WW II Every Night At Dinner
Posted 27 January 2012 - 03:10 PM
She is not only gluten intolerant but also allergic to corn, eggs, peanuts, and others. I can find food that is ok to feed her but I cannot get here to eat it. I have tried letting her pick out her food, cook her food, pribed her to eat her food. Nothing works, I feel like I end up being the bad guy. Fight, fight, fight until we are both in tears. I don't want to be caving and letting her eat nothing but sweets, but also don't want to see her lose anymore weight. I'm horriable at this. I cannot spend every evening of my life like this. Since everything has to be made from scratch to eliminate the egg and corn syrup cooking 3 different things to try to get her to eat is too complicated. I just don't know how to be sure she is getting what her body needs if all she eats is coco pebbles.
She has never been on of those kids that will eat the samething over and over again. (unless it a sweet)
I have even taken her favorite foods and made them gluten and egg free and still she wont eat it. I think it may be my anxity that makes her not eat. Any ideas on how to resolve that?
Posted 27 January 2012 - 03:16 PM
"Children in a family are like flowers in a bouquet: there's always one determined to face in an opposite direction from the way the arranger desires."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Posted 27 January 2012 - 03:36 PM
Posted 27 January 2012 - 03:53 PM
Sometimes too many changes at once are overwhelming and cause revolt. I feel that way sometimes. I've had a boycot of meals a few times recently out of frustration etc. as I have diabetes and 20 food allergies and still becomeing allergic to new foods. I've always liked variety too and get bored with the same old same old, even if I like those foods, but I tire of researching new things and sometimes I don't feel like new things either with my sensitive system-starting to sound a bit like your kiddo? I had a colonoscopy recently and alothough the prep is not fun, it was sort of nice to have a break from food.
I understand your worry about the weight too. Diabetes left me terribly underweight and it has been a long struggle to get it back on and I still have a ways to go but it is quite a challenge with all my restrictions. I feel for you MOM. Wish I had a magic wand. Let us know if we can offer and ideas for meals, foods.
Son: ADHD '06,
neg. CELIAC PANEL 5/07
ALLERGY: "positive" blood and skin tests to wheat, which triggers his eczema '08
ENTEROLAB testing: elevated Fecal Anti-tissue Transglutaminase IgA Dec. '08
other food allergies
Posted 27 January 2012 - 04:18 PM
I really feel for you and hope that you find a way to get through your little ones feeding difficulties.
"I will try again tommorrow" (Mary Anne Radmacher)
celiac 49 years - Misdiagnosed for 45
Blood tested and repeatedly negative
Diagnosed by Allergist with elimination diet and diagnosis confirmed by GI in 2002
Misdiagnoses for 15 years were IBS-D, ataxia, migraines, anxiety, depression, fibromyalgia, parathesias, arthritis, livedo reticularis, hairloss, premature menopause, osteoporosis, kidney damage, diverticulosis, prediabetes and ulcers, dermatitis herpeformis
All bold resoved or went into remission with proper diagnosis of Celiac November 2002
Some residual nerve damage remains as of 2006- this has continued to resolve after eliminating soy in 2007
Mother died of celiac related cancer at 56
Twin brother died as a result of autoimmune liver destruction at age 15
Children 2 with Ulcers, GERD, Depression, , 1 with DH, 1 with severe growth stunting (male adult 5 feet)both finally diagnosed Celiac through blood testing and 1 with endo 6 months after Mom
Positive to Soy and Casien also Aug 2007
Gluten Sensitivity Gene Test Aug 2007
HLA-DQB1 Molecular analysis, Allele 1 0303
HLA-DQB1 Molecular analysis, Allele 2 0303
Serologic equivalent: HLA-DQ 3,3 (Subtype 9,9)
Posted 27 January 2012 - 05:40 PM
Make a list of the things she used to eat, & make or buy a gluten-free version. Try the idea above one spoon of food, one spoon of coco pebbles--eventually two spoons food, 1 pebbles & so on.
Posted 31 January 2012 - 12:48 PM
I had to just put the food down and stop nagging. It seems to work. However, I know how stressful it is and there is some great advice on this thread.
Google ideas for food for toddlers or 4 year olds. I bet a bunch of it is gluten free naturally.
I hope it gets better soon.
Posted 31 January 2012 - 01:59 PM
This link has some info on it
If it sounds like your daughter it might help to get her into occupational therapy, because they might be able to help
Posted 31 January 2012 - 02:53 PM
He has always preferred snacking in between meals . . . and never eats a whole lot during a meal. When I've tried to cut out the snacking, it does NOT increase his mealtime consumption. Believe me, I've counted the calories. So, I just go with it. I get more calories in him if I let him graze. I just put stipulations on the foods he has during grazing . . . cheese sticks, peanut butter crackers, applesauce, bagels and he's got to be at the table because I don't want food all over the house. And nothing the hour before a meal.
I know your daughter can't have all the items that I mentioned, but could you leave her an item or two on the table that she could help herself to when she feels like eating and when you're not at the table with her overseeing her food consumption. (I really would enforce the "gotta eat at the table" rule, though).
Just a suggestion. It doesn't work for all kids. If I let my daughter do that, she wouldn't eat her meal at all.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.
Posted 31 January 2012 - 04:56 PM
Someone else suggested this, but if it doesn't get better then OT or a behavior therapist might be able to help.
Posted 31 January 2012 - 07:57 PM
Blood work was >139 (normal <20)
Symptoms: Weightloss, tired, chronic constipation, white stool, NO appetite, failure to THRIVE.
Problems started 1 week before his 2nd Birthday when he first got sick with CROUP.
He is now on GLUTEN FREE diet and gaining weight, has energy, no constipation and THRIVING!
Posted 31 January 2012 - 08:05 PM
One rule I always had was that my daughter had to take a taste of everything on her plate. I might give her new foods. But I would never give her a food that I knew that she hated. Luckily for me she has always been one to give foods a second or third chance. Some months or even years will go by and she will ask to try the food again.
Perhaps you could try giving her a small plate of assorted foods that would lead to a balanaced diet. I have often read/heard that one mistake parents often make is giving the child too much food. At that age they really only need a couple of bites of each thing. Then tell her if she eats that she can have a small bowl of cereal.
My mother never understood why I did this with my daughter. In her case it was if she cleaned her plate she could have dessert. My reasoning was that if she ate that food, she would be full and then not want dessert. And it worked. She never had room for the dessert.
Are there any vitamins she can take? My daughter learned to swallow pills at an early age so that wasn't a problem. Getting her to take them was. And still is at age 13. She went through a phase of hiding the pills.
Posted 01 February 2012 - 05:44 AM
Posted 01 February 2012 - 10:23 AM
My elder daughter was also very picky. With hindsight she was a natural paleo diet person, eating large amounts of vegetables, especially raw vegetables/salad sticks, tuna and some meat, and hating carbs. In ignorance I didn't give her much in the way of fat, so she was always very small and slim. When she went to school her teacher thought I was an awful mother because she would happily take in a raw carrot for her snack, where all the other kids had crisps or biscuits in their snack boxes. She had to have a packed lunch from me or she would completely refuse the food served by the school. Once she hit puberty she discovered crisps and biscuits, plus pasta, bread and potatoes to some extent too, so she grew well over a foot in a very short space of time and filled out. She now looks like a normal 15 year old, albeit still a bit shorter than average. She is still a devil to feed though.
Be patient, and calm, and you will both get through it. At least you know what your child's problem is. Mine is almost certainly gluten intolerant to some degree (we know she is lactose intolerant and allergic to chocolate), but has stated she doesn't want to have to give up the gluten goodies, and she is now too old to have it forced on her.
Best of luck!
Posted 01 February 2012 - 11:04 AM
Also, 4 year olds are all about independence (I have one). Try letting her serve her own food onto their plate, put a big bowl of what it is in the middle of the table and have everyone serve themselves, they have proven picky kids will eat more this way because they are in control.
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