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Kissing Reaction

CR5442

By CR5442
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CR5442 Contributor
CR5442
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Crazy question I know but does anybody here think that they have a reaction from kissing their partner when they have eaten gluten?  How long do you leave and what do you do to deal with this threat?

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dilettantesteph Collaborator
dilettantesteph
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Yes, I think I have.  Tooth brushing should help.  If you are extremely sensitive, you may want you partner to be gluten free.  My daughter's boyfriend did that.  He's a really sweet guy.  He's more careful than my husband was.

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Pegleg84
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I can't say for sure that I have or not, but I've been pretty careful. If we're out for dinner or a beer or something, its no kisses until teeth are brushed. If he had some several hours before (assuming lips are pretty clean by then), then a little peck seems to be ok. No making out until guaranteed clean, though. So far so good, as far as I can tell.

It's a precaution, but a necessary one, and one your partner has to be willing to comply with and let you know when they've been eating/drinking gluteny things. I would never make my partner go completely gluten free (outside my house, at least), just like he doesn't expect me to become a vegetarian, but most nights together I cook and he brings wine, so it works out.

notme Experienced
notme
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i did in the beginning (i could not believe it!) and it set me back.  since then, if we are home, he eats mostly gluten free.  he likes his beer, though, so he has to brush up.  (i even bought those little 'wisp' disposable toothbrushes)  easy enough and no worries :)

 

just in case it was my 'magination, i would like to test it out again, but i am chicken.  i don't think he will do it, anyway, just in case......

CR5442 Contributor
CR5442
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Phew, I am so relieved!  I thought it was all in my head.  I always felt slightly under par when my boyfriend was round.  We aren't seeing each other any more, but it will explain why I just wasn't quite right.  He got fed up of the rules for gluten free etc!  Nice.  Guess it's better to find out now than later huh?!

CR5442 Contributor
CR5442
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Three days after he went I had lost all the puffiness and off colouredness that I had developed... Same as when I eat say dairy, I put on two pounds of water!

notme Experienced
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it's kind of a dealbreaker, right??!!  i'm glad you're not wasting your time on somebody who doesn't care if they are making you ill  :) 

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CR5442 Contributor
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Yeap, too right!

dilettantesteph Collaborator
dilettantesteph
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This condition does let you know which people in your life care more about their own stomachs than your health.

 

My daughter did not ask her boyfriend to go gluten free.  He did it on his own when he found out how sensitive she was.  That was before they even kissed.  He seems like a really caring individual.

Pegleg84 Collaborator
Pegleg84
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Well, that wasn't going to work out, then. If your (potential) significant other can't deal with your life-long condition, then screw that.

 

When you find the right guy, he'll be willing to bend-over backwards to keep you from getting sick, which really just means keeping a toothbrush around and not bringing bread into the house. And never feel that telling someone about your situation from the get-go will turn them off or something, because if they aren't willing to compromise from the beginning, then it's not worth the bother.

 

Glad to hear you're feeling better!

cap6 Enthusiast
cap6
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It takes both partners to work on this issue!  No beer or gluten kisses.  A kiss is ok but a KISS is not!!!!!

CR5442 Contributor
CR5442
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I think I stupidly really didn't pay much attention to this and then wondered, whenever he was round, why I felt worse!  I did actually say to him that I thought I was allergic to him... he wasn't impressed but I don't think the message sank in for either of us.  In future I will be stating my condition up front and hopefully that will sort the wheat (haha! pardon the pun) from the Chaff - It's an english saying!!

GuyC Newbie
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This thread made me smile. My wife is great but she enjoys her gluten. I'm a very sensitive celiac with quick intensive neuropathy if poisoned. When it's time for bed, I know things might go my way if she brushes her teeth. If no teeth brushing, oh well...

Nikki2777 Community Regular
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I'm pretty sure I got glutened by kissing my husband after he ate a roll one day.  He's careful now to wipe his mouth off before kissing me, but I do worry about what lurks in his beard!

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WinterSong Community Regular
WinterSong
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My ex was terrible about this. He hated the fact that I had Celiac Disease and called me paranoid when I told him that he shouldn't french kiss me after eating Frosted Flakes. He had the worst attitude, and it got to the point that I was afraid to say the word "gluten" around him for fear of him getting angry. I'm glad he reacted that way because it showed me what kind of person he really was (he was very selfish about other things, too) and what a future together would be like. We had dated for almost three years, and I'm so glad I didn't marry him. The fact is that if someone can't support you now when it's easy, they would never be able to support you if you developed a secondary condition associated with long term complications of Celiac. 

 

My current boyfriend realized on his own that he needed to brush his teeth (I got a smart one!). So he either brushes or eats gluten-free with me when we're out. He also bought a separate pan and cooking utensil for his place, and he watches out for CC whenever we're out. He's the sweetest, and I'm incredibly grateful to have met such an empathetic man. Forgive me, but I can't stop bragging about him!  :D

 

Advice from my doctor - "If he can't do something as easy as brush his teeth so that you don't get sick....it's time to start looking for another boyfriend..."

dilettantesteph Collaborator
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My ex was terrible about this. He hated the fact that I had Celiac Disease and called me paranoid when I told him that he shouldn't french kiss me after eating Frosted Flakes. He had the worst attitude, and it got to the point that I was afraid to say the word "gluten" around him for fear of him getting angry. I'm glad he reacted that way because it showed me what kind of person he really was (he was very selfish about other things, too) and what a future together would be like. We had dated for almost three years, and I'm so glad I didn't marry him. The fact is that if someone can't support you now when it's easy, they would never be able to support you if you developed a secondary condition associated with long term complications of Celiac. 

 

My current boyfriend realized on his own that he needed to brush his teeth (I got a smart one!). So he either brushes or eats gluten-free with me when we're out. He also bought a separate pan and cooking utensil for his place, and he watches out for CC whenever we're out. He's the sweetest, and I'm incredibly grateful to have met such an empathetic man. Forgive me, but I can't stop bragging about him!  :D

 

Advice from my doctor - "If he can't do something as easy as brush his teeth so that you don't get sick....it's time to start looking for another boyfriend..."

 

You are so right about all of this.  It is when you are facing adversity together that you get a real measure of a person.  Good for you to not settle for someone who was not a good person for you.  A person who is not willing to take measures to keep you from being sick is not a person with whom it is worth spending a life together.

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