I'm just reading this thread now, and wanted to add my 2 cents worth.
It seems to me like your boyfriend might be having some issues other than just wanting to avoid getting glutened, and that you should sit down together and talk about it openly. Is he really just afraid of getting sick, or is he avoiding going out for other reasons? I know I'm definitely guilty of using "I can't eat anything" as an excuse to just stay home and be anti-social.
Also, is he feeling ok otherwise? If he's still not doing well it could be that he has another intolerance (dairy, soy, etc) that should be dealt with. Maybe he is still recovering from gluten damage (which can take many months), maybe a vitamin deficiency. But you know, it's on HIM to take care of his own health. You can be there for him and be supportive and eat gluten free and make sure the house is safe, but he has to take responsibility for his own health (physical and mental) and you should not feel like you are contributing to his condition, or making things worse. (someone mentioned that he might have slacked off when you stared going out, but that would have been HIS decision, not yours).
Being Celiac is tough. Eating out is tough. Accommodating other people can be tough, but we educate ourselves and do whatever we can. I will not let fear or getting sick stop me from doing what I want, even if it means bringing my own food.
What I really wanted to tell you, though, that even though he might be afraid to do things, you don't have to restrict yourself because of it. If you want to go do something, do it. If he really doesn't want to, do it on your own. Go out with your friends, go eat foods you like (as long as you brush your teeth before any kisses all should be fine), go do the things you want to do. Try your best to spend time together, and go out and do things when you can. (Go for a walk, take a picnic, etc etc). Just don't feel like his restrictions should restrict what you want to do.
The fact that you want to help him stay healthy is great, and its obvious you really want to make this relationship work, but you can't make someone else do what they aren't willing to. So, yeah, its difficult, and frustrating, but don't let it restrict you. Encourage him to educate himself more, look into any other problems, and to honest with himself and with you.
I wish you much luck.
~ Be a light unto yourself. ~ - The Buddha
- Gluten-free since March 2009 (not officially diagnosed, but most likely Celiac). Symptoms have greatly improved or disappeared since.
- Soy intolerant. Dairy free (likely casein intolerant). Problems with eggs, quinoa, brown rice
- mild gastritis seen on endoscopy Oct 2012. Not sure if healed or not.
- Family members with Celiac: Mother, sister, aunt on mother's side, aunt and uncle on father's side, more being diagnosed every year.