Upset About What Colleauge Did To Me!

[jkmunchkin]

Hey Penguin!

i actually told my boss who is my good friend...also weird. i sort of work in a weird place and she thought it was mean but didnt really say anything. my fianccee is so upset and wants me to go to the director but i feel like i should confront her directly.

hope you are doing better than me! also we are getting oru dog tommorow so that should cheer me up!

I definately feel you should say something to them. I mean what the heck is wrong with people?!!!! What part of that is funny. Tell her if she thinks it's so funny that you would love to show her just how funny it is and cough all over her and leave your snotty, infected tissues all over her personal things!!

This is really just one of the rudest, dumbest things I've ever heard. It's as if they are 5 years old and don't have a brain between them! Sorry, I'm just really mad for you and feel bad that you're sick because of these losers.

[gfp]

First off the only weird thing from my perspective is involving the child!

That though is said in the context of I don't think many things like this are FUNNY....

Stag parties? Hen nights? need I go on?

I can understand you not wanting to make a huge fuss and equally understand why you are so upset.

Perhaps working with children is rubbing off on them?

I'd really suggest talking to them. Make a cup of tea or similar for them and go over Explain its not funny and you do not appreciate it and involving the child was professional misconduct and if they were not friends you would have no hesitiation going to the supervisor.

After they understand or not take out a bottle of laxative with a few removed and tell them they just drank enough to have them on the loo all day.

Let this sink in... let a bit of pschology make them start to feel the effects and then say how this isn't funny is it? but luckily you were not immature and stupid enough to put laxatives in their tea!

maybe this will diffuse the situation without recriminations, get them to see the point and apologise!

[jesscarmel]

I can not believe that someone like that is allowed to work with children. Frankly this person needs to lose their job IMHO. You definately need to let your supervisor know, but I would do it in Wed. after taking 2 days of sick time. I would report directly to the supervisor what made you sick when you call in Monday. Your 'freind' should cover your work for those two days. And go to anything that involves this person on a social level, never in a million years would I ever do that. How could you trust this person. As to the no lock on your door, well I would insist on one before I stepped back in that facility and I would make it very clear why.

I thought about taking a day off but then the kids really suffer so i feel bad. the weekends are hard for them so if i dont see them on monday they get upset

last night i called my boss who happens to be my friend ( she recently becaem the boss) and left her a message saying that i felt i had no choice but to talk to my supervisior and her boss but that i wanted to tel lher first in case she felt like she wanted to tell them. i said because a child was involved ethically i have no choice but to stand up for him and myself. im speaking to my supervisor tommorow and then on monday i geuss we will go together to the boss of the agency..........im so nervous! i hate this.

[Judyin Philly]

I thought about taking a day off but then the kids really suffer so i feel bad. the weekends are hard for them so if i dont see them on monday they get upset

Dear Jess--I'm so proud of you!

I know from the above quote that you are so 'pure of heart' and really care for the children in your care!

I'm so glad you made this phone call today. You've taken the first step. Thank God for answering machines. You can give her the 'polite' heads up for your plans...Remember, your victim here!!!! You didn't ask for this situation that now you have to take action on. Your doing the right thing and hopfully, others will realize that this kind of stupidity will not be tolerated. The child will see (as someone else said) that adults will have consequences for their poor choices too.

This negative experience for you --might have a good 'learning' conclusion for everyone one.

Good luck. I will be thinking of you on Monday. If this person calls you back, I would just not answer the phone and get into a decission with her....enjoy your new puppy and weekend. I know your nervous but when you think of it,,,,go play with the puppy!

Congratulations...glad you felt the foum could be of help to you.

Judy in Philly

[CarlaB]

I'm really upset! today a kid at work came up to me and asked me if i was sick. i said actually i am sick, i have a cold. he said "oh well i did something to your keyboard." the short story is he was in my office wiht this therapist and another therapist and she told him to cough on my keyboard (he was sick) so i would get sick i geuss. when i confronted her about it (she is my friend by the way) she laughed and said they did do that, they thoguht it was funny and then said sorry. i geuss they think its funny becasue i disiinfect my desk and stuff every couple of days becaseu the kids we work wtih have very poor hygiene, i worke in a resdiential facility. anwywas do ppl agree that this is upsetting? or am i overreacting?

Jess

I might be posting prematurely as I have not read the other responses because I couldn't wait to write .... That's a friend??? I would be sure to disinfect everything from now on ... you have people intentionally making you ill. I sure hope your "friend" came over with some gluten-free chicken noodle soup to make up for her lapsed judgment!!

i know my sup would freak out about that, inolving a child in something innapropriate...

You definately need to tell. It's really your obligation to as the "friend" who did this needs to be reprimanded from someone other than you for her poor professional judgment.

For the friend aspect, that's your responsibility to jump down her throat for! But since it involved kids in an inappropriate way, the sup needs to know.

Make a cup of tea or similar for them and go over Explain its not funny and you do not appreciate it and involving the child was professional misconduct and if they were not friends you would have no hesitiation going to the supervisor.

After they understand or not take out a bottle of laxative with a few removed and tell them they just drank enough to have them on the loo all day.

This would also make the point to not expose you to gluten. I have some relatives I might use this one on, only it would be waaaayyy to tempting to use the laxative!!!

[ravenwoodglass]

I thought about taking a day off but then the kids really suffer so i feel bad. the weekends are hard for them so if i dont see them on monday they get upset

I had a feeling you might say that. Our children need more people like you and less like your 'freind'.

I am glad you made that call. It would have been one thing if it was an adult on adult prank but involving the child showed very poor judgement on this person's part. I hope everything goes well.

[gfp]

I had a feeling you might say that. Our children need more people like you and less like your 'freind'.

I am glad you made that call. It would have been one thing if it was an adult on adult prank but involving the child showed very poor judgement on this person's part. I hope everything goes well.

Yeah, I think you made the right decision too. I just provided the alternative as a option but the involvement of the kid is really inexcusable.

[Lymetoo]

Jess, I agree, this is awful on many levels. For therapists to tell a kid to do something that would make somebody sick is inexcusable. It teaches the child that it is okay to play dangerous tricks on people, to keep secrets, to bully others (because it is a form of bullying) and other things I can't think of right now.

I agree...bigtime. I'm a former teacher and that is SOOO unacceptable to TEACH a child to do something WRONG!!! That's CRAZY!!

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what kind of dog??

[Lymetoo]

I can not believe that someone like that is allowed to work with children. Frankly this person needs to lose their job IMHO. You definately need to let your supervisor know, but I would do it on Wed. after taking 2 days of sick time. I would report directly to the supervisor what made you sick when you call in Monday. Your 'freind' should cover your work for those two days.

I think that is a TREMENDOUS idea!

[debmidge]

don't forget to document the date, time and names of individuals involved. You need to put it on paper like a time-line. Include their actions to your desk and describe how it affected you. How your space was violated, your health was attacked and how they used a child in their "prank."

They will either lose their jobs or be disciplined (if you are in a union). You should be protected under your state's "whistleblower" law and additionally this is harrassment on the part of the adults.

Additionally, these adults do not belong in this field as they obviously lack compassion and understanding, so if they are terminated it would be for the best for your organization.

[jesscarmel]

I'm still planning on deal with this situation but im having a breakdown because we got out new puupy yestserday and now she is in the hospital possibly dying. she was vommiting when we picked her up, was told it was car sickness and she got worse through the day and now she is in critical condition. i really cant deal with this.....

[plantime]

{{{hugsJessCarmel}}}

[Lymetoo]

OH my!! That is TERRIBLE!! I'm SOOOO sorry!!!

[jerseyangel]

Oh Jess--That's terrible about your puppy

I'm sorry that you are having to deal with everything all at once. Try and breathe, and not think about tomorrow--just concentrate on getting through today.

Sending a hug to you

[Judyin Philly]

Ah Jess, this is just so sad.

I'm praying for you and your puppy.

Maybe he has Parvo?? sure hope not.

God Bless you sweetie, you sure got 'dumped on this week'

We love ya!!!! Please hang in there.

Judy in Philly

[jesscarmel]

Ah Jess, this is just so sad.

I'm praying for you and your puppy.

Maybe he has Parvo?? sure hope not.

God Bless you sweetie, you sure got 'dumped on this week'

We love ya!!!! Please hang in there.

Judy in Philly

sadly, she may have parvo. i just cant believe this. we got her yesterday and we are just in love with her. she didnt look well but when i called the vet she said she was just scared and it was from the car ride. they told me to give her pedialyte and rice whihc i did. then she just looked dead when she was sleeping and was unresponsive so we took her to the er. we just came back from viisting hours and she looks a bit better. she was walking aroudn teh cage but still very depressed and lethargic. i am praying so hard she lives and we can take her back. we did not expect to pay 2000 dollars for this, so that is a problem as well. thank you for your prayers.....

[CarlaB]

sadly, she may have parvo. i just cant believe this. we got her yesterday and we are just in love with her. she didnt look well but when i called the vet she said she was just scared and it was from the car ride. they told me to give her pedialyte and rice whihc i did. then she just looked dead when she was sleeping and was unresponsive so we took her to the er. we just came back from viisting hours and she looks a bit better. she was walking aroudn teh cage but still very depressed and lethargic. i am praying so hard she lives and we can take her back. we did not expect to pay 2000 dollars for this, so that is a problem as well. thank you for your prayers.....

Where did you get the dog? Seems like they should be responsible for the vet bills!

[Judyin Philly]

DITO CALA B.....HOPE NOT A PET SHOP

jUDY

[cmom]

My mother-in-law got a Yorkie puppy from a breeder once. Within 2 weeks, it went blind, would not eat, and died. She called the breeder who tried to make excuses, etc. but finally had her come and get another puppy for free. The breeder knew, legally, she was responsible.

I should add that the new puppy was healthy and happy and is still with her.

[penguin]

Huge hugs, Jess

[Judyin Philly]

Good Morning Jess

Just checking in to see how your doing today.

Almost afraid to ask about your puppy

Post when you feel up to it ...we all care about how your doing.

hugs

judy

[jesscarmel]

Good Morning Jess

Just checking in to see how your doing today.

Almost afraid to ask about your puppy

Post when you feel up to it ...we all care about how your doing.

hugs

judy

hi judy

thanks for your support. we just had to put her to sleep because she was dying. i am besdie myself with grief. i cant stop crying and i feel like im going to die

[Judyin Philly]

i am besdie myself with grief. i cant stop crying and i feel like im going to die

Dearest Jess

There are no words to take away your pain. "I'm sorry" seems so pathetic..but it's all I can think of.

I pray you took the day off so you can grieve and let the emotions come...You sure do not need to deal with your 'work' situtation today.

Please take care of yourself Jess.

We care so much about how you and "F" are doing. Lean on each other. Please come here to us when you feel the need.

Hugs and love

Judy

[penguin]

hi judy

thanks for your support. we just had to put her to sleep because she was dying. i am besdie myself with grief. i cant stop crying and i feel like im going to die

I am so sorry for your loss

You did the right thing, though, since she was suffering.

[mouse]

I am so sorry about your puppy. I know how quickly you can bond to a pet and the loss is great no matter how short or how long of a time you have had her. I also hope you stayed home from work so that you can grieve. Many Hugs.