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SwimmingUpstream Newbie

Today at work one of the bosses brought in 5 boxes of doughnuts and leaves them one the coffee/snack table for everyone. How nice!

Then at lunch, orders lunch for everyone, Subs! How thoughtful!


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kareng Grand Master

Today at work one of the bosses brought in 5 boxes of doughnuts and leaves them one the coffee/snack table for everyone. How nice!

Then at lunch, orders lunch for everyone, Subs! How thoughtful!

Think of all that cholesterol & nitrates as little monsters entering thier bloodstream & piling up in big piles in thier veins & landing on thier hips. Of course you will feel obligated to perform CPR if required because you are a good person. ;)

AlysounRI Contributor

If it helps you to imagine little biohazard symbols over the doughnuts then do it.

People often bring in food to my workplace and that's how I cope.

Would you willingly ingest poison and it is very much poison to your body?

Can you keep gluten-free treats at work for moments like this?

We have a bagel and coffee thing a few times a month.

I keep a bag of gluten-free bagels in the fridge at home and when I know that we are going to have one of those, I bring one in for myself.

It's poison to you, though.

So just keep that in mind?

Hope that helps.

~Allison

Ahorsesoul Enthusiast

So bring in your own gluten free treats.

bridgetm Enthusiast

Someone was making fun of my Bumblebar snack the other day, told everyone I like eating bird seed. I put up with it without a comeback until I saw the sodas and candy bars everyone else was eating for a mid-afternoon snack...

"Yes, I eat bird seed. You're eating poison. Care to rethink your position?" I've never seen so many people reading nutritional labels at one time B):lol::rolleyes:

Welda Johnson Newbie

Good strategies for success!

Roda Rising Star

People that work on my shift tend to think I eat weird stuff. The staff from the other dept is slowly coming around to want to try my stuff, only because the registration clerk's husband was diagnosed celiac recently and the other one just likes to eat well. My dept. coworkers all want to try what I have made and most ask for it. One lady is now really restricting the wheat (don't know about all gluten) just because. When I went to our dept. Christmas party they wanted to know if there were things they could get for me to eat for future reference. The only thing I ate there was the cake I had taken. I didn't feel bad about it. The hospital also does a birthday lunch once a month for the employees. Sadly I had to decline, but life goes on. The good thing is that I work nights, so I have to bring something to eat anyways and usually there is noone there to watch eat other stuff. We will do a meal that a bunch of depts go in together on but I don't sweat it. Most of the time they don't even ask me if I want to participate, which sucks, because the invite would still be nice and when I do know about it I will usually bring something in to share even if I don't eat anything else.


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Ahorsesoul Enthusiast

I must eat weird because no one can tell I'm eating gluten free. My stuff looks like real food. lol

SwimmingUpstream Newbie

Well, of course I am not even tempted to eat any of the gluten stuff. It's just hard to have to be around it and so much in one day. Everyone here that knows is very understanding and never make fun or give me a hard time at all. Actually, when I heat up my Amy's frozen Indian Food lunches, it makes them all hungry because it smells so good. It's just depressing sometimes, because I really liked Sub sandwiches when I could eat them, and I was never really highly reactive to gluten. I'm not saying anyone is doing anything wrong, just having my own little pity party.

Reba32 Rookie

Think of all that cholesterol & nitrates as little monsters entering thier bloodstream & piling up in big piles in thier veins & landing on thier hips. Of course you will feel obligated to perform CPR if required because you are a good person. ;)

but we wouldn't be able to do mouth-to-mouth because they're all contaminated. ;)

StacyA Enthusiast

Today at work one of the bosses brought in 5 boxes of doughnuts and leaves them one the coffee/snack table for everyone. How nice!

Then at lunch, orders lunch for everyone, Subs! How thoughtful!

You're definately allowed to have pity parties every once in a while. This diet is sooo good for us, but it also stinks a lot at times. It's okay to let yourself feel bad for a few minutes, then pick a mantra that works for you. There's an African mantro 'So be it'. I have celiac's disease, but there's nothing I can do to undo the fact I have it, so be it. Other people can eat gluten, and they're going to, so be it.

Roda Rising Star

I must eat weird because no one can tell I'm eating gluten free. My stuff looks like real food. lol

Mostly what they think is weird is my baked goods and when I eat quinoa. Otherwise everything else is pretty straight forward. The only reason they give weird faces is because they "know" my stuff is gluten free. Like that makes it taste terrible or something. :huh: People are funny when it comes to change, I try to be open minded but I have to admit that I have done similar things too. :P

Mskedi Newbie

but we wouldn't be able to do mouth-to-mouth because they're all contaminated. ;)

:lol:

Oh man, I'm laughing way too much at this one!

Mack the Knife Explorer

Pity parties are fun. I throw myself an elaborate pity party once in a while. It usually involves chocolate or cake. I always feel much better afterwards.

If you are going to have a pity party then make sure you do it properly. Break out the streamers and balloons!

sandsurfgirl Collaborator

Happy pity party! LOL

It sucks to watch people just enjoy food without a care. But then you realize that since so many are undiagnosed and they think it's 1 in 100 that have celiac or gluten intolerance, then most likely there are some people scarfing down the donuts and having D or gas afterwards secretly.

Nor-TX Enthusiast

I've been having the same party for the last few days because I feel so awful. Yesterday at lunch while I was eating a half of a toasted Udi bagel with dairy free margarine and a handful of glutino pretzels, the other two ladies I eat with were having Sonic burgers, tater tots, onion rings and chili, along with 2 Sonic blasts.

Needless to say my pita party was in full swing for the rest of the day.

So be it....

Jestgar Rising Star

the other two ladies I eat with were having Sonic burgers, tater tots, onion rings and chili, along with 2 Sonic blasts.

followed by heartburn, stinky onion farts, tighter belts, smaller arteries, bad skin....

masterjen Explorer

I'm far too aware of the consequences of eating gluten, so I m not even tempted to eat any of the gluten-containing treats and "comfort foods" that I used to eat. However, that is not to say I don't have those sorrowful moments of "oh, I guess I'm never going to be able to eat that again" when I'm reminded of something I really like. Just this week alone, I was shopping with my brother, and he brought himself a couple of boxes of Alpen cereal (an expensive treat I used to buy on occasion), talked to my mom the other night and when I asked what she had for dinner she said she didn't feel like cooking so had an A & W teenburger (another occasional treat for me), and my friends went to Boston Pizza without me last night for dinner and had our all time favourite: perogie pizza!! {sigh :( }

SwimmingUpstream Newbie

Okay, more pity please. I am a Receptionist/Accounting Assistant and I sit at the front desk. Our owner/managers keep filling the candy bowl which sits, guess where, two feet in front of me. A lot of the candy is gluten free, but after gaining 50 pounds since being diagnosed 1 1/2 years ago, candy is really not what I need. I know that I am not the only one here and that the candy is not good for me anyway, or anyone, but it's right in front of me and I can smell it! I keep my mouth shut for the most part, except for exclaiming 'oh no' everytime they walk in with another bag of little candy bars for the dish. I am usually good, almost always, but when I break down its like opening the flood gates. I try on diffent attitudes, like, they are the enemy and I am not giving in, this is battle! It usually works...they just came back from Sam's with a fresh load for the bowl and the snack box. I must be strong, I will take nothing!

jackay Enthusiast

Happy pity party! LOL

It sucks to watch people just enjoy food without a care. But then you realize that since so many are undiagnosed and they think it's 1 in 100 that have celiac or gluten intolerance, then most likely there are some people scarfing down the donuts and having D or gas afterwards secretly.

There are so many unhealthy people in my life and they continue to chow down on junk food. I am finally getting my health back and it is a wonderful thing. Yes, I miss the junk food. Would I choose that over feeling good? NO WAY!!!!!

Actually, I do hope that at some point I can add a few gluten-free treats (junk food) to my diet. If they don't work out, I'll stay away from them.

jenngolightly Contributor

Okay, more pity please. I am a Receptionist/Accounting Assistant and I sit at the front desk. Our owner/managers keep filling the candy bowl which sits, guess where, two feet in front of me. A lot of the candy is gluten free, but after gaining 50 pounds since being diagnosed 1 1/2 years ago, candy is really not what I need. I know that I am not the only one here and that the candy is not good for me anyway, or anyone, but it's right in front of me and I can smell it! I keep my mouth shut for the most part, except for exclaiming 'oh no' everytime they walk in with another bag of little candy bars for the dish. I am usually good, almost always, but when I break down its like opening the flood gates. I try on diffent attitudes, like, they are the enemy and I am not giving in, this is battle! It usually works...they just came back from Sam's with a fresh load for the bowl and the snack box. I must be strong, I will take nothing!

I think this is intolerable and needs to be addressed. I don't think people are intentionally mean, so I think that your boss is not being insensitive on purpose and might be happy if you told her the problem with the candy bowl. It's important to be assertive. A few options - 1) Can you do away with the bowl? Not all businesses do this ritual, 2) Can the candy be replaced by something else? Gluten-free, sugar-free gum? However, personally I think gum chewing is disgusting, 3) Is there another location in the reception area for the candy?

Approach her from the medical standpoint - you have an autoimmune disease and although you do not cheat on your diet, you are very tempted when it is near you and makes you feel deprived and upset that you can't eat it. If you did, you'd get very sick - blah blah blah. You very much appreciates that she takes care of her employees and customers, but can she alter this tradition a little bit so it isn't so tempting for you.

I worked at a place once that had a candy bowl. We all gained 10 pounds because the boss filled it up every day. It's not just bad for us celiacs. Maybe everyone will be glad you asked your boss to get rid of it.

SwimmingUpstream Newbie

Since they kind of expect me to actually fill the bowl with the bags from the store, I'm just ignoring the bags in the closet until someone actually tells me to do it. (Passive aggresive is one of my strongest traits) Then I think I will move to bowl to the small table in the entry area betweeen the 2 chairs for guests. Of course all the candy is gluten free, m&m's, 3 muskateers, snickers, starbursts and skittles. all my favorites.

gefen Newbie

Happy pity party! LOL

It sucks to watch people just enjoy food without a care. But then you realize that since so many are undiagnosed and they think it's 1 in 100 that have celiac or gluten intolerance, then most likely there are some people scarfing down the donuts and having D or gas afterwards secretly.

My boss did a very nice thing he knows that i am gluten free so he went in bought Katz Gluten free rugelech Choclate and cinnamon for everybody not only for me and the people there said "if this is Gluten free we are all in" my boss likes it as well and he said that its cheap for a specialty item so that way i wasnt left out of the picture

K8ling Enthusiast

Luckily, I ate really healthy before I was diagnosed with my allergy but now I am craving Tater Tots, and S'mores. I think it's because I can't have them. Same with Cinnamon Buns, but I am working on a solution for that right now :P.

*Daniella* Apprentice

I know about pity parties! I'm in the Air Force and I was away at a military school for six weeks. My classmates and I went to Gatlinburg TN for a weekend. They decided to hit up a pancake restaurant for Easter Sunday breakfast. The only thing the restaurant had gluten free was bananas and coffee. I sat through two hours of torture while my classmates feasted on pancakes, whipcream, crepes, syrup etc...I just wanted to cry but instead I sucked it up and drank a ton of coffee. Yep, I know how you feel.

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