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My Potluck Comment

Kimbalou

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Kimbalou Enthusiast
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So today at work we are having a potluck. Everyone kept talking about how wonderful the carrot cake was. On and on and on. I didn't say a word. Most of the food was gluten free, so that was nice. Someone told me "I am so sorry you can't eat gluten, this cake is SO GOOD." Finally I just said "That's ok, it will make you fat anyway." ha. I couldn't resist. I told her "sorry, I couldn't resist saying that." Sometimes I have little tolerance....and I thought her comment was annoying. :(

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seejenrun Newbie
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You just have to try to not let it annoy you. Healthy people will never understand what it is like to suffer from a chronic illness. Even those who care for us. That's why we have groups like this for support.

kareng Grand Master
kareng
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Good for you!  

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So today at work we are having a potluck. Everyone kept talking about how wonderful the carrot cake was. On and on and on. I didn't say a word. Most of the food was gluten free, so that was nice. Someone told me "I am so sorry you can't eat gluten, this cake is SO GOOD." Finally I just said "That's ok, it will make you fat anyway." ha. I couldn't resist. I told her "sorry, I couldn't resist saying that." Sometimes I have little tolerance....and I thought her comment was annoying. :(

I wouldn't mind if they rave at each other about how good it is but the moment one of them comes over while shoving it in their face-hole and tells me how good it is and that they're sorry I couldn't eat, I'd tell them to shove it. That really isn't necessary nor is it helping. Its kind of like a little kid showing another little kid some candy they can't have. The parent is supposed to tell their kid to put away the candy until the other child leaves.

 

Like kareng said, good for you. I'm all about opening up dialogue and not being completely rude but some people are just obnoxious. 

LauraTX Rising Star
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I think your comment was a perfect retort and wasn't over the top at all :)

Kimbalou Enthusiast
Kimbalou
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I wouldn't mind if they rave at each other about how good it is but the moment one of them comes over while shoving it in their face-hole and tells me how good it is and that they're sorry I couldn't eat, I'd tell them to shove it. That really isn't necessary nor is it helping. Its kind of like a little kid showing another little kid some candy they can't have. The parent is supposed to tell their kid to put away the candy until the other child leaves.

 

Like kareng said, good for you. I'm all about opening up dialogue and not being completely rude but some people are just obnoxious. 

Exactly! She did exactly that...made that comment while shoving it in her face. People don't get it. But she also sends me great gluten-free recipes. It's weird. Before my diagnosis, I never really noticed how much people talk about food!!! It's like they've never eaten cake, donuts or bagels before. 

Kimbalou Enthusiast
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I think your comment was a perfect retort and wasn't over the top at all :)

Tee hee...thanks! It was rude the way it happened, she said this while shoving the cake in her mouth. Maybe next time I'll say "Ok, maybe I will have a bite...then I can pass gas in your direction the rest of the day!!" lol

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Kimbalou Enthusiast
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Good for you!  

Thanks!!

Kimbalou Enthusiast
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You just have to try to not let it annoy you. Healthy people will never understand what it is like to suffer from a chronic illness. Even those who care for us. That's why we have groups like this for support.

It only bothered me because she came right out and said "Too bad you can't eat this...it's really good!" While shoving the cake in her mouth. It was rude.

IrishHeart Veteran
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It only bothered me because she came right out and said "Too bad you can't eat this...it's really good!" While shoving the cake in her mouth. It was rude.

 

We have a treatment for our disease. We can get well and be happy and healthy! :) .

 

Sadly, there is no cure for blatant ass%$@#ry. She will always be afflicted. Poor thing.  ;)

kareng Grand Master
kareng
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We have a treatment for our disease. We can get well and be happy and healthy! :) .

Sadly, there is no cure for blatant ass%$@#ry. She will always be afflicted. Poor thing. ;)

SO funny!

I don't mind the people that don't know or forget, saying things like " this cake is soooo good! You need to get some". And I am happy people enjoy their gluteny treats. But this one sounds a bit like " nah! Nah! na! Nah! Nah! I can have this super yummy cake and you can't!". And that is just plain mean.

I have been thinking of responses ( most are probably not good ones to really use )

Look at her and have your whole happy face fall and start crying.

Tell her you will enjoy seeing it on her hips.

Ask if you can have those jeans, because, at the rate she is gobbling that cake, they won't fit her tomorrow.

"I heard that the baker's cat jumped on the table and peed on it. Can you taste the pee?"

" did you have to pick much cat hair off it?"

Just turn around and walk away.

" why would you say something so mean? "

" Yeah. you're right. My life sucks. Thanks for reminding me"

" OMG! I can't? I just ate a piece!" Then clutch your chest and fall over

IrishHeart Veteran
IrishHeart
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Those are all great responses! ^_^

nvsmom Community Regular
nvsmom
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Great response...  wonder what she was actually expecting you to say or does she always speak before thinking...

 

Good ones, Kareng!  LOL

across Contributor
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I have relatives who almost every time I see them say things like, "Oh, you should taste this great new cornbread recipe I made the other day -- it's amazing!" and "Have you had this awesome new breakfast bread? It's soooo good!" 

 

They honestly don't mean any harm by it. They're just trying to share something with me that they've found that they like; momentarily forgetting my situation.

 

I did, however, remind them the other day by saying, "You realize, of course, that you're saying this to a person who can never, ever again in my whole life have so much as a crumb of anything even remotely resembling that?" 

 

It made them think, and they haven't done it since.

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