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nikky Contributor

Im 15 years old and im a healthy wieght, but im really skinny, some of my freinds dont believe me when i tell them that im over 8 stone and two of them frequently make comments that im too skinny and even suggest im anorexic and its starting to get on my nerves. Im 163.4cm tall and weigh 8.4 stone, when i breathe in you can see my ribs and people say they can feel them when they hug me. I dont think my freinds realise that their comments are starting to hurt me. My best freind (that ive known scince i was two) asked me point blank if i had an eating disorder because the seatbelt on the school bus was too big, when i said no she said "are you sure"! :(

upon being told that i havent put on weight scince January one of my freinds shouted to another (lound enough for half the school to hear) "She's annorexic!!!!!!! She must be!" .. ok rant over ..


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Ouch, that's harsh. Some people are naturally skinny especially the young (I'm Canadian and don't know what a Stone is other then it is a weight measurement. ) :) I don't think you can stop the comments but you can tell them how much it is hurting you maybe that will help. Do you eat in front of them? At school lunch and stuff? I would talk to them about how their comments are hurting you and ask them to drop it. Other then that there is nothing your can do to make them stop. Oh and growth and weight gain often come in spurts, so you might grow in height and not gain any weight for a while and then stop growing and put on weight. It will balance out eventually so long as you are eating a well rounded diet.

Hope this helps.

nikky Contributor
Ouch, that's harsh. Some people are naturally skinny especially the young (I'm Canadian and don't know what a Stone is other then it is a weight measurement. ) :) I don't think you can stop the comments but you can tell them how much it is hurting you maybe that will help. Do you eat in front of them? At school lunch and stuff? I would talk to them about how their comments are hurting you and ask them to drop it. Other then that there is nothing your can do to make them stop. Oh and growth and weight gain often come in spurts, so you might grow in height and not gain any weight for a while and then stop growing and put on weight. It will balance out eventually so long as you are eating a well rounded diet.

Hope this helps.

thankyou, i do eat infront of them which is why i dont get how they can make those comments.

maybe you use kilos? if you do im 52 kilos

CarlaB Enthusiast

Just tell them that you hope that if they ever get sick that no one will tease them about having a psychological disorder (anorexia). Maybe that will make them think.

blueeyedmanda Community Regular
Just tell them that you hope that if they ever get sick that no one will tease them about having a psychological disorder (anorexia). Maybe that will make them think.

well said Carla. Kids are so cruel!

lovegrov Collaborator

For us U.S. folks Nikky, is 5'4" and weighs 117 pounds, at least according to the conversion tables I used. I see nothing wrong with that weight. My daughter was 5'7" and 107 pounds when she was running and she ate like crazy.

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nikky Contributor

Thanks everyone, i just wish my freinds could think like you


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Thanks everyone, i just wish my freinds could think like you

Nikky...I am 5'4" and weigh 113 pounds and that's after healing! I got down to 98 pounds when I hit the wall with celiac disease and I am SURE many thought I was anorexic.

But you know what? I don't give a hoot what other people think. They are just jealous that I can eat more than most people and not gain weight like they do. It also has much to do with what you eat. I eat very healthy so therefore can eat more than someone who eats fried crap and cookies all day.

I know it's hard when you are younger but hold your head up high and let the idiot remarks roll right off. It's just jealousy on their part....you sound like you have a great figure and it never hurt anyone to be on the thinner side. It's healthier as long as you eat well.

One of my friends went through chemo for cancer and was wearing a long wig for awhile until her hair grew back. The day she went to work without her wig, some moron came up to her and asked her why she cut off her nice, long hair to a short cut like that. She looked him straight in the eye and said her new hairstyle was the result of having battled cancer so thank you very much for the comment, I appreciate it very much! He nearly died from embarrassment, as well he should, and crawled away, never to be heard from again! :lol:

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Thanks everyone, i just wish my freinds could think like you

Nikky...I am 5'4" and weigh 113 pounds and that's after healing! I got down to 98 pounds when I hit the wall with celiac disease and I am SURE many thought I was anorexic.

But you know what? I don't give a hoot what other people think. They are just jealous that I can eat more than most people and not gain weight like they do. It also has much to do with what you eat. I eat very healthy so therefore can eat more than someone who eats fried crap and cookies all day.

I know it's hard when you are younger but hold your head up high and let the idiot remarks roll right off. It's just jealousy on their part....you sound like you have a great figure and it never hurt anyone to be on the thinner side. It's healthier as long as you eat well.

One of my friends went through chemo for cancer and was wearing a long wig for awhile until her hair grew back. The day she went to work without her wig, some moron came up to her and asked her why she cut off her nice, long hair to a short cut like that. She looked him straight in the eye and said her new hairstyle was the result of having battled cancer so thank you very much for the comment, I appreciate it very much! He nearly died from embarrassment, as well he should, and crawled away, never to be heard from again! :lol:

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Sounds like tacky teenage jealousy to me. Your Open Original Shared Link is well within normal limits. Smile and enjoy your skinny jeans. :lol:

nikky Contributor

Thanks everyone, i really apreciate your support

Live2BWell Enthusiast

Teens can be cruel ! I am sorry for the comments, but really there are a few things to keep in mind.

A) Eating disorders tend to be glamourized, so it's only natural for the society in which we live (unforunately) to making assumptions, especially for teenagers

B) You can educate your friends about what eating disorders REALLY are, and what they are NOT (the facts/myths)

C) You can also educate your friends, if you choose, about being Celiac or having food intolerances

D) Lastly, you can just set a boundary, stand up and say you would appreciate it if they don't make those comments, because you are not Anorexic.

Hang in there, I know that teens can be cruel ((Hugs))

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For us U.S. folks Nikky, is 5'4" and weighs 117 pounds, at least according to the conversion tables I used. I see nothing wrong with that weight. My daughter was 5'7" and 107 pounds when she was running and she ate like crazy.

richard

5' 4" @ 117 Lbs. for a female teenager is a good weight.

Don't allow uninformed people to get to you. Anexoria (the psychological condition) is from deliberately not eating. They'll get tired of this topic when they realize they aren't "getting to you."

I am 5' 4" and when I was a teen I would have been thrilled to be 117 lbs. (I was about 130 during high school and always dieting, unsuccessfully - I was told by the U.S. Airforce when I went to join at age 18 that I was too heavy at 130 lbs.....) and yes, there was anexoria back then too (It was just recognized back then) and no one ever accused any of my thinner friends of having anexoria - - more of my friends were 5' 4" at 110-120 lbs. than my size - so for me 117 seems more of what you should be at your age. I think someone in the group who are taunting you is doing it deliberately as she/he sees they are irritating you.

nikky Contributor
5' 4" @ 117 Lbs. for a female teenager is a good weight.

Don't allow uninformed people to get to you. Anexoria (the psychological condition) is from deliberately not eating. They'll get tired of this topic when they realize they aren't "getting to you."

I am 5' 4" and when I was a teen I would have been thrilled to be 117 lbs. (I was about 130 during high school and always dieting, unsuccessfully - I was told by the U.S. Airforce when I went to join at age 18 that I was too heavy at 130 lbs.....) and yes, there was anexoria back then too (It was just recognized back then) and no one ever accused any of my thinner friends of having anexoria - - more of my friends were 5' 4" at 110-120 lbs. than my size - so for me 117 seems more of what you should be at your age. I think someone in the group who are taunting you is doing it deliberately as she/he sees they are irritating you.

I guess i never thought of it like that, sometimes they do seem genuinely concerned but other times i think they are teasing. Thankyou

nikky Contributor
Teens can be cruel ! I am sorry for the comments, but really there are a few things to keep in mind.

A) Eating disorders tend to be glamourized, so it's only natural for the society in which we live (unforunately) to making assumptions, especially for teenagers

B) You can educate your friends about what eating disorders REALLY are, and what they are NOT (the facts/myths)

C) You can also educate your friends, if you choose, about being Celiac or having food intolerances

D) Lastly, you can just set a boundary, stand up and say you would appreciate it if they don't make those comments, because you are not Anorexic.

Hang in there, I know that teens can be cruel ((Hugs))

Thanks for the tips. I do try to explain to my freinds about celiac, but most of the time i end up wanting throw something because all i get are comments like "I'd tell them to stuff it" (them meaning my doctors) and "I'd die if i couldnt eat cookies and pizza"

Live2BWell Enthusiast

I am sure they are not meaning to be insensitive, even though they are coming across as it. Just stand your ground, it's up to you to set the boundary with them, and it's up to them to respect the boundary.. You also have the choice to associate with them or not if they keep teasing you.

Hang in there (( Hugs ))

nikky Contributor
I am sure they are not meaning to be insensitive, even though they are coming across as it. Just stand your ground, it's up to you to set the boundary with them, and it's up to them to respect the boundary.. You also have the choice to associate with them or not if they keep teasing you.

Hang in there (( Hugs ))

Im not the best person in the world at being firm, im too scared to hurt people, but i will definatly take your advice and tell them to drop it

S-J-L Apprentice

Your weight seems fine to me. I know how you feel, im 20 now but at high school people were always asking my sister if i was anorexic. Once on the bus this boy shouted 'look at that girl,shes anorexic, shes guna die'. Ive had lots of other comments too. I kept going to the doctors but they didnt know why i wasnt putting weight on. In my 1st year of university i went to a dietician who said its probably genetic. A couple of months ago i was diagnosed with celiacs, and went to another dietican. The 1st dietican couldnt figure out what was wrong with me so she wrote on my medical records 'suspected eating disorder'. Im soooo angry!!

The celiacs explains it, my tissue transglutaminase was 164! so my bowel must be quite damaged, and my body in starvation. biopsy was positive too.

Im slowly putting the weight on now but have alot of work to go as im 5'8 and 103pounds.

Goodluck

sarah

nikky Contributor
Your weight seems fine to me. I know how you feel, im 20 now but at high school people were always asking my sister if i was anorexic. Once on the bus this boy shouted 'look at that girl,shes anorexic, shes guna die'. Ive had lots of other comments too. I kept going to the doctors but they didnt know why i wasnt putting weight on. In my 1st year of university i went to a dietician who said its probably genetic. A couple of months ago i was diagnosed with celiacs, and went to another dietican. The 1st dietican couldnt figure out what was wrong with me so she wrote on my medical records 'suspected eating disorder'. Im soooo angry!!

The celiacs explains it, my tissue transglutaminase was 164! so my bowel must be quite damaged, and my body in starvation. biopsy was positive too.

Im slowly putting the weight on now but have alot of work to go as im 5'8 and 103pounds.

Goodluck

sarah

wow im sorry, my TTG (Tissue TransgluTaminase) was off the scale. In the UK the test only goes up to 200 and mine was over that. But my biopsy was negative. Luckily my doctors and dietitian do recognise that im a healthy weight, its just my so-called freinds that dont. Thankyou.

Crimson Rookie

They say that to make an excuse for why they are so much larger. Has anyone else noticed how fat kids are getting?

It's disturbing!

You're likely eating much healthier than most of the people around you...more natural and more like what people are made to eat. The "food" that these kids are eating is NOT food. It's a food like substance. And it's obviously doing them any good.

Keep in mind, that though you have an illness now, because you are eating healthier foods, you will be healthier in the long run.

I'm the same height and weight as you 5ft 4 and 115, I get similar comments all the time. Usually from those that are larger (or even obese). I don't think they say these things to hurt you rather than to make themselves feel better.

I'm actually thankful that I'm intolerant to most of the foods that make these people obese.

I think it's a blessing in disguise.

raen Apprentice

ive been called anorexic All my life. once in a middle school health class, the teacher used me as an example of "what anorexic girls may look like" - im 153 cms and 6 or 7 stones (im american, so i forget the exact stone number)

now, i have a cure! im a very tense person and it doesn't take much to make me feel vengeful, and theyre always so shocked i insulted them right back that they walk away speechless. if a rude/jealous girl asks "are your like anorexic?" i respond "no, your just a lardbutt." it works for anyone though - just last week a guy walking by said "thats the skinniest girl ive ever seen!" and i yelled back "says the wigger!" (he was very white and dressed very wannabe-gangster with his pants half around his legs). the person walking with me burst out laughing.

maybe politely say something along the lines of "im skinny because i have celiac disease, it effects my ability to absorb nutrients, and you hurt my feelings when you say things like that" - it makes them feel bad for insulting you rather than feel insulted themselves, and they're likely to stick up for you when someone else labels you that way then.

PS : i also asked my doctor naggingly, all my life, "are you sure i weigh enough to be healthy?" and indeed i did, too.

nikky Contributor

Thank you to everyone who has replied

KaitiUSA Enthusiast

O man do I know how you feel. I am between 5'3 and 5'4 and when I was healthy I was 114 and then when I got sick I went down to like 83 pounds and people kept making comments and doctors even asked me if I was anorexic and I absolutely hated it. I had tons of anxiety due to what I have been through and so I would not eat alot or in front of people because I was afraid of getting sick because everything used to make me sick so I decided I guess not to eat. Anyhow to make a long story short I am about 125 now and I have a healthy appetite because the doctors actually put me on an anti anxiety med that helps increase weight. You know I am not a big fan of meds but when you are so thin like I was, it's a last option. Anyhow, just try not to let it get to you...I know it is harder than it seems cuz I was there and those comments hurt because you feel like you can't help it but you know what..it WILL get better. And being gluten free for a while did help me gain weight back too. Just hang in there

PS...I don't think your weight seems that bad to me..that is actually a pretty good weight for your size if you ask me. Maybe they are just jealous ;)

dally099 Contributor

hi niki, im 5'4" and 108lbs, at the height of skinniness due to the celiac i was 95lbs so i would say that you are very healthy. r there any groups in your area for celiacs to go to for support with some kids your own age maybe? i only hope with time that your friends will change there attitude and remember your not in high school forever!

kbtoyssni Contributor

I think most would be genuinely concerned about your health. It's an awkward and sensitive topic to bring up. I would reply something along the lines of "no, but I do have other serious medical conditions that affect my weight, and I am conscious of (or working towards) my health".

For the people who are joking around - that makes me mad. You don't joke about a serious mental illness. Do they think making fun of you would help things if you were anorexic???

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