Fourty Something Women

[CarlaB]

oh thanks so much, girls, esp. you Carla for all that good advice.

I am in such a sad and crummy mood today.....am stepping AWAY from the computer because....will only post sad things.

It's a gorgeous day and I'm going to try and enjoy it....as best I can. If you only could understand the place I"m in.....it's hard to put into words but I guess I could just use your prayers.

And I will see you all later.

Susan, I've been in that place .... or one like it anyway ... I'm here if you need me. Enjoy the day!! You have my prayers.

[Guest melannen]

Thank you! I'll be PMing you both in a sec...

Jessica......I believe I have more dating experience than anyone you or I know. in fact friends have actually urged me to write a book...oh dear gawd the stories I could tell.....but I've only gotten so far as the title: "A**holes I Have Known, And How To Avoid Them" Sadly I didn't gain my wisdom until later in life....but I can help you with what's acceptable and unacceptable in a dating situation, I do this frequently for friends as I *try* to help them avoide the mistakes I made. Ahhhhhhhh....hindsight.

You can PM me, too.

Jessica,

You can pm me to if you need to.

[Green12]

Susie, hugs to you.

I must have missed all what you wrote, but you know how I feel. I think you are FABULOUS!!!!!.....and I would say more but its probably too much information for public viewing

Enjoy this gorgeous day, get out with the dingo girls and play if you can.

[jerseyangel]

Carla: I too live in your world....and it's not a bad place to be.

I agree with both of you ladies Not a bad place at all

[Rikki Tikki]

I agree with both of you ladies Not a bad place at all

I agree;

Susan: You are such a warm hearted great person, wait until you are ready. One day your prince will come! I think some day mine will, just hope I don't dump him into the men have cooties!

It's ok to feel bad, it's just one of those things that are what they are... Take your time, look outside at the goregous day and enjoy being with yourself!

[Green12]

I agree;

Susan: You are such a warm hearted great person, wait until you are ready. One day your prince will come! I think some day mine will, just hope I don't dump him into the men have cooties!

It's ok to feel bad, it's just one of those things that are what they are... Take your time, look outside at the goregous day and enjoy being with yourself!

Hi Tavi!! Ditto, Susan is such a warm hearted, great person

And I didn't know you were looking for your prince too. Both you and Susan deserve the very best.

Glad you are getting such good advice here mellanen

Random question:

Does anyone know anything about dream analysis?????

[TriticusToxicum]

Susan, Sorry to hear you're feeling blue. I went out and looked up Mr. Perfect for you.

http://www.antsports.com/ffl/A_Images/LOGOL0106T2.webp

I'm guessing since Fabio wasn't your type, then he probably isn't either.

Plan B - How about giving Mr. Wonderful a try?

http://tonova.typepad.com/thesuddencurve/M...UL_doll_pic.webp

He seems nice enough, but he's kind of short, and I'd hate to see what the dingos might do to him.

I looked for Mr. Right, alas I too came up empty You've just got to remember we all bring baggage (some Gucci, others like me Hefty Cinch Sack) into these things, that's what makes us human. You can't let what you perceive as "excess baggage" hold you back.

They say there's someone out there for everyone. The trouble is they are out there (and yes, some are "out there") they don't usually knock on your door (unless you've got a thing for the men in brown ) So, rah, rah, rah - Get back in the game!

http://homepage.eircom.net/~trojan/mr_perfect.webp - and you thought you had issues!

Keep you chin up or I'll be force to PM you with more bad dogs!

[lonewolf]

Prayers for you Susan.

[2kids4me]

Susan I'll be thinking of you too! Maybe it will help me. Maybe we can boost each other up.

I seemed to be doing well the last several months, coping with ups and downs. Today I lost it, I blew up big time and I dont know where all of it came from - other than I was sick today and expected that I had a capable husband. I just wanted to find a place where I can be left alone.

I woke up feeling crappy with stomach ache and feeling exhausted [there is a "virus" going around]. Top it off that I recently started on lasix for edema - likely related to long standing Type 1 diabetes. Kathryn has been sick off and on - realized it is likely lactose intolerance - so made some changes and she feels better. Forgot to get B12 shot last week and am overdue so feeling depleted there.

Dh feels that caring for kids means you are in the house while they watch Tv and play playstation. I got up and made sure someone took dog out, kids got exercise etc. All I could eat today was chicken and rice soup and gingerale.... trying to keep blood sugar at ok level. Tons of great leftovers in frig - potatoes, ham carrots. Also eggs if anyone wanted something different. DH didnt know what everyone would want so asked me - then asked me for directions on cooking, then asked me for help with ds insulin correction. THIS MAN IS A DOCTOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but helpless with child care.

Then I had to do laundry cause ds and dd left gym clothes in room til tonight and dh doesnt know how to use washer (yet he does his coveralls all the time for work )

why is it that moms arent allowed to be sick and IF we do get sick and arent cheerful and helpful - then we are being difficult!!!!! That's when I lost it and "suggested" that dh learn the same way i did - JUST DO IT

[AndreaB]

Sandy,

You sound like you've been through the ringer.

HUGS for you.

You're hubby will forgive you ( I'm making assumptions since I don't know him ). After all you are sick and very tired. It's so hard to be able to get rest as it is. Kids will be in school tomorrow and IF you can take some time off work then you can play catch up tomorrow. Make sure take care of yourself. The house won't fall apart, and hubby WILL learn if he has too.

[2kids4me]

Thanks for the hugs Andrea, I am losing hope that dh will ever learn thow to help kids. I was admitted to the hospital one time and put on Iv, dh left kids with me while he ran errands. He didnt see the big deal.

The biggest stress right now is coping with ds and his diabetes - he is in growth phase and requires adjusmtne of insuling daily - plus midnight and 4 am BG checks ( we alternate nights for what time we do it). This testing is left up to me cause dh "cant help it if he is too tired to get up". I am the one to wake up for insulin reactions - we have buzzer hooked to ds room - it is loud - also not dh fault cause he "doesnt hear it often enough to be expected to know what it means" arrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhh

Couple that with my health issues and its exhausting.

maybe i need to take more moclobemide!

[AndreaB]

How do you ever get the required 4 hour stretch of sleep, let alone the amount of sleep you need. I'm one who needs more.

Your son's schedule sounds exhausting alone. Any idea how long this will last? Once his growth spurt is over will things calm down again?

Is there any way you can take a couple days off work and rest up?

I can't believe he left them in the hospital with you.

[2kids4me]

yes, I can take time off work and rest and I will do that or else I wont be much help to anyone.

It will be a better day tomorrow as kids go to school and dh goes to work.

At least dd is no longer nauseous and up with diarrhea - since we figured out the lactose. I think I would have gone around the bed if I had needed to deal with that too.

thank you for listening to the vent

[nikki-uk]

Sandy -you are not on your own!!

I think that most husbands plead ignorance when it comes to running the house/childcare.

With my hubby it's not that he can't do it....it's just that it's not up to my standard!!!

...and we women are just so good at it-born to do it if you like!

I had a flu bug last weekend-needed 2 days in bed - but man the mess I had to get up to! (I thought a bomb had gone off),also the kids didn't get to go to their Saturday clubs (hubby proclaimed he didn't know about it-even though he watches me take them every week )

Jokes aside though- you certainatly do have alot on your plate at the moment - and broken sleep can make the most placid person inpatient! -and you sound as if you need a break now and then.

Maybe you could explain to hubby how sometimes (when you're ill or under the weather) it all gets on top of you ,but you could cope better if you got maybe 1 nights interupted sleep?

I've always found with my hubby, I have to point out the obvious- never expect your man to notice how worn down by it all you are , they just aren't as perceptive

[2kids4me]

A girlfriend sent me this - the second man appeals to me

UCLA STUDY OF WOMEN

A study conducted by UCLA's Department of Psychiatry has revealed that

the kind of face a woman finds attractive on a man can differ depending

on where she is in her menstrual cycle. For example, if she is

ovulating, she is attracted to men with rugged and masculine features.

However, if she is menstruating or menopausal, she tends to be more

attracted to a man with scissors lodged in his temple and duct tape over

his mouth while he is on fire.

No further studies are expected.

Maybe you could explain to hubby how sometimes (when you're ill or under the weather) it all gets on top of you ,but you could cope better if you got maybe 1 nights interupted sleep?

I've always found with my hubby, I have to point out the obvious- never expect your man to notice how worn down by it all you are , they just aren't as perceptive

I agree and have explained to him that I need a break and that I have difficulty controlling my blood glucose levels when I am up at all hours and I dont function well the next day. He has sat in team meetings with ds diabetes team and said "sure" and "of course" when he is told by them how he has to be just as familiar with everything as I am.... then when ds asks dad for help with insulin/carb ratio, or whatever. dh answers with " well, what do you usually do? or what do you think you should do?" ...then ds seeks me out or calls me. There is a whole lot more underlying this so that is probably why I get frustrated so easily. I ahve even had phonecalls on my cell with dh saying: "ds wont listen to me, and then hands the phone to ds for me to tell him to "listen to dad".

I will get sleep today and then put a smile on and write more stuff down and count to ten when dh looks to me problem solve discipline, diabetes and meals or whatever and try and be as helpful as I can.

[CarlaB]

UCLA STUDY OF WOMEN

A study conducted by UCLA's Department of Psychiatry has revealed that

the kind of face a woman finds attractive on a man can differ depending

on where she is in her menstrual cycle. For example, if she is

ovulating, she is attracted to men with rugged and masculine features.

However, if she is menstruating or menopausal, she tends to be more

attracted to a man with scissors lodged in his temple and duct tape over

his mouth while he is on fire.

[TriticusToxicum]

No further studies are expected.

Gulp

[Mtndog]

A girlfriend sent me this - the second man appeals to me

UCLA STUDY OF WOMEN

A study conducted by UCLA's Department of Psychiatry has revealed that

the kind of face a woman finds attractive on a man can differ depending

on where she is in her menstrual cycle. For example, if she is

ovulating, she is attracted to men with rugged and masculine features.

However, if she is menstruating or menopausal, she tends to be more

attracted to a man with scissors lodged in his temple and duct tape over

his mouth while he is on fire.

No further studies are expected.

Oh that is precious! No further studies are necessary because we all know this to be true.

Sandy- I hope you're getting some rest!

Melannen- You can PM me too about dating advice. I'm more like SusieQ in that I've been through the wringer (her wringer was much bigger though- OUCH!) but I'd be more than happy to talk about it.

SusieQ and Melannen and everyone else who is looking for their prince- chances are he's right under your nose and you haven't figured it out yet. That's what happened to me! I knew him for 12 years and thought he was my friend's annoying younger brother before I realized I was in love with him. Diamond in the rough!

[TriticusToxicum]

SusieQ and Melannen and everyone else who is looking for their prince- chances are he's right under your nose and you haven't figured it out yet. That's what happened to me! I knew him for 12 years and thought he was my friend's annoying younger brother before I realized I was in love with him. Diamond in the rough!

True, my wife and I met in kindergarten, but ran in different circles all through school (she was cool, I was a dork if you can believe that ). We re-connected after college and the rest is history.

[CarlaB]

True, my wife and I met in kindergarten, but ran in different circles all through school (she was cool, I was a dork if you can believe that ). We re-connected after college and the rest is history.

So, you've known her since you were 5??? That's so funny!!

Hubby and I met at a fraternity party, I needed a date for a dance, he was cute ... Okay, he was nice, too. We probably never would have met in HS because I was heavily involved in band ... so you were uncool in HS, too, Richard, what instrument do you play?

[TriticusToxicum]

... so you were uncool in HS, too, Richard, what instrument do you play?

air guitar

[lonewolf]

UCLA STUDY OF WOMEN

A study conducted by UCLA's Department of Psychiatry has revealed that

the kind of face a woman finds attractive on a man can differ depending

on where she is in her menstrual cycle. For example, if she is

ovulating, she is attracted to men with rugged and masculine features.

However, if she is menstruating or menopausal, she tends to be more

attracted to a man with scissors lodged in his temple and duct tape over

his mouth while he is on fire.

No further studies are expected.

I just about fell out of my chair laughing.

True, my wife and I met in kindergarten, but ran in different circles all through school (she was cool, I was a dork if you can believe that ). We re-connected after college and the rest is history.

Ummm, you're spending large amounts of time posting in a thread designed for 40+ year old women. YES, I can believe it.

[TriticusToxicum]

I just about fell out of my chair laughing.

Ummm, you're spending large amounts of time posting in a thread designed for 40+ year old women. YES, I can believe it.

Ok I AM a Dork!

[Green12]

air guitar

Have you seen those contests they have searching for the worlds greatest air guitar players?? It's a big deal I guess

[TriticusToxicum]

Have you seen those contests they have searching for the worlds greatest air guitar players?? It's a big deal I guess

Yeah, I've seen that. Some people are REALLY SERIOUS about it too (At least I hung mine up )