to rant I am here for you. If you ever want to contact me 'out of the group' for any reason please let me know.

[jerseyangel]

Hi Lynne,

My heart aches for what you're going through. Things have a way of working themselves out--although it's a mystery to me why sometimes we have to go through hell to get there.

Two years ago I was so sick constantly that I didn't even get out of bed until it was almost time for the guys to come home. I was scared, depressed and paranoid to the point that I was afraid of my own shadow. I gave up my much-loved job twice, it was at this low point that I sometimes thought--what's the use?

I pray that things will start to turn around for you, and that the correct course of treatment is begun for Ashley. You know that I'm here anytime you want to talk

PS--I have one of "those" neighbors across the street

[Guest nini]

big ol {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} my friend... I was wanting to ask your advice on an issue I'm having right now, but I'll figure something out...

[CarlaB]

Gosh, Lynne, I was just thinking about you yesterday. I knew the majority of the rain went south of us, so I was wondering how you did through it all. It's a beautiful day here, finally, I hope you at least have some pretty weather today.

Sorry so many thing are going so badly right now. I am off the casein, too. Shellfish also makes me sick, but not intolerance, it's an allergy. Right now, doc has me eating only meat, eggs, and veggies ... the hardest part there is no COFFEE!! Do what you have to do to get better.

Feel free to rant anytime. That's what we're here for.

[Ursa Major]

Lynne, I am so sorry about all your troubles. Especially that neighbour seems to add a horrendous amount of stress you don't need. I agree with taking all those pictures and reporting this lady. Also, don't forget her way of diverting the rain to your yard, I don't believe that's legal, either. She probably is mentally ill. She needs help, and alerting the authorities to what she is doing may actually be the loving thing to do, to get her the help she needs (not to mention helping yourself in the process, of course).

Eating the things you're intolerant to will only make you worse, you seriously need to only eat what is good and right for you. Let your family eat the beef you ordered, you can't afford to make yourself even sicker. Or sell it to somebody else.

I will pray for you and hope things will start getting better soon.

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[Judyin Philly]

Lynne, what an extraordinary number of ordeals you are facing. I think you must be a truly remarkable woman to maintain such a generous and humorous attitude in the face of this, I admire you.And rant away, I don't hear whining, I hear sorrow.

HI Sweetie-

God my heart aches for you!. Agree with rinne..I hear pain and sorrow...no whining from you ever. your not even telling your family all this health stuff. I saw you post earlier last nite and went on the see if you were on line but you were off. if i'd been on last nite..would have made a 2:00 am call

Lynne, I am so sorry about all your troubles. Especially that neighbour seems to add a horrendous amount of stress you don't need. I agree with taking all those pictures and reporting this lady. Also, don't forget her way of diverting the rain to your yard, I don't believe that's legal, either. She probably is mentally ill. She needs help, and alerting the authorities to what she is doing may actually be the loving thing to do, to get her the help she needs (not to mention helping yourself in the process, of course).

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I know you don't want more work to do. BUT so agree with the other posters the pictures tell it all.

Bet she is a 'horder' and the SPCA really gets on them. Saw some shows on Amimal Planet and the SPCA police were right on it..the flee problem should be against the law for sure.

praying for healing and peace in your soul and heart.

love ya Lynne

judy

[Matilda]

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[nikki-uk]

Heck Lynne,not much I can add to what everyone else has posted,but big

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BTW-you do not whine!!!!

(Something to make you smile that my hubby says on occasion

''If we didn't have bad luck,we wouldn't have any luck at all!'')

[tiffjake]

What did you tell me once? "This too shall pass"! You can handle this, just one day at a time. You have such great stregnth and you share it with all of us! Thank-you for that. I have faith in you! I know you are stressing, but rant away, and remember that this is one day, and tomorrow is another. BIG HUG!!!!!!

[Fiddle-Faddle]

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Do you like "Gone With The Wind?" In the words of the immortal Scarlett O'Hara (Harlot O'Scara?), "Tomorrow is another day!" (And you have your own beloved Ashley, too!)

[jerseyangel]

''If we didn't have bad luck,we wouldn't have any luck at all!'')

I use that expression myself

[tiredofdoctors]

Thank you guys VERY much. . . . I really appreciate it. Sometimes, a different perspective really helps. I think that I am just so tired from the low blood pressure, from having to put forth so much exertion for the least little task, that it has just made me weary. I'm actually getting AFRAID to go to the doctor's anymore . . . every time I go, it seems that I get ANOTHER diagnosis. And they're generally not all that good! What happened to "You have sinusisitis."??????? That was a diagnosis I could deal with. Broken bones? Not a problem . . . . But this garbage has GOT to stop!!!

I actually winced when I asked if I was hyperinsulinemic. I knew the answer. My doctor said, "You have gained 36 pounds while in a wheelchair and you barely take in enough calories per day for a child. Of COURSE you're hyperinsulinemic. It's not good." She didn't give me the numbers on the bloodwork -- I feel relatively secure that she just didn't want to scare me. She's pretty kind that way. If I push, she says, "Sweetie, don't ask . . . you REALLY don't want to know this one." (She's my age, too, which kind of cracks me up -- It's a southern thing . . . )

My neighbor? We found out WHY she wrote what she did on her trash cans! My son's girlfriend, Brooke, has been coming over during the day to help me around the house. She smokes, but respects that we dont, so she goes outside. Instead of putting her cigarette butts on the ground, she has been putting them in the neighbor's trash can. So, the whole "I've notified the police" thing is over about 10 cigarette butts! Somehow I find that more funny than words can mention! Dave is still furious, talked last night with my Dad who knows the City Planner . . . she has NO IDEA the trouble she has stirred for herself. And yes, she does have emotional problems. When I fell planting the calla lilies, she was upset with the guy she hired to mow her lawn because he stopped to help me inside. . . . she walked away while he was helping.

I'm still kind of reeling over some of the news that I got on Friday. I think a few more days will definitely make things better. "Distance lends perspective to the view."

Thank you again for your help.

Love & Hugs,

Lynne

[tiredofdoctors]

THIS is the kind of thing I am talking about . . . . about 20 minutes ago, we had a knock at the door. I laughed, told Dave "Well, it's gotta be Linda." OH NO . . . . it was the POLICE. She called the Police because we had put our garbage bags on HER garbage area! Dave showed the officer the surveying pin located under the dirt. The officer said, "Well, until she can show me otherwise, I'm considering that this is your property." So, Dave moved the cans. The officer went over to the house, told the woman what he and Dave had discussed. WHILE THE OFFICER WAS THERE, the neighbor went outside and moved the cans BACK onto our yard!!! The officer just shook his head, told Dave that this is a civil matter, not a criminal one, and we could contact the city if we wanted to. SHE CALLED THE POLICE ON US!!!!! It was because when Brooke had taken out the trash, she thought that, since the cans were on our sidewalk, they were ours. She put the bags beside them, thinking Dave would put them in the cans when he got home. Dave just put the bags into our cans. I have never had the police called on me in my LIFE. Not even as a teenager!!!!! Here I am, 44 years old, and the police come knocking at my door because of our next door neighbor's GARBAGE CANS. Can I PUHLEEEEEEEZE get a break???????????????????

[jerseyangel]

Look at it this way, Lynne--she's very fortunate that her biggest problem is that she thinks your trash cans were on her property.

People like this have no idea what it is to have a real crisis to deal with--so they go out and try and create one.

What a loser