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Newly Diagnosed With Lots Of Allergies Including Gluten


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AuburnAmy Newbie

Hello Everyone!

 

So I am new too all of this and I'm not really sure where to start, so I'll give you a little background on me and how I got here and hopefully you kind people can give me suggestions!  :rolleyes:

 

I am 32 years old and for YEARS, I mean YEARS (probably 20) I have been dealing with the most frustrating tummy issues. I would throw up nearly every day for what I thought was no reason, my weight fluctuated by the 10's on a monthly basis, severe cramps, bloating, bubbles... etc etc.

 

I went to every doctor imaginable and spent thousands of dollars on tests, bloodwork, special foods, and procedures with everthing coming back 'normal' and 'within range.' It got to the point where my co-workers dubbed my illnesses as amyfowleritis. I felt for sure that I was dying some slow, painful death and some scientist would name my unknown issues after me and I would be in medical journals. Okay, so that is a bit of an exaggeration, but its how I honestly felt for a long, long time.

 

On my birthday last month I decided I wanted shrimp and grits, one of God's finer creations, and I broke out in pretty impressive hives that three benadryl could not tackle and I was sent to the allergist to get an epipen. Only there, at the glorious allergist, did I learn that I not only had a shellfish allergy, but I also have a gluten and dairy intolerance, peanut allergy, and I should also be avoiding other nuts, citrus, mint, strawberries, chocolate, pork, and all salt-water fish.

 

Needless to say, a giant light bulb went off over my head and I had a coming to Jesus moment once I realized that yes, this is why I feel like crap all the time. All of my favorite foods are torturing me and my GI system. I really wanted to go back and yell at all of the other doctors I have had the pleasure of knowing over the years for chaulking it up to severe IBS, but I decided to take the higher road and sulk in my own misery for the time being.

 

My allergist appointment happened earlier this week (Monday, actually) and I am still in a shock type state of mind and I really do not have a clue as to where to begin. I am asking you, fellow gluten (and maybe other allergies like mine) suffers; where did you begin? Did you stop everything cold turkey like a bad drug? Did you start to ween yourself off the foods you cannot eat? How did you change your life and all of the eating habits you have had so long? What was the best piece of advice you received?

 

As of right this second, I have a bag of gluten free pasta and veggies I can eat in my home. I cant really afford to replace everything in my pantry and fridge all at once, but I also dont want to starve myself. Anything, everything, whatever you have in your lovely brain of yours that you can share with me while I start this lifestyle change, I would truly and forever appreciate.

 

I apologize for my novel, but I hope you made it through the end... or at least skimmed over it enough to pick up my cry for help. Thanks!!!!! B)


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 AuburnAmy, on 18 Apr 2014 - 7:58 PM, said:

Hello Everyone!

 

So I am new too all of this and I'm not really sure where to start, so I'll give you a little background on me and how I got here and hopefully you kind people can give me suggestions!   :rolleyes:

 

I am 32 years old and for YEARS, I mean YEARS (probably 20) I have been dealing with the most frustrating tummy issues. I would throw up nearly every day for what I thought was no reason, my weight fluctuated by the 10's on a monthly basis, severe cramps, bloating, bubbles... etc etc.

 

I went to every doctor imaginable and spent thousands of dollars on tests, bloodwork, special foods, and procedures with everthing coming back 'normal' and 'within range.' It got to the point where my co-workers dubbed my illnesses as amyfowleritis. I felt for sure that I was dying some slow, painful death and some scientist would name my unknown issues after me and I would be in medical journals. Okay, so that is a bit of an exaggeration, but its how I honestly felt for a long, long time.

 

On my birthday last month I decided I wanted shrimp and grits, one of God's finer creations, and I broke out in pretty impressive hives that three benadryl could not tackle and I was sent to the allergist to get an epipen. Only there, at the glorious allergist, did I learn that I not only had a shellfish allergy, but I also have a gluten and dairy intolerance, peanut allergy, and I should also be avoiding other nuts, citrus, mint, strawberries, chocolate, pork, and all salt-water fish.

 

Needless to say, a giant light bulb went off over my head and I had a coming to Jesus moment once I realized that yes, this is why I feel like crap all the time. All of my favorite foods are torturing me and my GI system. I really wanted to go back and yell at all of the other doctors I have had the pleasure of knowing over the years for chaulking it up to severe IBS, but I decided to take the higher road and sulk in my own misery for the time being.

 

My allergist appointment happened earlier this week (Monday, actually) and I am still in a shock type state of mind and I really do not have a clue as to where to begin. I am asking you, fellow gluten (and maybe other allergies like mine) suffers; where did you begin? Did you stop everything cold turkey like a bad drug? Did you start to ween yourself off the foods you cannot eat? How did you change your life and all of the eating habits you have had so long? What was the best piece of advice you received?

 

As of right this second, I have a bag of gluten free pasta and veggies I can eat in my home. I cant really afford to replace everything in my pantry and fridge all at once, but I also dont want to starve myself. Anything, everything, whatever you have in your lovely brain of yours that you can share with me while I start this lifestyle change, I would truly and forever appreciate.

 

I apologize for my novel, but I hope you made it through the end... or at least skimmed over it enough to pick up my cry for help. Thanks!!!!!  B)

AuburnAmy Newbie

Did you have actual Celiac blood work done? Please get all the necessary testing for Celiac Disease before you go gluten free. It is hard to go back on gluten later for a diagnosis.

Honestly, I think I've had everything in the book tested, but I gave up a couple of years ago in finding out what my cause was. I want to say that I was tested for Crohn's Disease and Ulcerative Colitis, but I do not recall Celiac specifically. I've had a colonoscopy, sigmoidoscopy, upper GI's, an endoscopy and ultrasounds of my insides within the last two years and I was always border-line this or border-line that, but never definitively diagnosed with anything.

kareng Grand Master

Honestly, I think I've had everything in the book tested, but I gave up a couple of years ago in finding out what my cause was. I want to say that I was tested for Crohn's Disease and Ulcerative Colitis, but I do not recall Celiac specifically. I've had a colonoscopy, sigmoidoscopy, upper GI's, an endoscopy and ultrasounds of my insides within the last two years and I was always border-line this or border-line that, but never definitively diagnosed with anything.

If it were me, before I gave up gluten, I would get a real Celiac blood panel and maybe an endoscopy with biopsies. I don't see how the allergist diagnosed you without that. There aren't any legit tests for gluten intolerance so that is a hard thing for an MD to diagnose.

There are others that know more about allergies - but food allergies testing is unreliable. The best test is to give up a food and see what happens.

AuburnAmy Newbie

If it were me, before I gave up gluten, I would get a real Celiac blood panel and maybe an endoscopy with biopsies. I don't see how the allergist diagnosed you without that. There aren't any legit tests for gluten intolerance so that is a hard thing for an MD to diagnose.

There are others that know more about allergies - but food allergies testing is unreliable. The best test is to give up a food and see what happens.

All I really wanted from this posting was advice from people who have been going through something similar to myself who could offer their widsom on how to change my lifestyle and what to look after. :(  I wasnt looking for additional medical advice or to have anyone question what my doctor told me.To be honest and perfectly blunt, Kareng, I've been going through this for so long that I dont care how reliable you feel allergists are with their diagnosis. I've been screwed out of probably about $10K over the years from MD's and specialists (some of which were in the top of their field here in Atlanta) who want me to come back every two weeks for additional blood work or tests. None of them have been able to tell me specifically WHY I have been feeling the way I have. My last GI and I saw each other every two weeks for over a year. A  YEAR. and nothing. Yes, it may be a hard thing to diagnose and I am a shining example of the difficult diagnosis, but dont beat around the bush... just say you don't know. This allergist was the first person who has actually listened to me, took what I said into consideration, ran some $1,000 test and said 'hey, guess what... stop eating this and you'll feel 100% better.' I learned more from her in the three hours I was with her than I did in all of the years and countless visits I've had to these other doctors. I'm sorry if this seems rash, but I dont appricate the underminded tone. I may not have Celiac, but there is an obvious issue that at least someone had the brains to acknowledge and offered a legit possible fix for instead of wanting to medicate it, treat the symptom - not the problem, or poke and prod me over and over and over again. So, with that being said, if you have any helpful suggestions you may want to offer on how to change my diet without getting even more overwhelmed than I already am, I would greatly appricate it.

kareng Grand Master

All I really wanted from this posting was advice from people who have been going through something similar to myself who could offer their widsom on how to change my lifestyle and what to look after. :( I wasnt looking for additional medical advice or to have anyone question what my doctor told me.To be honest and perfectly blunt, Kareng, I've been going through this for so long that I dont care how reliable you feel allergists are with their diagnosis. I've been screwed out of probably about $10K over the years from MD's and specialists (some of which were in the top of their field here in Atlanta) who want me to come back every two weeks for additional blood work or tests. None of them have been able to tell me specifically WHY I have been feeling the way I have. My last GI and I saw each other every two weeks for over a year. A YEAR. and nothing. Yes, it may be a hard thing to diagnose and I am a shining example of the difficult diagnosis, but dont beat around the bush... just say you don't know. This allergist was the first person who has actually listened to me, took what I said into consideration, ran some $1,000 test and said 'hey, guess what... stop eating this and you'll feel 100% better.' I learned more from her in the three hours I was with her than I did in all of the years and countless visits I've had to these other doctors. I'm sorry if this seems rash, but I dont appricate the underminded tone. I may not have Celiac, but there is an obvious issue that at least someone had the brains to acknowledge and offered a legit possible fix for instead of wanting to medicate it, treat the symptom - not the problem, or poke and prod me over and over and over again. So, with that being said, if you have any helpful suggestions you may want to offer on how to change my diet without getting even more overwhelmed than I already am, I would greatly appricate it.

Wow! Ok.... Well... This is a Celiac Forum, so we may lean a bit that direction. As I said - I would want to know if I have an autoimmune disease and a blood test is pretty simple. An autoimmune disease is a bit more serious than an intolerance. I just want you to have the info to make a good decision.

But...assuming Celiac or NCGI, this is a good place to start:

https://www.celiac.com/forums/topic/91878-newbie-info-101/

Edited to add: I would get my records from all those loser doctors. Maybe they already did a Celiac blood panel. Some docs have no clue what they are looking at.

AuburnAmy Newbie

Wow! Ok.... Well... This is a Celiac Forum, so we may lean a bit that direction. As I said - I would want to know if I have an autoimmune disease and a blood test is pretty simple. An autoimmune disease is a bit more serious than an intolerance. I just want you to have the info to make a good decision.

But...assuming Celiac or NCGI, this is a good place to start:https://www.celiac.com/forums/topic/91878-newbie-info-101/

Edited to add: I would get my records from all those loser doctors. Maybe they already did a Celiac blood panel. Some docs have no clue what they are looking at.

Thank you! When I found this site I knew it was a celiac website but I also saw several postings about gluten allergies and the tab for gluten forums. I thought I was posting this under that part of the site and I guess now that is not the case so I apologize for getting worked up. You are right, I do want to know if there is something else going on as well, but I would have assumed that I had been tested in the past because I honestly cannot remember everything I was tested for. One quack had me scared to death for a week or so because he mentioned l leukemia. After that, I lost faith in the MD world and decided to just eat raw for awhile. So I've been through a lot, I've had many people tell me what to do and what I should be doing assuming I didn't have a clue, so I do get defensive when someone I don't know does the same. I know you have good intentions and I'll try to react to ways in more of a lady like manner, if my red head temper doesn't get the best of me again. :) thanks for the link! I've been doing a lot of reading lately and I'll add it to the lists! Have a good night.


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Thank you! When I found this site I knew it was a celiac website but I also saw several postings about gluten allergies and the tab for gluten forums. I thought I was posting this under that part of the site and I guess now that is not the case so I apologize for getting worked up. You are right, I do want to know if there is something else going on as well, but I would have assumed that I had been tested in the past because I honestly cannot remember everything I was tested for. One quack had me scared to death for a week or so because he mentioned l leukemia. After that, I lost faith in the MD world and decided to just eat raw for awhile. So I've been through a lot, I've had many people tell me what to do and what I should be doing assuming I didn't have a clue, so I do get defensive when someone I don't know does the same. I know you have good intentions and I'll try to react to ways in more of a lady like manner, if my red head temper doesn't get the best of me again. :) thanks for the link! I've been doing a lot of reading lately and I'll add it to the lists! Have a good night.

Originally, you posted this under products. I moved it here because I thought you had a diagnosis. I just wanted to help you as I have some knowledge about Celiac disease and know there is no such thing as a " gluten allergy". There are wheat allergies. Sometimes we say allergy to get other people, like a waiter, to understand. There are a lot of clueless doctors and pseudo- doctors that are not helpful. Maybe you should check out the university of Chicago Celiac center website, too. It has a lot of good info.

HavaneseMom Explorer

Hi AuburnAmy,

It sounds like you have been through a lot with your health and doctors.

If you are confident with what your allergist is telling you and don't wish to pursue a Celiac diagnosis, you should try following the allergist advice of "stop eating this and you will feel 100% better". Since you have been so sick for so long, I wouldn't bother weening yourself off of the offending foods. Why continue the suffering these foods are causing you? I would cut the foods out cold turkey, that is what I did. I could never imagine touching gluten again after my doctor told me it was what was making me sick all of those years. Never.

AuburnAmy Newbie

Allergy/intolerance/sensitivity... They're all pretty much the same word for me. She described it as a "heightened sensitivity." I don't see the need to be too technical for my purposes and Allergy is a word that everyone understands so I'll probably continue to describe it and label it as such. I'll check out that website, thanks for that suggestion. I wanted to have the post under products or something along those lines so people who were discussing what they ate, what brands they recommend amongst each other, etc might see mine and offer suggestions. I never stated I had a diagnosis in my first post and just listed the foods my allergist told me to avoid for fear of gastro issues, hives, or worse (foods I tested positive for and had reactions to) and said gluten, dairy and peanut allergies. I'll probably delete this post tomorrow when I am more awake and start over. Thanks for your help.

AuburnAmy Newbie

I take that back. In my headline I said newly diagnosed. Smh. I bow in apologies :( I totally missed that. Coming up with a clever tag line is not something I am all that great with, but I am type a crap ton. Lol.

Jmg Mentor

I take that back. In my headline I said newly diagnosed. Smh. I bow in apologies :( I totally missed that. Coming up with a clever tag line is not something I am all that great with, but I am type a crap ton. Lol.

 

I'm someone that cut out gluten prior to suspecting it as a problem and I really wish I'd had the benefit of the advice Karen gave above. Once you've cut it out it becomes much harder to get a diagnosis. It may not be what you wanted to hear, but it's very good advice. 

 

I know what its like to be surrounded by food that you can no longer eat. However before you throw everything away, why not start keeping a food diary and record what you eat and how you feel. Stick to non processed foods, fresh vegetables, meat and no grains. See if you feel better? I followed a paleo diet, which looking at the exclusions you've posted above would probably be something you could eat. There are lots of great sites and recipe ideas associated with it so that may be something to consider. 

 

The good side is that I feel so much better that it more than makes up for missing out on some old favourites, hope that proves the case for you also. Good luck :)

kareng Grand Master

Allergy/intolerance/sensitivity... They're all pretty much the same word for me. She described it as a "heightened sensitivity." I don't see the need to be too technical for my purposes and Allergy is a word that everyone understands so I'll probably continue to describe it and label it as such. I'll check out that website, thanks for that suggestion. I wanted to have the post under products or something along those lines so people who were discussing what they ate, what brands they recommend amongst each other, etc might see mine and offer suggestions. I never stated I had a diagnosis in my first post and just listed the foods my allergist told me to avoid for fear of gastro issues, hives, or worse (foods I tested positive for and had reactions to) and said gluten, dairy and peanut allergies. I'll probably delete this post tomorrow when I am more awake and start over. Thanks for your help.

You weren't really asking about specific products. The questions were the typical - I just got diagnosed, where do I go from here. I am sorry if I can't help you. Perhaps reading the dinner chat might help you with the what Celiacs eat?

GottaSki Mentor

I take that back. In my headline I said newly diagnosed. Smh. I bow in apologies :( I totally missed that. Coming up with a clever tag line is not something I am all that great with, but I am type a crap ton. Lol.

 

Welcome Amy!!!

 

If you haven't taken a look...check out the Newbie 101 thread Kareng recommended -- it really is a very great place to start.

 

Don't worry about the title of your thread, it can be changed by the Moderators if this thread stays live -- or you could simply start a new thread with a different title, which may get the attention of more members.  Perhaps "Newly Gluten Free"?

cyclinglady Grand Master

I am one of those with celiac who just had anemia as a symptom (reflecting back I had some anxiety that I attributed to perimenopause), but there are others who had severe intestinal damage and NO Gastrointestinal symptoms. They went in for testing because a relative was diagnosed.

Since you have been suffering for all this time without a firm diagnosis, I would ask for every copy of every lab taken in the last five years or so. Was a celiac blood panel done? What were the results? If you have not had the test, I would strongly recommend asking for one before giving up gluten for life.

I have allergies (since I was a kid) and you can not eat foods that give you rashes, hives or swelling. You must quit cold turkey. I can not tell you how scary it is to have your face, tongue and throat swell up on you! Every new exposure could kill you! Even if you tested positive to wheat for a wheat allergy, please get a celiac test! Because you can have both.

Worried about having to donate food in order to keep you safe? Look at the big picture!

Finally, do more research. You are your best advocate for good health!

mamaw Community Regular

Hello & welcome......When  new  people  come to this  site  I  can tell  you we all try to give  the  most accurate  information  we  can... my pet  peeve  is  people  spurting out  wrong  info..... I  feel Kareng  was  just  giving  facts to  you  just in case  you didn't know... we  always  should  mention  testing because  it has  happened  where  people  went  gluten-free  &  felt better  but  later on found  out  it  was  a much  bigger  problem .....

Believe  me  when I say  many of us  don't like the medical profession.. So  if  you are  content  with  your  decision  then by all means  go  with that... as  an adult  you have  the final  say  not  a doctor....

It is  an  expense  re-vamping  a kitchen to a  gluten-free  one..... I  would  replace  the  toaster  as  you can find  one for ten  bucks..... if  you  can't  afford  to  do  all at once the toaster  is  important  to  replace.... replacing  plastic  utensils  also  are not  very  pricey... but  keep in mind  if you have  scratched pots & pans  &  continue  to use  them  you still will be  getting  some gluten in your diet....

 Food  choices:  all beef, chicken, fish fruits & veggies  all are gluten-free  in their  natural  state.... ( think naked  food) just  don't  buy marinated,  coated, rubs or  seasoning  on  these  items... so  that  should be  an  easy  task...

Most companies  now  have  their  foods  labeled  that  are  gluten-free  so  become a label  reader....  watch out for hidden  gluten ie:  malt products,  soy  sauce, beer to name  a few....

Think  about  allotting  so  much a month  to  replenishing  your  food  with gluten-free  , same  with  cooking  items.... soon  you will have  a  small  stockpile  that  you now  will be able  to cook/eat  safely.. Start out  with  items  you truly  enjoy first  ..

Also if  you work  make yourself  a  gluten-free  goodie  box  for work, your  car & purse. SO  when  you  can't  find  a place to eat  you  will have a snack to carry  you  until  you can get  home....

Check out  restaurants in your  area  to see  where you  can dine out.....

Wendy's,  Chick F-La, red robin, PF Chang's, Chipolte Grill, Uno's  Chicago grill,   boston Market to  name a few  who have  a gluten-free menu...  hth

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Happyw5 Explorer

shellfish allergy, but I also have a gluten and dairy intolerance, peanut allergy, and I should also be avoiding other nuts, citrus, mint, strawberries, chocolate, pork, and all salt-water fish.

 

Hi, I was diagnosed with a wheat allergy, peanut allergy, hazelnut allergy, grape allergy, egg allergy, shellfish allergy, a dairy intolerance and a gluten intolerance and oral allergy syndrome.  I never had the appropriate tests done before I went gluten free for celiac disease, so I will never know.  And now I wouldn't be able to eat it again to get the tests done!  It is hard at the beginning, but it gets so easy to eat with all these allergies.  I have now reintroduced dairy, I can now eat cheese and yogurt (but still can't tolerate milk and icecream)...  I can eat eggs in things, but not on their own.  

 

If I were you, I would and did go cold turkey on everything your allergist was concerned with.  There is a lot of food out there, it is just about learning new ways to eat.  You can no longer eat the convenient (poison) foods.  You have to make everything from scratch.  I eat a lot of beans, meat, and fruits and veges...Luckily I can eat almonds as well.  It's amazing what you will learn about preparing food.  I wish you luck, hopefully your new journey will teach you as much as it has taught me!!  

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      @Colleen H   I am just curious,  when you were tested for coeliac disease, did the doctors find out if you had any deficiencies? Sometimes muscle pain can be caused by certain deficiencies, for example, magnesium, vitamin D, calcium, and potassium.   Might be worth looking into having some more tests.  Pins and needles can be neuropathy, again caused by deficiencies, such as iron and B12,  which can be reversed if these deficiencies are addressed. In the UK where I live we are usually only tested for iron, B12 and vitamin D deficiencies at diagnosis.   I was very iron anemic and supplementation made a big difference.  B12 was low normal, but in other countries the UK's low normal would be considered a deficiency.  My vitamin D was low normal, and I've been supplementing ever since (when I remember to take it!) My pins and needles definitely started to improve when my known deficiencies were addressed.  My nutritionist also gave me a broad spectrum supplement which really helped, because I suspect I wasn't just deficient in what I mention above but in many other vitamins and minerals.  But a word of warning, don't take iron unless blood tests reveal you actually need it, and if you are taking it your levels must be regularly monitored because too much can make you ill.  (And if you are currently taking iron, that might actually be making your stomach sore - it did mine, so my GP changed my iron supplementation to a gentler form, ferrous gluconate). Lastly, have you been trying to take anything to lessen the pain in your gut?  I get a sore stomach periodically, usually when I've had too much rich food, or when I have had to take an aspirin or certain antibiotics, or after glutening.  When this happens, I take for just a few days a small daily dose of OTC omeprazole.  I also follow a reflux or gastritis diet. There are lots online but the common denominators to these diets is you need to cut out caffeine, alcohol, rich, spicy, acidic food etc and eat small regularly spaced meals.   When I get a sore stomach, I also find it helpful to drink lots of water.  I also find hot water with a few slices of ginger very soothing to sip, or camomile tea.  A wedge pillow at night is good for reflux. Also,  best not to eat a meal 2-3 hours before going to bed. If the stomach pain is getting worse, though, it would be wise to see the doctor again. I hope some of this helps. Cristiana    
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